History is not just about significant time periods, inventions, famous figures, or events of mass destruction. In the midst of all that, there is human life: silent moments of everyday life that can tell us more about a place in time than any textbook or historian ever could.

Many of us have seen photographs of world leaders at historical summits, gut-wrenching shots from military zones, and cool images of what ancient buildings looked like a couple of years prior. But this time, Bored Panda invites you to see photographs such as the hands of a homesteader from 1936, the space dog Chernushka, and the home of a rural switchboard operator in 1950s Sweden. They may not be of global importance, but they still say: we were here.

#1 Russell Lee, Man At The Bar On Saturday Night, Craigville, Minnesota, September 1937. Posted The Photo Back In The Day, But It Has This Lonely Desperate Feeling Of Existential Crisis

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#2 Maison Kammerzell, Strasbourg, Alsace, 1895

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#3 Ismo Hölttö, Man With His Cat, Norway 1967. Sad Day For Me. My Cat Is Missing Second Week. Happy Hunting In Afterlife My Dear Friend

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#4 Rural Switchboard Operator With Her Cat In Örsundet, Sweden 1953

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#5 In 1940, The Marc Aurel Stein Expedition Took This Extraordinary Picture Of The Arch Of Roman Bridge Still Standing Near Mosul

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#6 Warsaw, 1946

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#7 Interior Of U-Boat 110, 1918

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#8 A Lone Woman Picketing Against Immigration Raids, Los Angeles 1937

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#9 A Wounded Canadian And A Wounded German In The Mud Of Passchendaele Sharing A Smoke. November, 1917

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#10 Baby Camel On A Camel In Western Australia, 1916

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#11 An Austro-Hungarian Soldier Descent Into The City Of Ice Underneath The Marmolada Glacier, 1916. Stunning And Otherworldly Photo

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#12 Ballard Mill, 1958

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#13 Two Men By Monumental Elephant Statues, China 1870's

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#14 The Original Waldorf-Astoria Hotel In New York. Demolished In 1929 To Serve As The Site For The Empire State Building

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#15 Inflation King, Germany 1923. Outfit Made Out Of Worthless Coins

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#16 Sam Hood, Soldiers Goodbye & Bobbie The Cat, Sydney Ww2 Period

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#17 George A. Van Biesbroeck, Astronomer At Yerkes Observatory Observing Mars When It Approached Close To The Earth In 1926, And Using The 40 Inch Refracting Telescope, The Largest Of Its Kind In The World

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#18 Man In His House In Pipe City, Oakland, 1932. Roughly 200 Men Were Allowed To Lived In Sections Of Unused Sewer Pipes By The American Concrete And Steel Pipe Company

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#19 Bandages Retrieved From The Kit Of A British Dog, 1915

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#20 Funeral Ceremony For Victor Hugo At The Arc De Triomphe, 1885

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#21 Turkish Soldier Returns From 1st Balkan War, 1912/1913

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#22 Dog Child, A North West Mounted Police Scout, And His Wife, The Only Handsome Woman, Members Of The Blackfoot Nation, Gleichen, Alberta, 1890. Interesting That He Is Holding Japanese Sword

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#23 Last Kiss Before Going Off To Korean War, USA 1950

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#24 Boy Painting A Face On The Back Of His Father’s Bald Head, 1877

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#25 Russell Lee, Hands Of Old Homesteader, Iowa 1936

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#26 Man Catches Alcohol To The Cup Pured Down From Window By Prohibition Agent, USA 1925. Great Photo

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#27 Russell Lee, "Boys On Easter Morning, 1941, Southside Chicago”

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#28 The British Concorde Fleet At London Heathrow Airport, January 21, 1986

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#29 The Esso Hibernia Under Construction, Wallsend Shipyard, 1970

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#30 Blackfoot Piegan Native Americans In Northern Montana, 1908

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#31 Marvin Koner, A Nun Watches Orphaned Children Sleep At Casa De Beneficencia Orphanage In Havana, 1940s

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#32 Irish Woman With Spinning Wheel, 19th C

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#33 Portrait Of Japanese Archer, 1910s

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#34 Manchester United vs. Wolverhampton Wanderers, 26th March 1949

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#35 Inuit Girl, Nancy Columbia, And Dog Taken At The Louisiana Purchase Exposition, Missouri, 1904

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#36 John F. Kennedy Campaigning In West Virginia, 1960

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#37 Los Angeles Courthouse. Built In 1891

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#38 Porcelain Shop, Japan 1900

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#39 Frozen Niagara Falls, 1885

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#40 Unemployed Men Outside A Soup Kitchen In Chicago, 1931

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#41 A High School Football Club In Bursa, Ottoman Empire 1910

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#42 Lunch Hour At The Raphael Weill Public School, San Francisco, California 1942

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#43 The Uzbek Republic’s Leading And Most Decorated Winegrower, Rizamat Musamukhamedov, Bred A New Grape Variety (Bayan Shirey), 1939

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#44 Glasgow, 1870

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#45 Cabbage Instead Of Roses At St. Isaac's Square, Autumn 1942

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#46 Colosseum In 1846

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#47 No Dog Biscuits Today, London 1939

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#48 Stuttgart, 1931

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#49 Valentin Khukhlayev, A Grocery Store In Krasnodonsky Sovkhoz In Kazakhstan, 1959

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#50 Kyoto, 1960

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#51 Hydraulic Press In Krupp Works At Essen, Germany 1928

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#52 Lebaudy Brothers Dirigible Over Paris, 1903

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#53 Ernest Henry Wilson, Men Laden With Tea, Sichuan Sheng, China 1908. Posted The Photo In The Past, But Found Great Article About 1917 – 1919: Expedition To Eastern Asia

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#54 Unloading Rations For Soldiers During Ww1

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#55 Oak Bridge Telephone Operators Getting Ready For A Shift Change At The Switchboard

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#56 Portrait Of Native American Couple With A Child, 1900s

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#57 Felice Beato, Temple Street In Nagasaki, 1863

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#58 Theodore Roosevelt Jr. With Eli Yale, A Hyacinth Macaw, In The White House Conservatory, 1902

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#59 Los Angeles, 1950's

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#60 Hiroo Onoda, Japanese Soldier Who Refused To Surrender Until 1974. After The War Ended Onoda Spent 29 Years Hiding Out In The Philippines Until His Former Commander Traveled From Japan To Formally Relieve Him From Duty By Order Of Emperor Shōwa

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#61 Policeman Dumping Alcohol Into The Gutter, New York 1922

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#62 A Watermelon Eating Contest In Cincinnatti, Ohio, 1915

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#63 Soviet Space Dog Chernushka Before Her Flight In 1961

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#64 Soldiers In Bunk Bed, 1915

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#65 Empire State Building During Construction With Zeppelins In The Background, 1930

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#66 Workers At A Brewery Unload Thