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Brave New World

• L’Indonésie toujours en proie aux incendies, les pays voisins impactés (rfi.fr)
  

  En Indonésie, le président Prabowo Subianto ordonne la mobilisation de moyens supplémentaires pour lutter contre les gigantesques incendies qui ravagent le pays. Les fumées toxiques touchent depuis plusieurs semaines les pays voisins et la colère monte face à la gestion de cette crise par Jakarta.

• Two Singapore-listed palm oil firms named in Greenpeace report on Indonesian plantation fires (straitstimes.com)
• Russie : arrestation du rédacteur en chef du média indépendant « Novaïa Gazeta » (rfi.fr)
  

  Le rédacteur en chef du média indépendant russe Novaïa Gazeta a été arrêté après une perquisition à son domicile, a annoncé jeudi 15 octobre le journal classé par les autorités russes « agent de l’étranger ».

• Trump en rajoute une couche contre Zelensky qu’il « n’aime pas trop », et encense Poutine (huffingtonpost.fr)
  

  Le président américain a qualifié de « honte » la décision de son homologue ukrainien de reprendre les frappes sur les raffineries russes, affirmant qu’il préférait « travailler » avec Vladimir Poutine.

• Ukraine : partage de renseignements, Starlink… à quoi jouent les États-Unis ? (rfi.fr)
  

  Pour la deuxième nuit consécutive, des missiles ont frappé l’Ukraine sans que la population ait pu être alertée à l’avance. Volodymyr Zelensky met en cause ses alliés américains, accusés de ne pas avoir partagé leurs renseignements. En parallèle, une réduction des opérations de Starlink, le réseau satellitaire d’Elon Musk, pourrait compliquer les opérations militaires ukrainiennes.

• L’Ukraine privée de connexion au réseau Starlink : « Ce sera très difficile de tenir » (rfi.fr)
  

  L’Ukraine a accusé les États-Unis de restreindre son accès à la technologie satellitaire Starlink de SpaceX et le partage de renseignements. Les restrictions observées entravent une grande partie de l’action des drones aériens, clé dans la guerre contre la Russie. Elon Musk dit que le ralentissement du réseau militaire Starshield est dû au gouvernement étatsunien, et non à son entreprise

• Did Ukrainian strikes on Russian datacentres reduce online disinformation ? (theguardian.com)
  

  While some viral online graphs suggest less bot activity, Zelenskyy’s claims of improved social media discourse do not entirely pass muster

• Amsterdam police seize server belonging to leftist internet service provider A/I at US request (keepitfree.ai)
  

  On Tuesday, a unit of the Amsterdam police seized a server belonging to the Italian internet service provider Autistici/Inventati (A/I) at a data center in Amsterdam’s Science Park. The seizure was carried out pursuant to a US request for legal assistance. A copy of the server’s contents is now being sent to the US.

• « Ce serait une régression terrible » : des élus PCF de Paris alertent sur la proposition d’« Affordable Housing Act » de la commission européenne. (humanite.fr)
  

  « Bruxelles envoie un message clair : l’encadrement des meublés touristiques, c’est fini ! Avec à la clé un « open bar » pour Airbnb et la spéculation » […] Cette initiative législative de la Commission intervient alors que l’Espagne connaît une mobilisation d’ampleur sur la question du logement

• Arnaques en ligne : les banques devront désormais rembourser les victimes, même en cas de négligence grave (01net.com)
  

  La Cour de justice de l’Union européenne impose désormais aux banques européennes de rembourser les paiements non autorisés, même en cas de négligence grave de la part du client.

• Violents affrontements dans les rues de plusieurs villes italiennes (rts.ch)
  

  À l’instar de la France, des dizaines de milliers de personnes ont manifesté samedi en Italie dans plusieurs villes. Des rassemblements qui ont également dégénéré en affrontements violents entre émeutiers et forces de l’ordre, avec des scènes de pillage et d’incendies, notamment à Milan et Turin.

• Refoulement des migrant·es vers la Libye : les chiffres secrets de Frontex (revue21.fr)
• Save Europe Act : enquête sur les réseaux et les entreprises derrière la campagne de l’extrême droite pour la « remigration » (multinationales.org)
  

  Avec le « Save Europe Act », l’extrême droite mène campagne pour imposer dans le public l’idée d’une expulsion de masse, ou « remigration » des étrangers présents sur le vieux continent. Une conférence sur le sujet est prévue à Paris ce 31 octobre prochain.

• Maroc : un système inédit de surveillance de voix dissidentes révélé par Amnesty (rfi.fr)
  

  Après des années d’enquête, Amnesty sort un rapport inédit sur le fonctionnement du système de surveillance marocain pour réprimer des militant·es de la liberté d’expression et des journalistes.[…]La liste des outils utilisés par les autorités est longue, avec des techniques anciennes mais aussi de nouveaux moyens ultra-sophistiqués ) : infection physique des appareils, attaques « un clic » (l’utilisateur clique une seule fois sur un lien ou message) ou « zéro clic » (sans aucune action de l’utilisateur), mais aussi des attaques par injection réseau, signifiant pour ces dernières l’implication de l’opérateur public Maroc Telecom. Les renseignements marocains infectent aussi de nombreux cybercafés de logiciels espions (Remote Control System permet de suivre les appels, lire les messages, accéder aux photos, enregistrer le son), ils utilisent également des vendeurs de boutiques téléphoniques avec qui ils sont de mèche pour vendre des appareils dans lesquels des logiciels espions ont déjà été introduits. La DGST fait par ailleurs appel à des membres du voisinage des victimes qui deviennent dès lors des informateurs.

• Face à l’appétit de Donald Trump, le Groenland fait un pas vers l’interdiction de l’exploitation minière en eaux profondes (humanite.fr)
  

  Deux jours après l’annonce par Donald Trump d’une « exploration pétrolière, gazière et minière massive (qui) s’apprête à commencer », le Parlement du Groenland a adopté jeudi 15 octobre à l’unanimité une proposition demandant au gouvernement d’élaborer une loi interdisant l’exploitation minière et l’exploration en eaux profondes jusqu’à fin 2029.

• Réseaux électriques saturés : la Linux Foundation lance OpenGrid (goodtech.info)
  

  2500 gigawatts de projets solaires, éoliens et de stockage patientent actuellement dans des files d’attente interminables à travers la planète, faute de pouvoir se raccorder à des réseaux électriques saturés. Face à l’explosion de la demande portée par l’électrification et les centres de données d’intelligence artificielle, les opérateurs se heurtent à un mur invisible : des logiciels de planification fragmentés, des formats de fichiers fermés et des licences propriétaires hors de prix. Pour enrayer cette paralysie industrielle avant 2030, l’écosystème du logiciel libre décide d’appliquer ses méthodes ouvertes aux infrastructures de haute tension.

• Pour (tenter de) sauver les républicains aux midterms, Elon Musk dépense une fortune (huffingtonpost.fr)
  

  En l’espace de trois mois, l’homme le plus riche du monde a dépensé plus de 276 millions de dollars pour mobiliser l’électorat américain.

• Pour financer la santé publique, la Californie propose de taxer les milliardaires (humanite.fr)
  

  Pour financer la santé publique, les Californien·nes vont voter en novembre un référendum visant à taxer les plus riches.

• Personal Data for Millions of California Students Stolen in Massive Breach (news.slashdot.org)
• Woman arrested after blocking delivery robot in Philadelphia confrontation (abc13.com)
  

  “I think it’s my First Amendment right to publicly demonstrate on a sidewalk to protest against delivery robots.”Marvin said she hopes the viral incident encourages discussion about delivery robots, artificial intelligence and their growing role in everyday life.

• Flock CEO defends surveillance technology amid national backlash : ‘We shouldn’t pause progress’ (techcrunch.com)
• Aux États-Unis, trois enfants et un professeur sont morts dans une fusillade dans une école primaire (huffingtonpost.fr)
  

  Les enfants étaient âgés de « cinq, huit et onze ans », alors que le tireur était lui-même seulement âgé de 16 ans. Il a été abattu par un habitant qui l’avait vu entrer dans l’établissement.

• Colombie : des milliers de manifestant·es défilent contre le nouveau gouvernement d’extrême droite (rfi.fr)
• Brésil : en plein entre-deux tours, le Parlement approuve la réduction du temps de travail (rfi.fr)
  

  Le chef d’Etat sortant mise sur cette réforme constitutionnelle pour combler son retard sur le sénateur Flavio Bolsonaro en vue du second tour prévu le 25 octobre. Cette réforme va permettre à de nombreux·ses Brésilien·nes de bénéficier de deux jours de repos dans la semaine contre un seul actuellement, et de réduire de 44 à 40 le nombre d’heures de travail par semaine.

• Paraguay : inondations sous l’effet d’El Niño, un millier de familles évacuées (france24.com)
• Le microbiote humain a passablement évolué depuis l’Antiquité et ce n’est pas une bonne nouvelle (slate.fr/)
  

  Des centaines de bactéries qui peuplaient les intestins de nos ancêtres sont désormais de plus en plus rares. Ce changement aurait des répercussions sur notre système immunitaire, en particulier dans les pays industrialisés.

Spécial IA

• America’s AI ambitions threaten Indigenous lands in the Philippines (grist.org)
  

  Indigenous Aeta communities are fighting to protect their lands from a sprawling tech hub that critics warn could strain wate and energy supplies.

• Finlande : les travaux de deux centres de données de Google suspendus pour défaut d’études environnementales (rfi.fr)
  

  Ces projets s’inscrivent dans un investissement de 13 milliards d’euros, le plus important investissement unique du groupe américain en Europe dans le domaine de l’intelligence artificielle (IA). Les autorités finlandaises reprochent à l’entreprise d’avoir lancé les chantiers avant l’achèvement d’études obligatoires sur leur impact environnemental.

  

• Doctolib : Nvidia va entrer au capital en tant qu’actionnaire minoritaire pour « lancer la révolution de l’IA en Europe » (lemonde.fr)
  

  L’entreprise américaine a investi au moins 8 milliards de dollars en Europe l’année dernière, a précisé son patron, Jensen Huang, affirmant avoir également investi dans les entreprises d’IA françaises Genesis IA et Pigment.

• The AI Photoshop clones : interface mockups that don’t work (pivot-to-ai.com)
  

  Artcraft has also made vibe-coded Microsoft Office clones ! For you to trust your actual work to. Like you couldn’t just download LibreOffice, which is now using “no AI” as a marketing point.

• Linus calls banning AI-generated code “utterly stupid” as Linux submissions no longer need LLM disclosure (xda-developers.com) – voir aussi Linux Maintainers Can Now Submit AI-Generated Code Without Declaring It (linux.slashdot.org)
• Linux kernel goes full AI slop code, hides chatbot commits (pivot-to-ai.com)
  

  It’s hard to know what to do in the meantime. If you just want off Windows, then Linux is still less bad and isn’t advertising at you in the start menu.Forking Linux is not easy. It’s not just copying the code, it’s building institutions to keep it maintained. Anyone who says “just fork it” is talking in bad faith.[…] I suggest the social action : shame. Shame these people. Their actions are shameful. AI bros hate being shamed and they try to make rules against shaming — because shame works […]The cheap chatbots are going away and the vendors will stop releasing open-weight local models as loss leaders. Can the Linux Foundation afford to run local models for its developers ? Good luck to them.

• NetBSD may have found a new role : The AI-free FOSS OS (theregister.com)
  

  Increasing awareness and adoption, followed by increasing donations

• IA : pourquoi il faut lui parler poliment (rfi.fr)
  

  Insulter Claude AI pourrait bientôt coûter cher : son concepteur, Anthropic, interdit à partir du 12 novembre la « cruauté gratuite et répétée » envers son IA.

• Quand l’IA disparaît, les résultats s’effondrent : ce que révèle une étude sur ChatGPT et la persévérance (numerama.com)
• Palantir CTO says some AI researchers are taking up smoking because they expect AI to cure cancer (businessinsider.com)
• Women Trust AI Less Than Men—But No One’s Asking Them (motherjones.com)
  

  Men are disproportionately likely to be approached as AI experts, Harvard researchers found.

• OpenAI, Google pushing new AI models easily tricked into making nudes, researchers say (arstechnica.com)
  

  Safety researchers continue to warn that a large volume of AI-generated explicit content is spreading unchecked, while regulators do little to meaningfully stop it.

• Some Ray-Ban Meta smart glasses were recording people’s conversations without the wearer knowing. (arstechnica.com)
  

  The recordings occurred without users saying the prompt phrase (“Hey, Meta”)

• Meta may use sweeping new commercial TOS to avoid millions in AI licensing fees (arstechnica.com)
  

  Legal experts are sounding alarms that Meta will soon update its commercial terms to require business accounts to allow Meta to train AI on their linked website content, not just their social media posts.the TOS update won’t allow businesses to opt out, instead suggesting that businesses stop using Meta services if they won’t agree to let Meta bots freely crawl their linked content.

• Meta accusée de détourner des milliards de crédits d’impôts R&D pour ses datacenters IA (next.ink)
  

  Aux États-Unis, sept sénateurs et sénatrices démocrates ont envoyé une lettre à Mark Zuckerberg le questionnant sur un énorme potentiel détournement des crédits d’impôt fédéraux qui s’élèverait à 6,6 milliards de dollars entre 2023 et 2025.

• Threat of AI share crash puts world financial stability at risk, says IMF (theguardian.com)
  

  The threat of an AI share price crash rippling out across global markets is putting world financial stability at risk, the International Monetary fund has warned.

  
  Voir aussi Pour le FMI, une chute des cours de l’IA menacerait la stabilité financière mondiale (next.ink)

Spécial connards de l’OpenSource

• ‘I use AI to do the things that I’m bad at’ : Linus Torvalds on why it works for him (zdnet.com)
• Matt Mullenweg Orders Accessibility Revert, Tells Core Committer to “Contribute Your Talents to Another Project” (therepository.email)
  

  Days after six years of accessibility work finally landed in core, Matt Mullenweg ordered it reverted, and Andrea Fercia’s WordPress.org account was briefly banned.

Spécial Israël

• Israel Has Demolished Majority of Villages in Southern Lebanon—Mostly After the Ceasefire (commondreams.org)
  

  Defense Minister Israel Katz has bragged that Israel was destroying “not one house at a time,” but “the entirety of those villages.”

• Israeli Strike Burns Gaza Mother Alive in Front of Toddler, ‘Without Generating Any Headlines’ (commondreams.org)
  

  “If she was Israeli, this image would be front-page news”

• Cisjordanie occupée : Paris et Washington pressent Israël de mettre fin aux attaques de colons (rfi.fr)
  

  Des colons israéliens ont attaqué, samedi 17 octobre, un convoi de diplomates européens qui effectuaient une visite en Cisjordanie occupée, rouant de coups un maire français […] Vendredi, c’est une photojournaliste du Washington Post qui était rouée de coups par des colons.

• Face au succès du film Naza, Israël tente de promouvoir un film qui imite la forme documentaire (parallelesud.com)
  

  Alors que le documentaire Naza, qui dénonce la politique meurtrière menée à Gaza, est sorti dans les salles françaises le lundi 12 octobre, Israël tente d’invisibiliser son message avec la promotion d’une pâle copie, Naza : l’histoire vraie.

Spécial femmes dans le monde

• RDC : à Bunia, la riposte contre Ebola au plus près des communautés, des femmes et des enfants (rfi.fr)
  

  Avec plus de 4 000 morts en cinq mois, l’épidémie d’Ebola en République démocratique du Congo est devenue la plus meurtrière de l’histoire du pays. Cette 17ᵉ flambée épidémique a été qualifiée d’urgence de santé publique de portée internationale par l’Organisation mondiale de la santé (OMS).

• Sénégal : à Dakar, une marche contre les féminicides après la mort d’une femme attaquée à l’acide (rfi.fr)
  

  Le 1er octobre, une femme de 40 ans a succombé à ses blessures après avoir été aspergée d’acide par son ex-compagnon à Dakar. Plus de 200 habitants de son quartier ont marché jusqu’à la préfecture de Grand Dakar pour demander justice et l’arrestation du suspect, toujours en fuite.

• Tunisie : Ce que le masculinisme fait de la liberté des femmes (nawaat.org)
  

  Défendre les acquis juridiques ne suffit pas. Il faut démonter les discours qui banalisent le viol, protéger les victimes de la culpabilisation. Le consentement est une frontière que nul pouvoir sur autrui ne peut franchir. Il faut aussi refuser qu’on fasse du divorce, de la liberté sexuelle ou de l’indépendance financière des femmes le coupable de toutes les crises du moment.

  

• Violence numérique : le coût caché de l’engagement politique des femmes et des jeunes en Afrique australe (theconversation.com)
  

  Menaces, harcèlement coordonné, divulgation de données personnelles, deepfakes sexualisés : dans la vie politique, la violence numérique ne vise pas seulement à détruire une réputation. Elle augmente le coût de la parole publique et peut conduire celles et ceux qu’elle vise à s’autocensurer, à quitter les réseaux sociaux ou à renoncer à s’engager.

• En Italie, Roberto Vannacci prône l’héritage fasciste du « patriarcat méditerranéen » (rfi.fr)
  

  Près de 10 ans après le mouvement#MeToo, les discours virilistes gagnent du terrain en Europe. C’est le cas en Italie, où Roberto Vannacci, candidat aux élections législatives de 2027, déploie depuis plusieurs mois une rhétorique identitaire et masculiniste.

• Même la Première ministre japonaise Sanae Takaichi ne peut échapper à la charge mentale de son foyer (huffingtonpost.fr)
  

  Interrogée sur sa gestion du temps, la Première ministre japonaise a souligné le poids des tâches domestiques dans son agenda déjà surchargé.

• Tradwifes : les influenceuses se rebellent timidement (lesnouvellesnews.fr)
  

  beaucoup d’influenceuses tradwife entrent en repentance et racontent l’envers du décor : la dépendance, les rapports de pouvoir et, parfois, les violences conjugales. Ce retournement a un nom, proposé par deux chercheuses de l’université Massey, en Nouvelle-Zélande : le « de-tradding ».

• Cette blague ultra misogyne au « Saturday Night Live » n’est pas du tout passée (huffingtonpost.fr)
  

  Le comédien Shane Gillis est au cœur d’une vive polémique après une blague misogyne selon laquelle « les femmes s’habilleraient comme des putes à la salle de sport ».

• La ménopause est une transition physiologique, elle devient aussi un marché lucratif (theconversation.com)

Spécial France

• Paris dénonce une guerre informationnelle contre l’Europe et vise Elon Musk (next.ink)
  

  Les « campagnes de harcèlement massif en ligne par Elon Musk » ont été dénoncées par le ministre français des Affaires étrangères, Jean-Noël Barrot, dans un discours offensif contre les tentatives d’ingérence étrangère dans le débat démocratique en Europe.

• Le FMI relève sa prévision de croissance pour la zone euro, mais l’abaisse pour la France (franceinfo.fr)
  

  À quelque mois d’une élection présidentielle majeure et face à des difficultés budgétaires, la croissance française progresserait de seulement 0,4 % en 2026 et 0,7 % en 2027, selon le Fonds monétaire international.

  

• Contre-budget : LFI propose 106,4 milliards d’euros de recettes supplémentaires et 81,7 milliards de dépenses nouvelles (lcp.fr)
• Encore rejetée, la taxe Zucman a de nouveau enflammé l’Assemblée pendant les discussions budgétaires (huffingtonpost.fr)
  

  Les député·es ont rejeté plusieurs propositions portées par la gauche, de la création d’un impôt minimum sur les hauts patrimoines au retour de l’ISF.

• “Quand un milliardaire paie en proportion moins d’impôts qu’une infirmière, on attaque les fondements de la République” : Oxfam France dépose un recours contre l’État (franceinfo.fr) – voir aussi Impôts favorables aux riches : Oxfam attaque l’État en justice (reporterre.net)
  

  Oxfam France a déposé mardi 13 octobre un recours en justice contre l’État pour rupture d’égalité face à l’impôt. D’après l’ONG, la fiscalité française « tend à alléger la contribution des plus hauts revenus et des plus grandes fortunes » : « Le top 0,0002 % des plus riches ne reverse que 25 % de ses revenus quand la majorité des Français reverse en moyenne plus de 50 % en pourcentage d’imposition effective

• Une cyberattaque « inédite » a frappé des centaines de supermarchés, les frigos réglés à 50 °C à distance (huffingtonpost.fr)
  

  Des points de vente Intermarché et de la Coopérative U ont été touchés. Selon BFMTV, les pirates ont lancé un « dégivrage forcé », qui a parfois tourné une bonne partie de la nuit.

  

• Piratage Intermarché, Super U, Leclerc : pourquoi les frigos des supermarchés sont-ils connectés à Internet ? (numerama.com)
• ArcelorMittal : derrière l’acier « made in France », les terres volées du Liberia (disclose.ngo)
  

  Pour fabriquer de l’acier dans ses usines de Dunkerque et Fos-sur-Mer, ArcelorMittal exploite des gisements de minerai de fer au Liberia. Entre accaparement de terres agricoles et contamination des ressources en eau, la firme met en danger plusieurs milliers d’habitant·es de ce pays d’Afrique de l’Ouest. Révélations sur les pratiques climaticides et néocoloniales du géant mondial de la sidérurgie.

• « Avec l’affaire Lafarge, une jurisprudence est en train de se constituer, mais les avancées restent fragiles » (multinationales.org)
  

  La décision rendue par la justice française en avril dernier contre la société Lafarge et ses dirigeants pour leurs actions en Syrie a été saluée comme un moment historique. Est-elle une exception ou bien une étape importante dans les efforts pour rendre enfin les multinationales responsables devant des tribunaux ?

• Entre Limoges et Paris, les défaillances du train profitent à l’avion, relancé sur fonds publics (alternatives-economiques.fr)
  

  Pour pallier les difficultés du train, les avions redécollent temporairement entre Limoges et Paris grâce à de l’argent public. Une situation qui symbolise l’enclavement ferroviaire du Massif central.

• RATP : les agent·es retraité·es privé·es de la gratuité après la privatisation du réseau de bus actée par Valérie Pécresse (humanite.fr)
  

  Conséquence directe de la privatisation du réseau de bus de la RATP, les agent·es retraité·es ont découvert que leurs cartes de gratuité n’étaient plus actives sur les lignes privatisées, en dépit du contrat social de l’entreprise publique.

• Pierre Coppey, ancien président de Vinci Autoroutes, choisi comme nouveau contrôleur général des lieux de privation de liberté par Emmanuel Macron (lemonde.fr)
• Démantèlement du camp parisien de Stalingrad : les associations en colère, la mairie défend les opérations de “mise à l’abri” (infomigrants.net)
• Qu’est-ce que la mouvance True Crime Community qui fascinerait le collégien d’Aubagne ? (huffingtonpost.fr)
  

  L’élève de 14 ans qui a tiré sur un principal et une enseignante adhérerait à la True Crime Community. La mouvance est présente depuis quinze ans en France.

• Château de Versailles, cité de Carcassonne, vignobles de Bourgogne… le patrimoine français est menacé par le réchauffement climatique, selon le Réseau action climat (humanite.fr)
• « Faire la peau aux écolos » : le président de la coordination rurale condamné à 15 000 euros d’amende (humanite.fr)
  

  Le président de la Coordination rurale a été reconnu coupable de provocation publique et directe, non suivie d’effet, à commettre un crime ou un délit par le Tribunal correctionnel d’Auch (Gers) ce 15 octobre. Il écope de 15 000 euros d’amende, dont 10 000 avec sursis.

• Il a étouffé un ruisseau, la justice l’a condamné : récit d’un jugement inhabituel (reporterre.net)
  

  C’est l’histoire d’une parcelle de forêt rasée par un sylviculteur, avec des conséquences en cascade jusqu’à la disparition de la biodiversité d’une rivière. L’exploitant, qui n’avait pas conscience des conséquences de ses actes, a été condamné.

• On leur arrache les yeux pour plus de productivité : la face cachée des crevettes de supermarché (vert.eco)
  

  Pour produire plus, de très nombreux élevages de crevettes sectionnent les pédoncules oculaires – soit la tige qui relie l’œil de l’animal au reste du corps – des femelles reproductrices. En théorie, cette mutilation est censée jouer sur le système hormonal des petits crustacés et favoriser des pontes plus rapides, donc une meilleure production.

Spécial femmes en France

• Au travail comme au foyer, les femmes appelées à « s’arrêter » mardi 13 octobre (huffingtonpost.fr)
  

  Alors que la loi intégrale est votée à l’Assemblée ce mardi, un collectif d’associations féministes et d’institutions appelle les femmes à « suspendre leurs activités » afin de « rendre visible leur contribution essentielle ».

• Pourquoi « Octobre rose » est de plus en plus appelé “Octobre colère” (lesnouvellesnews.fr)
  

  Comme chaque année, le mois d’octobre est marqué par « Octobre rose », la campagne de sensibilisation au cancer du sein. Mais cette année, de nombreuses voix s’élèvent pour dénoncer l’aggravation des causes environnementales du cancer et la dégradation de la prise en charge.

• « Je suis sortie de chimio endettée » : le cancer du sein appauvrit les femmes (reporterre.net)
  

  Des revenus en baisse, des dépenses qui augmentent… Le cancer du sein fait basculer de nombreuses femmes dans la précarité. Cancer Colère, qui a lancé le mouvement Octobre colère, réclame un plan d’urgence, avec le remboursement intégral des soins.

• Loi intégrale adoptée : histoire d’un rapport de force en évolution (lesnouvellesnews.fr)
  

  Adoptée en première lecture le 13 octobre par l’Assemblée nationale, la proposition de loi intégrale contre les violences sexistes et sexuelles a perdu en route plusieurs dispositions importantes. Mais le rapport de force a bougé : la force d’inertie qui dominait jusqu’ici a été fissurée.

• Mobilisation lycéenne : une plainte pour agression sexuelle contre un policier (lesnouvellesnews.fr)
  

  Alors que la mobilisation lycéenne se poursuit dans plusieurs villes, les interventions policières sont de plus en plus contestées. Une plainte pour agression sexuelle visant un policier vient d’être déposée, et l’IGPN a ouvert une enquête.

  

• MeToo de la plongée sous-marine : depuis Antibes, les voix des plongeuses émergent enfin (lisbethmedia.com)
  

  « Les remarques sexistes, homophobes, grossophobes… C’est tout le temps, tous les jours, à chaque sortie en mer. Et tu ne peux pas vraiment dénoncer une personne en particulier car en vérité, c’est tout le monde. C’est une ambiance générale qui génère des trucs plus graves, comme des agressions sexuelles. »

• L’acteur Francis Renaud en garde à vue pour viol, violences et harcèlement (huffingtonpost.fr)
  

  L’ex-compagne de l’acteur dénonce avoir été contrainte à avoir des relations sexuelles en sa présence avec d’autres hommes pendant une douzaine d’années.

• 111 femmes tuées par leur conjoint ou ex-conjoint en 2025 : les féminicides à nouveau en hausse (lesnouvellesnews.fr)
  

  En 2025, 111 femmes ont été tuées par leur conjoint ou ex-conjoint en France, selon l’étude annuelle du ministère de l’Intérieur. Un chiffre en hausse de 4 % sur un an.

Spécial médias et pouvoir

• Des voitures de police foncent sur des lycéens et ça ne fait pas la une (politis.fr)
  

  Dans plusieurs villes, des membres des forces de l’ordre au volant ont eu des comportements dangereux envers les lycéen·nes mobilisé·es. Des faits graves, qui n’ont guère ému les médias dans l’ensemble.

• À Dunkerque, La Voix du Nord escorte la Jeep de la police (acrimed.org)
  

  Un 4×4 de la police fonce sur des adolescents en plein mouvement social ? La Voix du Nord fait dans le journalisme de préfecture.

• « Vous condamnez les violences ? » : comment le journalisme de préfecture asphyxie le mouvement lycéen (bonpote.com)
• Le scandale CNews est désormais le scandale Arcom (fondspresselibre.org)
  

  Mouvement lycéen, écrits antisémites de Bardella : la machine à propagande du groupe Bolloré tourne à plein, ne faisant même plus semblant de respecter les règles imposées par sa licence de diffusion. L’Arcom, autorité régulatrice et tutelle des chaînes TNT, est aux abonnés absents. Laissant l’extrême droite pourrir le débat public.

• Nous ne voulons pas de ce journalisme (humanite.fr)
  

  Dénonçant une couverture médiatique qui privilégie les dégradations matérielles et passe sous silence les revendications lycéennes et les violences policières, 780 étudiants de 15 écoles de journalisme interpellent leurs futurs confrères. Ils appellent à défendre une information indépendante, respectueuse de la déontologie et de son rôle de contre-pouvoir démocratique.

Spécial emmerdeurs irresponsables gérant comme des pieds (et à la néolibérale)

• Au rythme actuel, la France deviendrait le pays le plus endetté de l’Union au cours des années 2030 (legrandcontinent.eu)
  

  La France pourrait dépasser la Grèce en termes de dette rapportée au PIB dès 2028 ou 2029, et l’Italie entre 2033 et 2040, devenant ainsi – dans le scénario central – le pays le plus endetté de l’Union d’ici sept ans.

• Oxfam : « 2 % de la fortune des milliardaires suffirait à financer le plan d’urgence des lycées » (lareleveetlapeste.fr)
• Une recherche sous influence des Big Tech (multinationales.org)
  

  L’État consacre des centaines de millions d’euros pour soutenir la recherche en IA […] une grande partie de cet argent va dans des structures ad hoc baptisées « Clusters IA »[…]Comme dans le domaine des infrastructures et des datacenters, le slogan de la « souveraineté » apparaît comme le cache-misère d’une soumission aux Big Tech, qui ne profite qu’à quelques-uns.

• Le gouvernement estime à 166 milliards d’euros le montant des aides publiques accordées aux entreprises en 2024. (franceinfo.fr)
• Budget 2027 : réduire le déficit au détriment du climat est un calcul risqué (reporterre.net)
• Une prof de maths remplaçante pour un cours de français ? Édouard Geffray répond sur ce couac (huffingtonpost.fr)
  

  Le ministre de l’Éducation nationale a été mis face au témoignage d’Agathe, professeure de mathématiques appelée pour un remplacement en lettres modernes.

• Fin des bureaux de poste : « Ils invoquent la diagonale du vide, mais ce sont eux qui vident nos villages » (reporterre.net)
• Après les dégradations matérielles en marge du 17 octobre, le gouvernement sous pression (huffingtonpost.fr)
  

  Les maires de Limoges, Lyon ou Marseille réclament des comptes et remettent en cause la capacité d’anticipation des autorités.

• Ce que dit l’incapacité de Raphaël Glucksmann à soutenir (sur le terrain) le mouvement lycéen (huffingtonpost.fr)
  

  Le candidat du Parti socialiste est régulièrement malmené en manifestation. Au point de sécher désormais la plupart des rendez-vous, comme en ce moment avec la jeunesse.

  

• L’État veut faire payer les lycéens qui « cassent »… mais pas les entreprises qui polluent (reporterre.net)
  

  « Ce texte concrétise une démarche punitive indifférenciée qui ne s’attache plus à la réalité des faits. Il s’agit ici de punir des personnes du fait de leur seule présence en les associant à des auteurs d’infraction. »

• L’épandage de près de 90 000 litres de triallate, un pesticide ultra dangereux pour l’eau, autorisé par le gouvernement (lareleveetlapeste.fr)
  

  Depuis fin septembre et jusqu’à janvier, les céréaliers sont autorisés à recourir à l’Avadex Factor pour les cultures d’orge d’hiver. Cet herbicide à base de triallate n’a pourtant jamais été autorisé par les agences sanitaires en raison de ses risques pour l’eau.

• Arrêts maladie : une nouvelle mesure qui réduit les droits des malades (cgt.fr)
  

  Trois ans d’indemnisation hier, un an demain. Passée presque inaperçue, une nouvelle mesure réduit fortement les droits de certaines personnes en affection longue durée. Une nouvelle restriction alors que se prépare le budget 2027 de la Sécurité sociale.

Spécial recul des droits et libertés, violences policières, montée de l’extrême-droite…

• Après les scènes de violence en France, Le Pen pointe Mélenchon, qui accuse les médias et le maintien de l’ordre (huffingtonpost.fr)
• Cet autre point de la défense de Jordan Bardella est (encore) un mensonge (huffingtonpost.fr)
  

  Le site « Les Jours » révèle que le président du RN était bien un militant actif à la période citée par Mediapart, contrairement à ce qu’il a dit.

• Certaines pancartes interdites en manifestation, Laurent Nuñez à la peine pour justifier certains cas (huffingtonpost.fr)
• Mouvement lycéen : avec 28 saisines depuis le début de la mobilisation, le Défenseur des droits va-t-il taper du poing sur la table ? (humanite.fr)
  

  François-Noël Buffet, qui a succédé cet été à Claire Hédon à la tête l’autorité administrative indépendante, a annoncé, dimanche 11 octobre, avoir reçu 28 saisines individuelles depuis le début du mouvement lycéen. L’ex-sénateur LR, dont la nomination à ce poste a suscité les plus vives inquiétudes compte tenu de ses prises de position antérieures, estime « impératif de concilier la sécurité à la protection des droits et libertés des personnes » sans pour autant dénoncer des violences policières.

• La police utilise-t-elle vraiment des boucliers stroboscopiques pour empêcher les journalistes et les citoyens de filmer leurs interventions ? (franceinfo.fr)
• Montpellier : la police armée de fusils d’assaut face aux lycéen·nes (lepoing.net)
  

  L’Observatoire des Libertés de Montpellier (OLM), présent sur les blocages des lycées Monnet et Mermoz le lundi 12 octobre, signale le port par les forces de l’ordre de fusils d’assaut et dénonce “L’absence de port systématique de RIO”

• À Paul Éluard, les lycéen·nes dénoncent une escalade des violences policières (bondyblog.fr)
  

  Jeudi 15 octobre, des policiers en civil ont interpellé un élève à l’intérieur même du lycée Paul Éluard, à Saint-Denis, provoquant l’opposition de plusieurs membres du personnel […] des personnels mobilisés accusent le proviseur d’avoir convoqué l’élève dans son bureau avant de faire entrer les policiers pour l’interpeller.

• « Ils ont même sorti leur taser » : au lycée Henri-Wallon, les personnels se mobilisent contre la répression (revolutionpermanente.fr)
  

  Ce vendredi 16 octobre, au lycée Henri-Wallon d’Aubervilliers (93), une lycéenne et un enseignant ont été interpelés alors que ce dernier tentait de protéger l’élève des coups de la police.

• “Toi, tu dégages” : un journaliste percuté par un policier alors qu’il filmait la manifestation lycéenne (france3-regions.franceinfo.fr)
• Laurent Nuñez annonce que les forces de l’ordre pourront à nouveau utiliser les grenades assourdissantes lors des manifestations (liberation.fr)
• La « France à Macron » a un problème avec le maintien de l’ordre (huffingtonpost.fr)
  

  Lycéen·nes et Gilets jaunes appellent à manifester ce samedi. Le Premier ministre dit « redouter de la violence ». Les manifestant·es, la stratégie de maintien de l’ordre.

• Quand dénoncer l’inacceptable devient une faute : des écoles aux lycées, la même mécanique de répression (cafepedagogique.net)
• Beauvais. « On voulait juste ramener un élève au lycée », les profs de philo agressé·es par des policiers devant le lycée Langevin témoignent (oisehebdo.fr)
  

  Les deux comptent bien porter plainte pour ce qu’ils ont vécu.

• “Corps de pédé”, “sale nègre”, coups de pied, gifles : deux lycéens de 16 ans témoignent de violences policières (rtl.fr)
• Paris : un orchestre de 400 personnes gazé à République (watson.ch)
  

  le collectif a accompagné de nombreuses manifestations. Son but est toujours d’apporter de la joie et de créer « la bande originale de la révolution », comme le dit son fondateur. Parfois avec humour, les musiciens classiques n’hésitent pas à faire des références à la pop culture et à se déguiser. […] Sur une vidéo, on peut notamment voir les musiciens, dont certains masqués qui tentent de rester concentrés malgré le gaz qui leur brûle les yeux et la gorge […] « On avait discuté avec les CRS en leur disant ‘il y a des personnes qui ont des instruments, avant de charger prévenez-vous’. Il ne nous ont pas prévenus. »

• 17 octobre : à Saint-Étienne, un manifestant a eu la main arrachée par une grenade policière (huffingtonpost.fr)
• À Mulhouse, une jeune de 17 ans perd la vision d’un œil après un tir de grenade lacrymogène, l’IGPN saisie (politis.fr)
  

  Une adolescente, Maïssa, a été gravement blessée à l’œil au cours de tirs de lacrymogènes par les forces de l’ordre le 17 octobre à Mulhouse. Elle a reçu un projectile en plein visage, une grenade lacrymogène selon des témoins et ne retrouvera pas la vision de l’œil gauche.

  

• 17 octobre à Paris : un manifestant succombe à un malaise boulevard Magenta (leparisien.fr)
  

  La préfecture de police de Paris évoque ce dimanche matin « un arrêt cardio-respiratoire »

• French police accused over war-like injuries to teenagers in school protests (theguardian.com)
  

  Four children allegedly ‘mutilated’ by explosive weapons and lawyers say unprecedented number held in custody

• 65 ans après le massacre du 17 octobre 1961, la même police (politis.fr)
  

  Ces dernières semaines, les mobilisations lycéennes ont été marquées par de fortes répressions. 65 ans après le massacre du 17 octobre 1961, les pratiques de la police continuent de porter les traces de son histoire coloniale.

  

Spécial résistances

• Maintien de l’ordre : 100 000 signatures et des années d’alertes contre les armes mutilantes (politis.fr)
  

  Après plusieurs mutilations de lycéens, une pétition réclame l’interdiction de plusieurs armes et techniques policières lors des manifestations lycéennes. Une demande loin d’être récente malgré des avertissements répétés, jusqu’aux Nations unies.

• Manifestations du 17 octobre : « C’est la convergence des colères aujourd’hui » (politis.fr)
  

  Selon les organisateurices des manifestations, 800 000 personnes ont battu le pavé ce 17 octobre partout en France, et 550 000 selon le ministère de l’Intérieur.

  

• « On est jeunes, déter et révolutionnaires » : à la manif des lycéen·nes, la jeunesse en marche vers Matignon (streetpress.com)
• « Le monde entier regarde ce que vous faites » : Greta Thunberg rejoint les lycéen·nes de Seine-Saint-Denis (reporterre.net)
• Près d’un demi-million de jeunes dans la rue : comment la contestation lycéenne gagne les universités (basta.media)
  

  Les étudiant·es sont de plus en plus nombreux·ses à rejoindre le mouvement lycéen, malgré les fermetures administratives, les cours en distanciel et, parfois, la répression de la police. Les enseignant·es-chercheureuses commencent aussi à se mobiliser.

  

• Le site du parti Les Républicains a été piraté pour afficher un appel à manifester le 17 octobre, l’entourage de Bruno Retailleau annonce porter plainte (franceinfo.fr)
  

  “Nous avons volé toutes les données de votre site et de vos membres ainsi que tous vos échanges internes et messages privés”, déclarent les pirates dans un communiqué.

• Mobilisation du 17 octobre : « La droite et l’extrême droite sont en panique » (reporterre.net)
• La bataille d’Assas : les étudiant·es font reculer l’extrême-droite (blast-info.fr)
  

  Pour la première fois de son histoire, l’université Panthéon-Assas, ancien fief de l’extrême droite, a été bloquée pendant deux jours, en solidarité avec le mouvement lycéen. Des sbires fascistes qui se baptisent eux-mêmes les « Waffen Assas » ont attaqué les contestataires, sans parvenir à empêcher le blocus. « Assas est désormais antifa », jubilent les étudiant·es de gauche.

• En images : « Qui nous protège de la police ? », dans le cortège de la mobilisation lycéenne à Paris (politis.fr)
• 358 procès de militant·es écologistes depuis 2020 : iels répertorient des « arguments puissants » pour gagner en justice (reporterre.net)
• « Nous, banlieusard·es, on n’est pas assez représenté·es » : les lycéen·nes des quartiers créent leur syndicat (reporterre.net)
  

  Soumaya, Walid et Karima ont entre 17 et 18 ans et viennent de lancer la Fédération lycéenne des quartiers (FLQ), le premier syndicat par et pour les élèves des quartiers populaires.

• « Je ne vais pas laisser tomber mon ami » : un lycée agricole bloqué pour protéger Vassiriki, ciblé par une OQTF (basta.media)
  

  L’établissement agricole de Saint-Aubin-du-Cormier, près de Rennes, est bloqué par les enseignant·es pour protéger un de leurs élèves, menacé d’expulsion. Vassiriki, 21 ans, est pourtant un lycéen exemplaire et a décroché une promesse d’embauche.

  Voir aussi « Ici on apprend à cultiver, pas à déraciner » : un lycée breton mobilisé contre l’OQTF d’un élève (blast-info.fr)

  Alors que les lycéennes se mobilisent et bloquent leurs établissements à travers le pays, ce sont cette fois les enseignant·es et les personnels du lycée agricole de Saint-Aubin-du-Cormier, près de Rennes, qui bloquent le leur depuis le 5 octobre. Par solidarité avec Vassiriki, ils entrent en lutte pour exiger le réexamen de sa situation.

• « Tout le monde déteste la police » : ce chant bien connu des manifestant·es s’exporte au Royaume-Uni (et au-delà) (huffingtonpost.fr)
• Qui est l’artiste derrière l’hymne des blocus lycéens ? (reporterre.net)
  

  « No Title », composé il y a onze ans pour une star de YouTube, est devenu la bande-son des blocus lycéens. Son auteur, le producteur franco-vietnamien Nodey, soutient de longue date les victimes de l’agent orange.« C’est la plus belle récompense pour un compositeur. »

Spécial outils de résistance

• Lancement du Fonds Autodéfense (nothing2hide.org)
  

  Nothing2Hide (N2H) et le Fonds pour une Presse Libre (FPL) lancent le Fonds Autodéfense, un projet de soutien en sécurité numérique des médias indépendants.

  

• All Blogs Are Beautiful (beautifulblogs.infoticker.org)
• Open Slopware (codeberg.org)
• Guide pour être un·e bon·ne allié·e blanc·he au sein d’un collectif anti-raciste (expansive.info)

Spécial MAGAM et cie

• Ahead of the Midterms, Meta Has Paid at Least 29 Anti-LGBTQ Accounts for Their Posts (unclosetedmedia.com)
• Brazil’s Lula wins electoral court challenge against Meta for alleged pro-Bolsonaro algorithm bias (nbcnews.com)
  

  A judge ruled that the tech company must adopt measures to immediately secure equal treatment of the two presidential candidates ahead of an Oct. 25 runoff.

• Arrêt d’une offre gratuite MS 365 pour associations : Watertrek a perdu 600 Go de données (next.ink)
  

  Microsoft a arrêté brutalement l’accès à 365 Business Premium et Office 365 E1 qu’elle proposait gratuitement aux organismes sans but lucratif. L’association française Watertrek a mis en demeure l’entreprise : elle a perdu 600 Go de données qui y étaient stockées alors que sa licence courait jusqu’au 18 octobre 2029.

Les autres lectures de la semaine

• When No ID Means No Internet : Age Verification and the Right to Access Information (eff.org)
  

  Age verification proposals are often presented as a simple tradeoff : sacrifice a little privacy to better safeguard children online. But that framing overlooks a more fundamental question. What happens to people who cannot verify their age at all ? This is particularly a problem when users are required to prove their age with identity documents.

• What’s Wrong with GitHub (gnu.org)
• Ce que Blanquer a fait aux lycéens (et à leurs profs) (blogs.mediapart.fr)
• « Cette jeunesse ne veut plus seulement changer l’école, elle veut changer le monde ». Entretien avec Louis Boyard (contretemps.eu)
• La Totale (blog.mondediplo.net)
  

  Immense némésis : il ne s’agit même plus de Parcoursup ici, de désindexation des retraites là, d’APL ailleurs. Il s’agit de tout. Aucun pouvoir ne peut rien quand c’est tout qui vient en question. C’est-à-dire quand se redresse la souveraineté primitive du peuple, niée par la souveraineté usurpatrice du capital et des marchés. Cette gigantomachie devait finir par avoir lieu. Nous y voilà. […] Quoi qu’il arrive désormais, ce pouvoir a perdu. En dix ans, le macronisme a très littéralement détruit le pays. Il sombre dans la honte et le dégoût. Longtemps nous avons attendu le moment de lui présenter la note. Le voici. […] La Totale, c’est donc l’arrivée à son paroxysme d’une configuration de l’État bourgeois qu’on voyait se profiler depuis longtemps déjà : réduit à deux ministères. Le ministère du budget et le ministère de l’intérieur. Ou, pour le dire autrement : le ministère des amis (exemptés d’impôt) et le ministère des ennemis (de l’intérieur).

  

• Gaz lacrymogène : quelles conséquences sur la santé des manifestant·es et des policiers ? (madeinperpignan.com)
  

  De multiples reportages ont montré des CRS qui s’entraînent à s’y accoutumer afin d’être ensuite plus efficaces en opération. Au final, ils y sont peut-être autant, voire plus exposés que les manifestants eux-mêmes. Avec des conséquences considérables sur leur santé.

• Les absent·es ont toujours tort (oblique-revue.org)
  

  Pourquoi le validisme demeure-t-il un angle mort si persistant des mouvements d’émancipation ?

• How Vincent van Gogh’s Sister-in-Law Worked Tirelessly to Make Him Famous (openculture.com)
  

  No artist, no mat­ter how soli­tary by nature, becomes a cul­tur­al phe­nom­e­non alone.

Les BDs/graphiques/photos de la semaine

• Budget
• Ténèbres
• 65 ans
• République
• Mobilisation lycéenne – Questions au gouvernement : La réponse aux enfants de la république… (blogs.mediapart.fr)
• Y’a pas photo
• Casseurs
• RN
• Tenues
• Soutien
• Merci
• Simple, basique.
• Bon courage !
• Cyberattaque
• Datacenter
• Dave
• Accountability
• Birds

Les vidéos/podcasts de la semaine

• Benjamin Stora : le massacre du 17 octobre 1961, « doit être reconnu dans les manuels scolaires » (rfi.fr)
• “Vous condamnez les violences ?“ (video.blast-info.fr)
• La chronique de Waly Dia – « Des candidats au bac frappés par ceux qui ne l’ont pas eu » (tube.fdn.fr)
• Pendant ce temps à l’Elysée (par Gaary) (tube.fdn.fr)
• Lycéen·nes et Gilets jaunes : l’heure de la convergence ? (humanite.fr)
• Lycéens + Gilets Jaunes : le feat que Macron n’a pas vu venir (humanite.fr)
• S’organiser ici et maintenant. Entretien avec Lumir Lapray, activiste et autrice (contretemps.eu)
• Fusillade à Aubagne : “On peut encore dialoguer avec ces adolescents”, affirme la chercheuse Stéphanie Lamy (radiofrance.fr)
  

  Après les tirs au collège Lakanal d’Aubagne lundi, l’enquête explore la piste d’une fascination pour les tueries de masse.

• Non, nos psys ne peuvent pas être automatisés ! (radiofrance.fr)
  

  En 2026, près d’un jeune sur quatre considère son chatbot comme un psy. Pourtant, ce phénomène ne date pas d’hier : dès 1966, ELIZA suscitait déjà un fort attachement émotionnel. Son inventeur, Joseph Weizenbaum, n’a cessé d’alerter sur les risques d’une psychothérapie automatisée.

Les trucs chouettes de la semaine

• Le week-end des 5 et 6 décembre 2026, le PSL XXL est de retour ! (samedis-du-libre.org)
  

  Il s’agit d’une version étendue sur un week-end complet des Premiers Samedis du Libre. Rendez-vous donc au Carrefour Numérique² de la Cité des Sciences à Paris de 10h à 18h le samedi 5/12 ET LE DIMANCHE 6/12 avec stands, ateliers et conférences !

  

• The fediverse map (fedidb.com)
• « Nous ne sommes que 2 en France » : elles réparent les parapluies cassés (reporterre.net)
• Un bouleversement génétique ancien expliquerait l’intelligence hors norme des pieuvres (slate.fr)
  

  L’explication résiderait dans une réorganisation rapide de leur ADN, il y a des centaines de millions d’années.

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#6 I Don't Think We Appreciate Daniel Radcliffe Enough

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Founded in 2007 by American web developer David Karp, Tumblr quickly carved out its own corner of the internet. The microblogging platform became home to countless communities, particularly fandoms where people bonded over their favorite things. Its relative anonymity also gave users more freedom to experiment with their online identities and share thoughts they might not have posted under their real names. And, of course, it gave people a place to be wonderfully weird without having to explain themselves.

#7 I’m Actually Mean

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#8 Oral Tradition And Pandering

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#9 Fish Networking

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The story behind Tumblr is pretty interesting, too. David Karp was just 21 when he founded the platform while working as a consultant from his mother’s apartment in New York City. He wanted to create something different from the increasingly commercialized social media platforms of the time. And that vision showed in Tumblr’s design. In A Tumblr Book: Platform and Cultures, researchers explore how features such as chronological reblogging and the absence of prominent public follower counts helped set Tumblr apart from more metrics-driven platforms. Instead of making popularity the main goal, Tumblr gave users more freedom to experiment, share their interests, and find communities of people who loved the same wonderfully niche things they did.

#10 Iykyk, Qed

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#11 Humans Have Always Been Petty

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#12 Well

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And there’s a good reason why Tumblr’s approach to social media is worth looking at more closely. On many platforms, it’s easy to get caught up in the numbers game. How many likes did your post get? Why does someone else have thousands of followers while your latest selfie barely gets any attention? What starts as a fun way to share your life can quickly turn into a competition, especially when popularity starts to feel like a measure of your worth.

#13 The Parent (Saw) Trap

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#14 I’d Read A 500-Page Novel Based On This

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#15 On The Value Of Mystery

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Research suggests that this kind of social comparison can take a toll on mental well-being, particularly among young adults. Studies have found that people who regularly compare their achievements, physical appearance, and social lives with those of their peers tend to experience higher stress levels and poorer psychological well-being. Research conducted during and after the COVID-19 pandemic has also linked increased internet use with more frequent social comparisons and greater psychological distress. After all, when you're constantly exposed to carefully curated snapshots of other people's lives, it's easy to feel like everyone else is doing better than you.

#16 All My Hate To Apps

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#17 It's Like You Don't Even Care 🙄

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#18 On Automation

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This is where Tumblr's approach offered a refreshing alternative. With customizable blogs, reblogging, and communities built around shared interests, the platform gave users more opportunities to express themselves without making public popularity the main event.Tumblr certainly wasn't free from drama or social pressure, but its culture showed that online spaces could be about shared passions and self-expression, rather than constantly chasing likes and followers.

#19 Real Gamers Know

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#20 Pride Posting Day 25

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#21 Blood

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#22 That's Just Plane Messed-Up

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Of course, that doesn't mean every social media platform is harmful or that enjoying a popular post is a bad thing. What matters is being mindful of how we use them and remembering that our worth has very little to do with a follower count or how many people double-tap a photo. Whether you're scrolling through posts from Tumblr, watching TikTok videos, or catching up with friends on Instagram, social media is at its best when it helps us feel connected and free to be ourselves, rather than leaving us feeling like we have to compete for attention.

#23 What’s Something That Can Easily Be Improved But Won’t

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#24 Novel Depression Treatment

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#25 Everyone Will Not Just _____

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#26 Get The Screen Out Of My Appliances

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Coming back to today’s posts, these screenshots are a little reminder of what made Tumblr so entertaining in the first place. People had a knack for turning the most random thoughts, oddly specific observations, and everyday nonsense into something hilariously memorable. Some things never change, and the internet will always have room for a little weirdness! Which of these posts was your favorite, Pandas? Let us know in the comments!

#27 Samwise, The Untemptable

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#28 Pink Panther

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#29 Tarot

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#30 Flavours Of Religious Guilt

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#31 Philomena Cunk

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#32 One Of My Least Favorite Trends, As Of Late

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#33 Dont Forget To Pee On The Poor Today

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#34 The Intrusive Feeling

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#35 Everyday I Push Through Despair With The Power Of Hope

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#36 So Much (For) Electricity

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#37 Kiss Up To Your Boss' Boss To Seem Funny

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#38 Pikmin

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#39 Dolly

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#40 Task Failed Successfully

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#41 The Internet Was A Mistake

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#42 Pocket Herring

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#43 Technically Not Against The Rules

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#44 The Two Guards

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#45 Dogs Are Delicate. Cats, Eh They’ll Be Fine

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#46 Bwaaaaa

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#47 Carelessness And Jk

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#48 All That Prep For Ten Minutes

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#49 Wizardposting

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#50 On Hats And Wealth Inequality

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#51 The Cave Dread

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#52 The Existential Dread Of Chalk

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#53 “My Lord, That’s Soap”

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#54 Emotional Support Barista

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#55 How You Know Nolan's Odyssey Sucks

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#56 Mr Horn Nose

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#57 Reading For Everyone

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#58 *grits Teeth* Despite The Tone, I Think I Technically Agree With Most Of This Post

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#59 Also, Using Fancy Jargon Casually Is Just Funny To Me

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#60 This Applies To Most American Cities

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#61 This Post Is Soooo (Not) Me!

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#62 On Ads

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#63 Joke vs. Reality

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#64 The Origin Of The Word Enby

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#65 Using Your Noggin, Using Your Log(N)

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#66 Sometimes It Feels Like Only One Side Is Playing By The Rules

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#67 Religions Seen From A Distance

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#68 Top Gun

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#69 The Ultimate Teacher's Pet

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#70 Grudgingly Correct

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#71 Trapped In The Prison Of The Plot

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Women can face particularly frustrating experiences when discussing their health with a doctor. Their concerns about pain and reproductive health may not always receive the attention and understanding they need. 

Worse, they may even deal with insensitive and inappropriate responses. And if you’re wondering how bad things can get, here are some stories shared in a recent Reddit thread. 

These accounts only prove that not every medical professional deserves to keep their license. If you have similar experiences you want to share, feel free to do so in the comments below.

#1

"I guess you must be serious, if you brought your husband with you."

I was 8 months in to trying to figure out the cause of chronic pain that was getting progressively worse, and was being pretty much brushed off. This was the first time my husband went with me to an appointment, mostly just to drive me because I was in so much pain. Later we would find a tumor the size of a baseball in my abdomen ruining one of my kidneys.

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#2

I was having an endometrial biopsy, first one. The old man doctor became irate with me because I let out a cry of pain. (I was in absolute agony). He looked at me with absolute disgust and said if I couldn't control myself, I could get up and leave. I suffered in silence, shaking uncontrollably. He never said another word to me, but his nurse came in and hugged me. I will never know why, but he was soon after relieved of his job and I cheered that day.

That man HURT ME. Badly.

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#3

It was a psychiatrist who thought the band tshirt I was wearing was demonic and the reason for my anxiety. He prescribed me converting to his religion. When I gave him my email, and it was from my university he said “I thought only smart people went there”.

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The stories on this list highlight a problem that many women face during their doctor's visits. According to pain psychologist Dr. Samantha Meints, women are "viewed as hysterical," which is why most of their health concerns are pathologized in a psychiatric way.

"Some of this is just due to social and cultural values," Dr. Meints said in an interview with Harvard Health. "It's a value for men to remain stoic in the face of pain or stress, while women are often more social and seek more support. The way they do that may be to share their difficult experiences, including pain."

#4

Oh my goodness. The worst was after I’d had a couple of miscarriages and was pregnant again, seeing a specialist and found out at my six week ultrasound that pregnancy wasn’t viable either, but the baby had a heartbeat, but it was slowing so they were sure I would lose it too.
The specialist doc I was seeing got us in her office and she started laying out the plan for trying again “after this one’s over.”
The complete and total lack of empathy for me as I was processing the loss of a third pregnancy was devastating. I was livid and speechless at the same time.
I never went back to see her again.
20+ years later I can still get upset about it.
I work in the medical field now and have always taken the time to let someone process the news when it’s bad. It’s just not that hard.

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#5

“No, that medication does not cause weight gain. It’s your depression that’s causing you to eat more.” Said to me by *two doctors*.

Flash forward a year - my cat is sick. They give her an appetite stimulant.

**Appetite. Stimulant.**

Same med as the one “not” causing my excessive eating and weight gain.

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#6

He told me I was pregnant infront my immigrant mother when I was only 13.

I WAS NOT. He didnt even test me or anything. I went in complaining of lower abdominal pain, and then it turned out I had blood in my bladder from an infection.

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There are also differences in pain thresholds between men and women. According to clinical psychologist Dr. Robert Jamison, women are perceived to have a higher pain tolerance, which may lead to the frequent dismissal of their conditions.

 "There's always this sense that women can go through childbirth, so they can withstand much worse pain than men," he said.

#7

Telling my mom's story:

In the late 90's she had extreme fatigue, unexpected weight gain, and a few other symptoms. She had to drink caffeine nearly constantly just to function. She could sleep for 12+ hours if she didn't have an alarm. She went to the doctor who told her, basically, that her sedentary lifestyle was the problem.

She was busy raising 5 kids (age 9+) as a single mother working graveyard shifts at the airport to make ends meet. Meals were served, laundry was done, us kids were making it to school on time, the house was cleaned - she was not sedentary, but he wouldn't listen. Doc basically said "You're fat. Lose weight."

Years later she went to a different doctor. They did a quick blood check and what do you know it - she has Hypothyroidism.

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#8

Went into premature labor at 16, so yeah I was a kid. Got pregnant my first time! Anyway, he put a speculum inside me to see if my water had broken. I was crying and tense, because it is uncomfortable as many of you know. A midwife held my hand, when I was starting to get a bit more upset he said and I quote “you weren’t crying when he shoved it up inside of you, were ya” referring to how I got pregnant. I was stunned. Even as an immature teen, i knew there was no way that was okay. I told my mam, who was in the waiting area, she ran around the hospital looking for him. I told a lovely delivery nurse who was amazing!! I guess he got fired because he never appeared at the new maternity hospital that opened ( all maternity hospitals shut down and went to one).

#9

"The reason you can't push your baby out (after four hours of pushing) is because you chose an epidural". Turns out he wouldn't come out because he had a double knot in his cord and every time he breeched he was starved of oxygen. Was too late for a C-section and luckily the next doctor was competent and got him out safely in one push/contraction. I would have punched her in the face if I wasn't preoccupied birthing a child. Also, the epidural was the best choice according to second doctor, as they had to cut me up to get babe out safely.

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Gender bias is one of the many ugly realities we deal with, and very unfortunately, it also happens in the medical field. Experts refer to this as "medical gaslighting," and according to a 2024 study, it is more prevalent among women.

The study revealed that 45% of women who were going through genital pain were told they "just needed to relax more." 39% were made to feel "crazy."

#10

Regarding my terrible cramps and mental health issues that came on only when I have (or am about to have) my period: "it might get better if you have children".

As if that completely baseless and unscientific wives-tale is justification for bringing a child into this world to *maybe* fix my PMDD??

I've had both male and female Drs suggest this to me. Unbelievable.

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#11

Not necessarily what you were going for here, but one time I went to urgent care for a UTI and the hottest doctor I have ever seen in my life walked in and said, “Yeah, your urine is pretty dirty.”.

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#12

#1 female Dr. refused to prescribe me HRT for perimenopausal symptoms that made me feel like a dumb angry zombie. Told me, "Just power through like a real woman. I did." I told her to get lost before I walked out.

#2 saw male specialist for weird nerve pain in my hand. Completely ignores what I came in for and proceeds to wax poetic about his hot wheels collection.

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There's also a distinction between acute and chronic pain that, according to University of Sydney psychology professor Louise Sharpe, can complicate the discussion. As she explains, chronic pain becomes more difficult to deal with because it requires long-term treatment.

"Doctors wonder why patients don't improve with the same suite of treatments that worked for other patients. Meanwhile, patients want doctors to believe their pain is legitimate," Sharpe wrote.

#13

What are you crying for? You wanted this.

Said to me by the anesthesiologist as I was being prepped for the d&c I needed because I’d had a miscarriage and not passed the remains. I absolutely did not want any of that.

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#14

Not a doctor but a psychiatrist. I was about 12 years old and I was seeing him for medication to treat severe anxiety. I was barely able to eat so I was at least 20 pounds underweight when I started going. We found a medication that worked and I finally started getting my weight back up. I was still skinny but finally in a healthy range

During one of my appointments, he told me that I needed to watch what I ate because I was starting to get fat. My mom was *livid.* We left the appointment early and never went back

I actually ran into him at the grocery store about 8 years ago. He recognized me and at least had the decency to look ashamed.

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#15

Just got done nursing my first child and was ready to back on my ADHD medication. I was seeing a new primary care doctor since my old one retired. She asked me why I needed this medication and I told her my diagnosis should be in my medical chart. That apparently was not enough since she wanted details, when I explained my challenges she then said “how does your husband deal with you?”.

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Doctors can't always provide the answers patients are looking for. However, at the very least, they can treat patients with compassion and respect. Seeking medical help is already intimidating, and dismissive, condescending behavior can only make the experience more frustrating.

Ladies, has a doctor ever said something that left you shocked or questioning your own concerns? Share your stories in the comments.

#16

I kept fainting from low blood sugar and the doctor told me I had a case of the "faints". Passed out later at a concert and almost had to go to the hospital.

#17

When she told me the fix to my weight loss problems was 'walking 10k steps a day' and I showed her that I get 5 days a week of 13k+ she said "Is that your husband's activity tracker?".

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#18

A doctor told me that my pain in my lower abdomen was “probably just ovulation”, I knew he was wrong, went for a second opinion and was sent for an emergent CT. Ended up being appendicitis and was on the verge of rupture by the time the surgeon had me on the table.

Imagine assuming you know what ovulation pain feels like over the word of a woman who had been ovulating regularly for over a decade already at the time.

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#19

He jokingly-but-not-*really*-jokingly complained that I hadn't shaved my legs before the appointment. He was a general practitioner, it was my first ever appointment with him, and the appointment was for a basic physical. I was 14.

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#20

I suffer from cyclical vomiting syndrome. When my illness was at its worst I was in and out of the ER and was down to 94 pounds. For reference I’m 5”3 and my normal weight is around 115-120.

I went to a new GP to get bloodwork and was explaining my illness and she looks at me and says “well, so many women want to be skinny and pretty like you”

Like ma’am, I can’t even lift my own arm I’m so weak. Needless to say I never went back to her.

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#21

Not me, but my wife and I was in the room.

She was seeking treatment for a neck injury that was causing debilitating headaches. The doctor told my wife point blank "I won't treat you until you lose 40% of your body weight." She was heavy at the time, but her weight was not a factor in this injury.

We got a second opinion rapidly.

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#22

He told me I was to young for a hysterectomy and might decide I want more kids. I'm 48. I have 4 kids (16,16,25, 28) and 4 grandkids (7,6,2,2). I also have severe PCOS. I'm in the process of getting a second opinion.

#23

My wife was vomiting in pain and the doctor gave her a "mind over matter" book.

The next week she was rushed into emergency surgery to remove her gallbladder.

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#24

I have frequent headaches and migraines. The doctor asked me if I work in front of a computer…I said yes….”well there you go that’s why you have headaches! Stop staring at the screen!!!” Like I have a choice? How am I supposed to work!!

At OBGYN I was diagnosed with PCOS/PMOS and the doctor told me I need to lose weight and eat basically like a rabbit. I was 125lbs 😩.

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#25

Female doctor scraping my uterine lining for a biopsy that offers no sedatives or pain relief. I was gagging from the pain and the intense feeling of my insides being scraped away made me nauseous. She told me to take deep breaths. When she was done, she said “wow, that was hell for you!”

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Any woman who’s undergone a procedure whether it be an IUD removal or also an endometrial biopsy will understand this pain.

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#26

Struggled my whole life with body / eating disorder issues. Turned to binge eating / laxatives in college and had my nutrition professor notice the signs and convince me to seek out my doctor at home. Was slightly overweight. Went in for the appointment and doctor (a man) looked at me and said “oh. You’re fine. When your mom said it was an eating disorder thing we thought you were going to come in looking like skin and bones”. Went on to struggle for 5 more years.

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#27

I told the doctor I was having pancreas pain as I've had pancreatitis a few times already and knew the symptoms and what it feels like. He said "listen dollface, there's no way you can feel your pancreas you probably have a stomach ache." I was indeed having a flare up.

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#28

"You just need a man to take care of you." - Psychiatrist

I was 41 and had been living on my own for 10 years.

#29

Went to get an STI check because I was starting a new relationship, and had asked my partner to do the same. The doctor was astonished that I was doing this proactively when I didn't have any symptoms. He sighed and said "I guess this is just what 'modern women' are like".

#30

ER nurse in my case. 1996. I was 22 years old, visiting my brother who lived in another state. Intense right quadrant pain sent me to the ER, and they needed an ultrasound right away so I had to be “filled up” and not allowed to drink the water. Received catheter on the spot (my first), and writhed in pain during insertion . ER nurse chided me, saying unless I’d birthed a child, I didn’t know pain. It wasn’t necessary a bad thing to say, but it was very unkind, and I was a frightened young adult. Turned out I had a large dermoid ovarian cyst, which I had surgically removed when I returned to my home state.

#31

It was a female gynecologist, which makes it worse.

I was trying to explain to her how bad my period pains were, and how I'm bipolar. I wanted to go on birth control to try and regulate things.

She told me, "Well, what would your husband think? Don't you want to have a baby?"

To her, I was just a baby maker and had no opinions. My body belonged to my supposed husband.

#32

Went into labor and delivery at 37 weeks for decreased fetal movement. This is specifically what you are told to do by any OB. The intern on shift that night said "maybe I needed some medication" because I was anxious.

2 weeks later he walked into my room to deliver my baby. I had him removed from my team.

#33

She said my feet hurt because I needed better shoes. A little over a year later I had surgery to break and reset a bone that had been broken years before and wasn't treated so it healed wrong. If she had simply done an x-ray she would've seen that my first metatarsal was wrong.

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#34

A dentist, unprompted, held a mirror up to my face and went on at length about how much more attractive I’d be if I got lip filler.

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#35

My foot started hurting when I got pregnant. I was told it’s pregnancy and what did I expect. Legs hurt while pregnant.

I got diagnosed with stage 3 melanoma 7 months pregnant on my foot.

#36

Doctor asked my weight for dosage calculation and he looked at me and said “are you sure? You look like a much bigger girl”.

#37

Doc said there was nothing wrong with my back, I was just sad cause I was fat. I was only about 6 mos postpartum, had a very manual labor military job. Turned it there were 2 discs exploded in my lower back. Awesome work.

#38

I don't know about worse, but a lifetime of being brushed off because of my weight has me scared of thinking I'll never get meaningful help. For reference, I had been morbidly obese since I was THREE. I reached my goal weight at 28 (I'm 32F now).


Even now, at my goal weight, written in my record by my weight management doctor, stating I am at clinical goal weight I still have doctors telling me I need to lose weight. They then immediately follow up with suggesting I see a weight management doctor.


After stating that I already do and tell them that this is my goal weight per my doctor's own analysis and that she's been working with me for 8 years they still suggest I should 'keep going' and 'it's good for my health to lose more'.


This was stated at my last physical actually, when all I needed was an ENT refferal.....

#39

I’m 8 weeks pregnant. Out of nowhere, I start having severe anxiety attacks, every 15 minutes. I’ve never had them before. I am having trouble breathing, my chest is tight, I’m crying uncontrollably. I then lose the ability to speak. I head to the ER. The male doctor looks at the notes taken at admission that my husband gave - exactly what I typed above. The doctor, in a real agitated manner, asked me, “was this a planned pregnancy?” I shook my head no. He let out a sigh, “here’s my advice…don’t get pregnant”. And gave me a shot of Ativan. I went home and an hour later, I had a miscarriage. Come to find out that the anxiety attacks were caused by the severe, sudden drop in hormones, from my body going through a miscarriage. What a jerk.

#40

1991. Twenty year old me was at my follow up obgyn visit after having a miscarriage. Dr looks up at me from down there and says “ you’d be a pretty girl if you’d lose some weight “.

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#41

Diagnosed with cervical cancer. First meeting with oncologist who wanted to do an internal exam with the speculum. I mentioned I had anxiety and it was painful for me (I mean, it's uncomfortable for all of us but the cancer made it especially worse for me). Without warning, he pretty aggressively grabbed my legs and pushed them to the side, saying "well, you better suck it up and get used to it, because you'll be having a lot more".

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#42

When I told my GP I had been short of breath for 4+ months, started out hearing crackling sounds when I laid down at night, which progressed to where I coughed up a clear bubbly phlegm any time I tried to lay down and had to start sleeping upright.

“**Well you did gain 10 pounds since I saw you last year! You need to work on losing weight.**”

Two weeks later I got admitted to the ICU with congestive heart failure on my 24th birthday. That ten pounds was built up fluid on my chest because my heart wasn’t able to pump properly so more and more fluid just kept building up. I very nearly lost my life and still 4 years later struggle DAILY with everyday tasks because my heart is bad. I’ll have to have a heart transplant at some point in my life without a doubt. Got an ICD in my chest that’ll need replaced every 7-10 years. I’m going to be living with this for the rest of my life. And my life expectancy has decreased significantly.

I try to have a little grace and say maybe my GP missed it because who expects a perfectly healthy 23 year old to get heart failure? But like. Honestly. When you google “crackling sounds when I breathe” like the second thing it gives you is heart failure. The first is pneumonia. My GP told me to eat less.

Also the same guy who refused to send me for a scan when I had a kidney stone that wouldn’t pass because he thought I “might want kids someday and the scans could hurt my fertility”.

#43

My gynecologist was up literally inside me and started giving me weight loss tips and “suggestions.” I reminded her, furious, that I had gone into eating disorder recovery a little over a year ago. She said “being a little overweight is just as dangerous or more as being a little underweight.”

I was maybe a size 8 at that time? I had gained a decent amount of weight, sure, up from being a size 0/2 and way, way too thin for my frame.

I obviously never went back, wrote scathing reviews, and moved on, but her saying those things to me while I was so incredibly vulnerable both literally physically in that moment, and mentally/ emotionally while I was still figuring out how to navigate recovery- it really upset me. I also had a ton of trauma around gyno stuff as I’d been dealing with cervical cancer/ hpv things for over a decade at that point and was already incredibly anxious just being there.

It was horrible. She is horrible.

#44

I have strabismus (cross eye) and he told me, well, you'll scare off all the boys looking like that.

#45

Asked for information about birth control. Told me he doesn’t believe in birth control and that I should measure my temperature every morning. If my temperature is higher, then I should know I’m ovulating…Great, thanks Doc….

#46

Me - in approx 2002 suffering from an ED and a crippling anxiety disorder seeing my (male) GP at 24 because my heart palpitations were keeping me from sleeping and I was legit scared o was going to lose my life. My hair was falling out everywhere. I was 5’9” and somewhere between 110-115 when my normal weight was still a very lean 135.

“Wow. You look fantastic. Still single? You’re in NYC now, right? My brother is a photographer there and does very well for himself.”

He gave me his brother’s number and no referral for any of the issues I can in for, other than the advice to “take a few days off and get a massage to relax a bit.”.

#47

Had an endoscopy come back clean. Doc said: well maybe the pain is caused by emotions, as I see you are taking an anti-depressant.

#48

I was having outbursts of anxiety and depression. Doctor told me that I should have two babies (not just one, because then it would be depressed like me) to resolve it.

I was Vitamin B12 and D deficient. Vitamins solved the issue. I had to figure that out myself.

#49

Updated my after visit summary note with my male gyno. I had never had an issue until this.
"Was surprised and confused by her weight and proceeded to cry hysterically."

Not how I remember it.

#50

Have you asked your husbands permission to get an IUD? It was a female doctor too.

#51

"Why is it so important to you to get a PCOS diagnosis? You aren't trying to have kids, and there's no treatment anyway."

SPOILER ALERT there is treatment, it doesn't only impact your fertility, and it was ruining my life.

#52

Welp. It happened recently. I was getting my IUD removed and I am in what they would call a "geriatric" stage in life but still able to get pregnant. The doctor said to me that I am a bit late. Not impossible but it might be harder. That the ideal age to have a child is 16. Yes, Sixteen. The doctor was a woman, too.

#53

Not a specific event, but for over a decade I've been told that my insanely itchy legs are psychosomatic. I've seen various doctors and had tests done and since nothing is coming back positive for anything, people assume I'm making it up. Sure, because I WANT to be digging holes in my skin and hurting myself because the constant itching keeps me up all night.

Finally saw a different GI doc the other week due to gallbladder concerns, and when I mentioned the itchy skin, he casually goes 'Oh, that could be a symptom of (various intestinal issues we're investigating). Not surprising at all, maybe some of these treatments will help.'

My response was, quote, 'Are you kidding me? You've seen this?' and we talked about it a bit more. I wanted to cry. Someone finally believes me!!

Edit: okay, wasn't expecting anyone to also have the same thing!! So, I have gallbladder issues in that it's basically unalive, but I'm not in pain, and I just found out last month because I had a severe chest pain attack that landed me in the ER. I'm not getting it removed yet but it doesn't seem to function anymore, I don't know if it's the exact cause or not. The GI specialist I saw put me on a med that helps with bile salt absorption, because a lot my stomach problems could be due to malabsorpion. And seriously, I'm not even the full two weeks into the med cycle and my near-daily bathroom runs after every meal are GONE. I also don't have issues with dairy, so I wonder if I'm not actually lactose sensitive but it was all gut biome stuff. I'm waiting to hear back from the GI on a long term solution but colestipol has saved me and I hope it's a step in the right diagnostic direction!

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#54

That it was all in my head. Turned out to be MS. I got an apology and it looked like he felt really bad about it, but it pissed me off so bad.

#55

I told him I had reoccurring throbbing pain near my groin for years and that sometimes it seemed to be triggered by certain foods. He said “well, stop eating those foods”.

He made no further attempts to figure out what was causing my pain and I continue to suffer today.

Edit: I want to thank everyone for your concern! I have seen many doctors since then and had ultrasounds. Nothing was wrong according to them. No further attempts were made to solve the problem.

I even went to the ER and they told me they would operate on me to see if it was my appendix but that even if it wasn’t, they would remove it anyway.

So, I’ve just learned to live with the pain.

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#56

"Your pain isn't bad enough for it to be anything worth investigating." As I'm crying on the exam table. Turned out to be endometriosis after I saw a doctor that wasn't evil.

#57

I had an early miscarriage (8wks) and the OB said it wasn’t anything to be upset about because most women wouldn’t have even known they were pregnant yet. He was such a jerk.

#58

I went to the ER because I was bleeding heavily.. I’m talkin going through a tampon and pad every half hour.. I went alone thinking I’d be fine. The doctor refused to listen to me and said that at my age (I was about 23 or 24 at the time), I should know what a heavy cycle is. He discharged me and I continued to bleed. I went to another ER and come to find out that I was actively miscarrying.

#59

Had severe acne and was going through the process of getting on accutane.

Because I had a history of depression I was required to talk to a therapist.

During my intake the topic turned to my bf at the time and I told the therapist that he was very jealous and controlling. She told me “well once you clear up that acne then he will really have something to be jealous about” bro.

#60

I was told to 'stop whining' while I was giving birth for the first time with zero pain meds, she also didn't numb me while she stitched me up AND gave me a husband stitch. That's Catholic hospitals for you though.

#61

She laughed in my face when I asked if I could be having a recurrence of the cervical cancer I once had. Spoiler alert: it was back. I had to leave her care to find out.

#62

Wasn't so much what he *said,* but when he did some testing on me and it was negative, i asked him if i could possibly have a particular disorder I'd recently learned about. he literally just laughed in my face, then moved on like I'd said nothing, and gave me a lecture about not using screens or eating anything for at least 4 hours before bed, even if that meant i couldn't do my homework (i was in high school at the time), and sent me on my way.

anyway, I'm now diagnosed with that thing i thought i had and doing much better thanks to treatment, but i had to drop out of school and lose the first half of my 20s to struggling to even work part time jobs before i got there.

honorable mention to the (FEMALE!!) OBGYN who told me i wasn't actually experiencing cramps when not menstruating, and that the pain was in fact my IBS, and I just couldn't tell the difference bc they're both in my belly.

#63

My male ob told me my weight gain during pregnancy wasn’t all baby. And even when I measured 46 he wouldn’t induce. I ended up having a 12 lb 9 oz baby and lost 33 pounds in the hospital. When I next saw him I told him it was all baby.

#64

My female gyno got mad at me for nearly vomiting, crying out in pain and feeling too faint to leave on my own after IUD insertion. She humphed that she would have to use one of her other rooms while I recovered.

#65

Not said but on my first gyn appt at 16 the (female?!!) doctor put the salad tongs in me, opened them, and left the room. I started yelling after 1/2 hour and she rushed in and just clamped them shut real quick and left without removing them. Like less than 30 seconds. It pinched me real bad and i kept screaming until they came in and FINISHEd the whole thing. Without apologies.

The patriarchy would fall right down if women really weren't as evil and patriarchal as men.

I hate doctors.

#66

“ oh you’re here for pimples! No, you’re here for bronchitis. Tell you what I’ll give you small antibiotic after you finish it’ll make your skin look beautiful.”.

#67

You have low positive hep c

After I had an abortion it turned out the dr he was infecting the girls with hep c during the procedure, I was 16.

#68

Years ago an older male gynecologist suggested I should start having babies because his wife is spending too much on his credit cards. He said the laughingly.

Visiting someone’s home can tell you a lot about them, from how they live to how they treat their guests. But sometimes, all it takes is one glance at the kitchen or one trip to the bathroom to make you regret accepting the invitation. Now, you’re mentally planning your escape and wondering how soon you can leave without being rude.

We’ve rounded up people’s stories about the things they saw at someone’s home that made them swear never to return. From downright disturbing discoveries to bizarre sights that left guests speechless, these experiences might make you think twice about your next house visit.

Get comfortable and scroll on, because some of these homes sound like places you’d need a very good excuse to leave.

#1

Stayed at a buddies apartment who’d recently moved to a new city. We worked for the same company and I decided to come in the night before a meeting to hangout. The kitchen was unusable. Dirty dishes with food on them everywhere, piled high. Like, why even own that many dishes? The bathroom had a tub that wouldn’t drain, so there was like a foot of grey water in the tub. He was kind enough to “bail it out for me” the next morning when I went to have a shower. He then informed me he had only one towel, so I dried myself with a tshirt from the day prior. Alan buddy, you were a good friend but you lived like an animal.

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#2

During a Zoom meeting, we could see a coworker's background. Her cat was using the litter box, which was on the stove.

No one ate her holidsy potluck dish.

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#3

I lived in an apartment, many times when I was coming and going to work, the lady that lived next door would be sitting on the floor outside her door. I would always stop and say hello, or ask if she was alright. I had found out from management that she was a highly educated professor from one of the Ivy League universities, but had a mental breakdown. One day, I’m coming home from work, she is waiting at the elevator for me in a total panic. She has to show me something. She takes me to her door, tells me I need to leave all my electronics outside. She opens the door and I step inside to see that every square inch of her apartment is covered in tin foil, she then went into a rant about people spying on her, showing me a bottle of Mrs Butterworths pancake syrup and explaining how it was watching her. Yea…..that night we contacted her family, she was in the hospital for a few weeks after that.

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There’s a difference between a home that looks lived-in and one that makes you wonder when anyone last picked up a cleaning cloth. A few clothes on the sofa or dishes waiting to be washed are hardly reasons to judge someone, because we all know life gets busy.

But when grime has built up on every surface and even finding a clean place to sit becomes a challenge, it’s understandable that guests might feel uncomfortable.

#4

Woman was making hamburgers  she was forming the beef patties with her hands. She reaches down and gave some raw beef to her dog. Dog licked her hands. She went right back to forming the hamburgers with her hands. .

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#5

Hoarders turn me off. So many people just don't want to throw anything out. I feel sad for them. knew a guy who couldn't find his cat. after 3 weeks it started to stink and he finally found it, unlike of course.

I knew a guy who had a log cabin on the edge of state parkland. He turned his basement into multiple bedrooms for drunks and substance users to sleep in for a modest fee. He also had a collection of squirrel heads on a shelf on his front porch. He claimed he used them for weather forecasting. Their eyelids would open and close based on humidity.

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#6

Cigarette buts and ash everywhere. Its like the entire apartment was a big ashtray. The smell was overwhelming anf my clothes smelled the same after only being there an hour or so.

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The way a house smells can shape a guest’s first impression before they’ve even taken off their shoes. You might overlook a cluttered coffee table, but a strong odor that hits you as soon as you walk through the door is much harder to ignore.

The U.S. Environmental Protection Agency notes that musty odors can indicate moisture problems or inadequate ventilation. So an unpleasant smell isn’t always a sign that someone hasn’t cleaned. Sometimes, there might be a bigger household issue that needs attention.

#7

Sleepover at friend’s house. They gave me a mattress on the floor. No sheets, no pillow, no blanket. Just a mattress. Rich family. Live-in maid. They all had proper beds and linens. Told my friend I would walk home before sleeping like that. She gave me the blanket off her bed. I don’t know if they thought I’d bring my own or that’s just how they treated guests. She had been to my house so she knew that wasn’t how we did things. That night her father got drunk and threatened to take the lives all of us so we ran outside and hid. But it’s the image of the bare mattress that sticks with me.

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#8

A friend who was involved in local politics in the north-east and who was generally truthful (with me, at least) told a story of how he was knocking on doors once and was invited in by an elderly couple. They left him alone in the living room while they went to make tea, during which time the couple’s dog jumped onto the sofa and immediately shat on one of the cushions.

The husband walked in, tutted, shooed the dog off the sofa, turned the cushion over and offered my friend his tea as if nothing had happened.

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#9

The amount of properties I've been to in over 2 decades is well into the 4 digit range.

You ever had someone in your house and found yourself awkwardly apologising about the "mess"?
99% of the time, its honestly fine. Its not an operating theatre, its a home that is being actively lived in, especially if its a family home with kids running around etc

That 1% though, Christ. Its like you are just upset someone is living that way.
And it almost always seems like they have some sort of underlying/untreated MH or other problems contributing to it, because nobody thinking straight would let it get like that

Worst ones I've seen ended up with me ringing social services because they were elderly/vulnerable with no help coming in and I couldn't in good conscience do nothing, as those are the sort of people who "go" and nobody notices they are gone. This got worse after pandemic too as alot of people had their support yanked away during the peak and not given back.

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Being a considerate host means thinking about whether your visitors feel welcome. Nobody expects a friend to prepare their home as though royalty is coming to dinner, but visitors should be able to use the bathroom without an unpleasant surprise.

Running out of toilet paper or finding no clean glass to drink from can make a visit unnecessarily awkward. A little preparation goes a long way towards making people feel at home.

#10

Friend in school asked I wanted to stay over. He had silk sheets and no heating, that was coldest night of my life. In the morning we ate angel delight for breakfast and then I rode my bike home in the rain.

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#11

I saw dirty pads lying on the floor in a mountain of mess and soiled baby nappies were thrown from the window into the garden forming a pile that was attracting all sorts of species of flies. The counters were full of week old dirty dishes. A multigenerational family of good health live there, so not sure why it wasn’t so clean. I needed water but didn’t even want to drink it from the house. I left promptly.

Unfortunately for personal reasons I occasionally have to go but I refuse to eat or drink from there..

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#12

A friend invited a few of us round for afters drinks, there was empty crisp packets everywhere like the floor was a carpet of empty crisp packets. The toilet didn’t have a seat and looked like it hadn’t been cleaned since the 80s. Needless to say we booked a taxi, made our excuses and left pretty quickly.

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Basic cleanliness matters for reasons beyond making a good impression with your guests. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, regular cleaning helps remove dirt and germs that can make people sick.

Wiping down frequently touched surfaces, washing dishes, doing laundry, and keeping kitchen counters clean can all help maintain a more hygienic home. Disinfecting every surface daily usually isn’t necessary, but staying on top of routine chores can stop dirt and germs from building up.

#13

Extreme flea infestation.

Remember those really fluffy fake sheep fleece throw cushions that seemed to be a thing in the ‘00s? They had cream ones on the sofa. When I sat on the sofa, I could see little black dots crawling through the fleece towards me.

The cats’ fur was so thick with flea dirt that when you scritched them it got under your nails.

I had to stay there for a week and the whole time, no one in the family acknowledged the fleas’ existence, though they must have been getting bitten to pieces like I was.

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#14

A friend had gone to see a patient. They lived in a 5th floor flat.

She went to the kitchen to wash her hands. Opened the door and was confronted with a horse. Remember, 5th floor?

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#15

Her dad had his machete collection out and was sharpening them. He was talking to them like they were his friends; it was really bizarre. The guy was obsessed with knives and blades.

We decided to play at my house that night.

Eventually, that guy tried to take the life of my friend's mom with one of the machetes, and it was a whole ordeal. I lost my friend overnight; her mom moved her away and didn't give out any contact details.

The state of your home may also affect how you feel. A recent study found a link between household clutter and lower psychological well-being. This means that living in a disorganized space may go hand in hand with feeling less satisfied with life and experiencing poorer mental health.

Keeping your home reasonably organized can help you feel more comfortable and at ease in your surroundings.

#16

The Dad in the 90s was an alcoholic sheet metal worker he’s sober now but my friends and I were swimming when he came home. He stumbled into the backyard and flopped into the pool fully clothed with work boots.

He was floating face down like a corpse. I asked my friend if we should get him out. He seemed unconcerned saying his Dad was a scuba diver & could hold his breath long.

The mom came out yelling at the Dad who just started blowing bubbles face down. I left.

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#17

I was asleep on the couch. I woke up to my friend's dad leaning over me, just looking at me. I got up later and called my parents to come pick me up. Soon after that, my friend told me that his father said, "Your friend can not come over anymore. I was in junior high school, and I am a male.

Yep, dodged that bullet .... turns out the guy's dad was arrested a few years ago for CP.

#18

I was a Chevy Astro van driver, there’s apparently a following for this. Met a fellow Chevy Astro van owner on a dating app and met for coffee. They wanted to show me their van. When I got in I realized it was gutted with only a bare mattress, toilet paper and a bucket in the back. He was living out of it and not in the glorified van lifer way. I got out promptly and went home.

Of course, not every reason to swear off someone’s home has anything to do with cleanliness. A host who rummages through your belongings without permission, makes you feel unwelcome, or ignores your personal boundaries can make a visit uncomfortable, no matter how spotless their home is.

And if you encounter something that genuinely makes you feel unsafe, you’re under no obligation to stay or accept another invitation just to be polite.

#19

Huge spiderwebs with a spider in the corner of each room. When I alerted my cousins of the spider, my cousins looked at me like I was crazy and said the spiders eat the bugs u_u as there’s little baby roaches crawling over the dishes in the sink
Yea my brothers and I got out of there so fast and went back to my grandparents.

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#20

I went over to a guy's house once and he had, in his dining room, dozens of dog feces. It was a unique home feature that I'm personally glad I've never seen replicated in any other home I've been invited into.

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#21

Baby laying unattended on a stained mattress on the floor. I was 12 at a sleepover, was too scared to go home and felt guilty that I was uncomfortable with my friend's home life.

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Some visits leave you feeling right at home while others leave you wondering how quickly you can make your exit.

Now we want to hear your stories: What’s the most outrageous thing you’ve ever seen at someone’s house that made you swear you’d never visit again? Tell us in the comments and give us the juicy details. We have a feeling some of these stories will be hard to top!

#22

The floor was literally just dirt. Not dirt on top of flooring, but you could dig in the floor like you were outside. A few spots had grass and moss growing.

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#23

Lots of food wrappers on the floor.

I don't mind clutter, but garbage - things that rot? Get out of here.

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#24

They were an “if it’s yellow let it mellow” household. I held it in and left early the next the morning.

#25

Marilyn Monroe shrine.

That’s not to say it couldn’t be done tastefully, but this one was definitely not done tastefully.

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#26

Their husband hiding in the wardrobe with a classic 80's handheld VHS camera. For God's sake man, it's 2023, use a mobile phone like the rest of us.

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#27

Went to the bathroom. Came out to wash my hands and the soap bar was just covered in pubes that you couldn't see any of the soap.

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#28

A child sized coffin as a coffee table. I had a 2 year old at the time.

Nope. Bye.

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#29

Smell. It's always the smell. Overwhelming litter box smell at my daughter's friend's house. We have cats and I'm sympathetic, but it was bad bad.

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#30

The garbage piled halfway to the ceiling and the stench OMG I didn't know homes could smell so bad unless their was an unalive body in it. I had to take a shower and throw the clothes in the wash. Or it was just so gross it stuck in my nose but I swear I absorbed the stench.

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#31

No books to be seen with a follow up, 'Yeah, I never read'.

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#32

Went to a guys house that had a bunch of guns and knives laid out on his table like they were on display. Which isn’t the worst because I live in the south but it was a bit weird. But we watched a movie and when I went to leave (because I just honestly wasn’t interested in anything further) he made jokes about not letting me leave and he could keep me there if he wanted and physically picked me up and tried to walk me back towards his bedroom and acted like it was a joke but I got extremely uncomfortable with the bit and was scared he was serious. Luckily I got out of there unscathed and blocked him.

#33

Seeing a friend of a friend feeding her two cats up on the work surface, where she was making a sandwich for her kid. I thought at first the worksurface was textured when I walked into the kitchen. It wasn't it was just dried on Felix in jelly.

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#34

A photograph of me, in a compromising position, that could have only been taken by a spy camera.

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#35

It was a cat rescue and the shelters they had the cats in were fine but their house was a mess and jumping with fleas. The two kittens we took were in a tiny cage filled with their feces. And the lady had the audacity to insist she inspected our house to see if it met her standards!

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#36

Well, now I don't feel so bad about my own home. Thanks for all these comments!

My answer: When I was dating in my younger years, I saw my fair share of men's beds without sheets and one single crumpled up yellow pillow without a pillow case. You'd be appalled at how common this is/was amongst 20 to 25 year old men.

#37

Might be controversial but a dog. I'm talking a massive German Shepherd that did not stop barking the entire time to the point we couldn't go to the bathroom in case we set it off.

#38

My friends husband washing the cat’s litter box in the kitchen sink, on top of dirty dishes.

#39

No hand soap/wash of any kind in the bathroom, there wasn't any in the whole house, they had kids too.

#40

Watched a family member put some meat in the microwave to defrost, but just on the glass turntable plate, not in a dish or anything. Then just left the plate in there and shut the door, not a chance he was going back to wash it. I couldn't avoid going back but that was the last time I ever ate at their house.

#41

My neighbour's dishcloth. I look after their pets when they're on holiday and have the misfortune of having to wash their cat's dishes with this dishcloth that i swear hasn't been washed or replaced in ten years, it's brown, slimy, smelly, and disintegrating. Absolutely revolting.

#42

Twice I visited someone in a home that was mostly a static caravan in a field and the first visit showed a messy caravan but still tidy. Come the next visit eight years later - a very different story oh my. The caravan is there but messy and there was an extension added for the bathroom - a basic one by the way. I was offered tea that I barely touched because it came from unfiltered water and then there’s the smell - made me gag. It was from all the junk littered around the field.

This is in Wales by the way - someone who lived off grid and disconnected from society.

#43

When they never open the windows and the damp air and ammonia smell (what even causes it?) just hit you the moment you walk in the door. I end up coughing for the rest of the day.

#44

Used sanitary towels all over the place in the bathroom. They also had unused ones where the insides had been torn out. We are talking back in the 90s and these sanitary towels were made of a cotton wool type material.

#45

While at university, I was invited to stay for the weekend at the parents’ house of my handsome new boyfriend. We had dinner with his mum and dad, the four of us around the table; I was doing my best to impress … and after dinner I suggested that I take the used plates back into the kitchen. “No need!” breezed my boyfriend’s mum, at which point my boyfriend and his parents (still seated) picked up their dinner plates and held them low for their roaming dogs to lick the plates ‘clean’. “Of course-“breezed the mum, “-we do put the plates in the dishwasher afterwards.”

My new relationship did not last even half that weekend.

#46

Their parents were fighting hard, throwing stuffs at each other.

I was a child, just wanna go my friend's house to play. There were other kids crying. I immediately said to myself maybe other time.

#47

Went to dinner at family member's house and they fixed the plates for everyone I asked them not to put peas on my plate because I hate them and was told "In this house we eat what's served" I was a grown woman I walked out.

#48

My ex kicked me out of the house (rightfully) and I didn't have anywhere to go until an old friend said I could go to her place. She wasn't there but said to let myself in. I walked in and there was trash and dirty diapers everywhere, plates of old food on the stairs and the bedrooms, trash piled ankle height through the whole place and oh God the smell. I walked out with my suitcase and told her I found somewhere else. Haven't been back since, though she invites me over every time we see each other out and about.

#49

Met a stranger through a temp agency at a job site that didn’t quite pan out, so we hung out for the rest of the day, he started getting drunk immediately (9am) but I was driving and didn’t really mind it. We go to his house and it’s nice, clean, effort was put in to keep it that way. I was around 21 at the time and this guy was well into his 40s anyways shortly after we got there his wife came homes and started screaming at him, threatening him, threatening to call the cops, and reprimanding him for “bringing this white boy into my house” (they both were black and I’m white) he was yelling back throwing insults and threats and telling me to stay. I told her she had a lovely home and thanked her for having me over (I don’t know if she heard me she was screaming at him the whole time) and promptly left. I always thought that dude should’ve left as well because she was making it quite clear that he was not welcome there but it didn’t seem like he was listening.

#50

So many candles lit and scent things plugged in, instant migraines for me so I had to step out.

#51

At my in-laws, the the partly eaten turkey was put in the microwave overnight so it could be used for leftovers the next day. I couldn't really never go there again as long as I wanted to stay married but I was careful about what I ate.

#52

1.  Uncle had an unsecured firearm tucked under the couch in the children's playroom basement.  It was a high caliber revolver, loaded.  ( Most revolvers don't have safety switches, they rely on heavyish trigger pull.). 

My 5 yr old little brother found it..

#53

Filth with roaches and rats. Only experienced that once, thankfully.

#54

I had a girlfriend in college where the romantic relationship didn't last long but we remained friendly. It came to pass that she asked me to feed her cats while she and her new boyfriend were away. I really liked the cats, and the new boyfriend wasn't a bad guy either so I said yes.

And letting myself into their apartment for the week is how I found out they were substance users. When I changed the litter boxes, it was clearly the first time this had been done in a while.

I was probably 20 years old so I didn't make a big deal about it, I just backed away from them. The cats appeared well fed, at least.

#55

Making sandwiches by hand and licking their fingers every five seconds.

#56

They let their pets urine and feces freely in their carpeted house. They'd pick up the big pieces here and there, but lots of it was caked into the fibres. Didn't seem to think it was weird.

#57

Tiny studio type room with a board on the window ledge for cats to come and go. There were 16 cats walking on the table, cat hair in food, cat feces on floor. One (at least one) cat had diarrhoea. Back home l had to take a shower immediately and all clothes into washing machine l stank so bad.

#58

My friend's dog and cat both up on their dining table eating leftovers off their plates while their kid was sat eating her dinner.

#59

One of my best friends lives in a house that is literally a tip.

And he isn’t poor by any means, he is quite well off. But the house is just filthy. Boxes scattered everywhere, floor dirty because shoes aren’t being taken off.

I’m not in a rush to go back.

#60

I didn't leave immediately but wanted to, all of the doors locked from the inside and only their Dad had the keys. Neighbours invited me inside because I'd lost my house keys.

We watched original star trek for a bit because that was apparently one of the show's they were allowed to watch?

Nice enough people but complete weirdos in hindsight.

#61

In high school, my friend's house, they had like 5 or 6 Shar Peis. The smell, oh god the smell. I left as soon as I could and never went back.

#62

The undressed photos of his wife on every wall in the apartment. Right after he had introduced me to his wife. Awkward...

#63

Yep I wen into a clients house and there were roaches crawling everywhere. I’ve never been more repulsed.

#64

They had a rotten turkey from Christmas in their fridge. It was March.

#65

I was a service professional going to someone's house for a job. I had met them before, it wasn't a one-time kind of service. This time I needed to knock on the front door to confer with the homeowners about something in the back yard. I heard a woman's voice saying "you little jerk! You're a little jerk *from hell*!!"

I went into the back yard to do my work. She came out a few minutes later and said "sorry I couldn't come to the door, I WAS CHANGING MY NEWBORN BABY'S DIAPER"

OMG. I still had to go back, though. The husband later said "don't ever get married". Yeah, not to *her*, that's for sure.

Going through someone else’s phone is definitely an ethical and moral grey area. For many couples, it’s something they’ve always done without ever having any problems with it. For others, it’s an invasion of privacy and something that shouldn’t be normalized.

But not everyone is the same, and some people end up snooping and finding things they never expected, and no, we're not talking about questionable Instagram likes. Some stumble upon the most unhinged, unexpected things about their husbands and boyfriends that they never could have predicted. So today, we’re bringing you some examples of the baffling things women have found on their partners’ phones.

#1

My now husband watching videos of lettuce and other plants growing in a time lapse on YouTube.

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#2

A picture of my ill grandmother’s credit card while we were visiting her. He is now ex husband shaped.

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#3

Hundreds of pictures of Godzilla.

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To the surprise of many people in this thread, snooping through a partner’s phone is shockingly common. According to a Pew Research Center study on digital technology and relationships, around 34% to 67% of adults, depending on the survey, admit to looking through their partner’s phone without permission at least once.

The surveys also consistently show that women are slightly more likely than men to check their partner’s phone, often citing gut instinct or a sudden change in their partner’s behavior as the reason. While this doesn’t mean snooping should be condoned, the women on this list were, for the most part, right to trust their instincts.

#4

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My ex had created a bunch of fake accounts that he was using to say absolutely heinous things to me in comments of my own posts on the internet.

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He regularly messages celebrity instagrams (Akon, Pitbull, 50cent, etc). They don’t reply but he still messages them regularly like they’re friends. Even asked 50cent to be our sons godfather.

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And these discoveries aren’t that rare, either. According to cybersecurity firms, around half of the people who snoop through their partners’ phones end up finding something they weren’t meant to see. These discoveries can range from harmless secrets to full-blown infidelity or even entire hidden digital lives.

While people used to hide their secrets in diaries tucked under mattresses or letters stashed in desk drawers, smartphones have practically become modern-day diaries. They offer a glimpse into people’s minds, revealing their fleeting thoughts, meme collections, search histories, and private interactions.

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My ex husband had taken dozens of photos of me sleeping. I was looking for a picture I knew he'd taken of the kids and there they were. Like... Just me asleep. Different days. Over, and over. It was fkn bizarre.

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I found the results of an “am I autistic” quiz and was like wow that score’s kinda high, so I took the same one and mine was the highest possible score.

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My husbands phone background is a picture from our wedding. Cute right? Wrong. It’s him holding our dogs paw. It looks like they’re getting married. You can vaguely see my back in the background. And yes, this is the dog he “didn’t want”.

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Picking arguments with women online... Like— I’m talking incel level arguments!!

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He was trying to cheat on me and getting rejected left and right in the DMs. That one f****d me up bc wym ur trying to cheat and NO ONE WANTS U?! Why do I want u?! That was rough.

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He uses BING!!!! The search engine bing!!

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I found EVERYTHING on that phone. The daughters he never told me about, his real name, his age, my mechanic who I thought was just a random guy that turned out to be his brother, his other brother who he claimed was deceased that was actually him. The list goes on and on. I had no clue who I was with for 15 months. He lived to lie.

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A group chat of him and his friends joking about how stupid I was for not catching him cheating (yet). And that I was going to be stuck with him forever because I was pregnant with our son at the time, that he locked me down.

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One of my exes was in quite a few trans girls DMs…..

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He went on my phone and blocked the girls Instagram account that he was cheating on me with. When I saw my blocked list and saw her page, I unblocked her, and there were photos of them together in MY CAR. She lived 2 hours away. So when he would tell me he was going to work, he was actually driving up to see her. I was healing from surgery when this happened so I couldn’t even walk.

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In our first year of dating, my fiance was showing me something on his phone and when he started swiping he accidentally swiped to a picture of his.... chocolate starfish. I was in disbelief of how close that baby was to the camera, while he was absolutely mortified. Apparently he was checking for hemorrhoids and forgot to delete it after.

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My ex had downloaded a program to his laptop that, when an iPhone was plugged in to charge or update, it would somehow recover deleted iMessages. He was trying to catch me cheating. I was not cheating. When I opened it out of curiosity one night while he was away on exercise, it showed me all his deleted messages and who he’d been sleeping with behind my back.

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I found an entire pro and con list of me on his computer.
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Girl I found his Reddit. Dark stuff on that app.

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Him wearing my clothes….and wigs….

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I was dating an older man who barely used social media. We were together nearly FIVE YEARS when I found a secret Twitter account on his phone. The entire account was him harassing LL Cool J to make new music.
I wish this was a bit. I would have rather found a second family.

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Yearssssss ago. He had 5 dating apps on his phone, 2 or 3 that required payment. Every woman was leaving him on read. It’s humbling to realize you’re crying over a dude no one else wants.

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Pictures of his side very pregnant in his deleted folder. He then threw the phone out the window on 75 going 90mph. Good times.

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His face photoshopped onto my best friend’s body.

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Brands need good marketing so that customers buy their products. But good marketing back in the 1950s meant something entirely different from what it does now. Whereas now we're more sensitive to different cultures, minorities, and generally things that could offend people, it seems like marketing gurus of the past didn't bother thinking about that much.

Or was it just a different time with different values and definitions of what's inappropriate? We'll let you be the judge of that as you scroll through these vintage advertisements that Bored Panda has collected from various places online. A dash of sexism, bad medical advice, and just hilariously bad ideas are what these old-timey ads have in common.

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Adulting can be pretty depressing. Mondays arrive far too quickly, paychecks don’t, and the state of the world doesn’t exactly help. Sometimes, it feels like there’s very little to be optimistic about.

But every so often, you stumble across something wholesome, whether it’s a story, a video, or a meme, that makes things feel a little brighter. Sometimes, it’s just someone sharing a small win or one of life’s little moments that reminds you things aren’t all that bad. That’s what r/wholesomegreentext is all about. The community describes itself as “a community of friendly individuals who believe the best part of waking up is a wholesome meme in your cup.” So, before you doomscroll yourself into oblivion, here’s something to sip on.

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#2 Anon Dates Blind Girl

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#3 Anon Gets Cheated On By His Wife

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Collecting “greentexts that hit your heart,” the r/wholesomegreentexts subreddit is almost a decade old. But if you’re a little “green” on what exactly a greentext is, don’t worry. I’ve got you. Greentexts are basically a unique form of storytelling that originated on the image board site 4chan in around March 2010.

The name comes from the platform’s formatting, where starting a post with a greater-than sign (>) causes the text, normally maroon, to appear in green when the post is published. Apart from the font color, what makes these posts distinctive is the style they’re typically written in.

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#5 Anon Don't Need Pizza

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#6 Best Dad Ever

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You’ll notice there are no long paragraphs here. Usually, these posts contain stories told through a series of concise, bullet-style lines, with each short line building toward a punchline, unexpected revelation, or memorable moment. These narratives “are often confessional in nature, dealing with the authors’ triumphs and tragedies alike,” as researcher Agustin IV Morado explains in his 2016 thesis.

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#8 Anon Is Friends With A Cow

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#9 Anon Meets Canadians

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In other words, these stories can cover just about anything, from awkward social encounters to personal struggles and unexpected victories. As Morado explains, “Given the anonymity that 4chan offers, the site offers a perfect medium for people to tell stories in which they may have done things that are unethical or perhaps illegal. Other greentext stories may be humorous, perhaps even silly, and thus not meant to be taken seriously.”

That anonymity can also help users find common ground. Morado argues that greentexts allow “anonymous 4chan users, who tend to be outsiders from mainstream society, a way to identify with each other through shared stories.”

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#11 Anon Appreciates His Dad

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Wholesome greentext stories are especially interesting given 4chan’s reputation for largely being anything but. It helped shape today’s online culture in numerous ways, but as The New Yorker’s Kyle Chayka expressed, “4chan was where I learned that the internet could be bad.” Some have even called it “one of the Internet’s most controversial websites.” Morado, however, put it more mildly, noting its “off-color, offensive humor.”

Yet even in a corner of the internet known for its darker side, people have found stories worth sharing for an entirely different reason: they make us feel good.

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#14 Anon Receives Enlightenment

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Perhaps that reflects something about us more broadly. As Amy Francombe wrote for The Standard, “The internet can be a hostile place. Trolls rule the comment sections, hot takes might as well be called mean takes, and we’re all one wrong post away from being cancelled.” But her 2023 article also explored a growing Gen Z appetite for wholesomeness, something she described as the “new Gen Z aspirational #mood.”

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#17 Anon Loves Kebab

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One explanation may be the uncertainty many young people face. As Letty Cole, a creative strategist at MØRNING and editor of Burn After Reading, told The Standard, “Gen Z are grappling with political uncertainty, a climate emergency, and the loneliness and burnout caused by late-stage capitalism: wholesomeness is just one way to cope.” Against that backdrop, she sees the appetite for the wholesome less as a passing “mood,” and more as a “quiet form of resistance.”

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With so much attention focused on what’s going wrong in the world, from global crises to 4chan edgelords, choosing to celebrate kindness, community, and the little things that make life worthwhile can be a way of pushing back—and reaching out.

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#23 Family Is Important

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And that brings us back to these greentexts. Originally shared by anons on 4chan, these stories have also found an audience on Reddit, where communities like r/wholesomegreentexts collect posts that capture the internet’s softer side. Behind those green lines of text are people sharing personal experiences and finding common ground with strangers.

#25 For Once In My Life

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#26 Anon Unchuds Himself

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#27 Anon Lives With Parents

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And so, perhaps in more ways than one—whether they’re about small acts of kindness, unlikely friendships, or small but meaningful moments—these posts offer a glimpse of the good that can exist alongside everything else.

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#29 Thanks Jerry

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#30 Anon Has A Cat

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#31 True Homie!

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#32 Go Out With Family

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#33 Anon Accidentally Goes On A Gay Date And Actually Enjoys It

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#34 Anon Is The Real King Of Burger King

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#36 Alarm Clock Starts Ringing

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#37 Anon Loves His Mom

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#38 Real And Proud

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#39 Anon Is A Rich Guy

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#40 Anon Flunked Art School And Will Now Start A Career In Politics

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#41 Anon Points Out The Sacrifices Fathers Make

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#42 Femanon Goes To Buffalo Wild Wings

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#43 Anons Goes For Some Enjoyment

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#47 Listening For The Plot

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#48 Way To Go, Anon

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#49 Anon No Students So Anon Build Blocks With Anon's Kindergarten Coworkers

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#50 Gyms Are Truly Magical!

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While having a job provides a livelihood, the work environment can get bad. We’re talking about unreasonable management, a toxic office culture, and corporate greed that benefits no one but the people at the top. 

Meanwhile, those who do all the work are left to stew in their frustration. Some have chosen to air their grievances on social media, and this page's posts are excellent examples. As you scroll, you will see why many have chosen to fight back against the system. 

Here are some of the posts that stood out the most. Feel free to upvote the ones that resonated with you most.

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Employee turnover is one of the costliest company outcomes, and it's mostly preventable. According to Gallup, it’s mostly because managers aren’t doing their part to keep employees. 

Gallup reported that 55 percent of exiting employees said managers or the organization itself “could have done something” to keep them. One of those things is recognizing the signs that an employee is about to leave. 

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A manager’s job isn’t to make an employee’s work life easier. However, good managers listen and accept feedback. 

Gallup’s report also found that 62% of employees are less likely to feel burned out if their manager is willing, at the very least, to listen to their work-related problems. This makes them feel heard and like their opinions matter.

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It also goes without saying that a toxic work environment can lead to poor mental health. According to the World Health Organization, an estimated 12 billion workdays are lost every year because of issues related to depression and anxiety. 

How much does that translate into monetary losses? Around $1 trillion per year in lost productivity.

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The WHO defines work-related mental health issues as psychosocial risks. Apart from unsafe or poor physical working conditions, these risks include all forms of discrimination and exclusion, violence or bullying, lack of control over design or workload, and unclear job roles. 

They also include common issues like job insecurity, inadequate pay, poor investment in career development, and conflicting home and work demands.

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Not everyone can afford to quit a job that makes them miserable. However, calling out these workplace frustrations and bringing them to light can remind people they’re not alone. 

If you've had your own toxic workplace experiences, feel free to vent in the comments below.

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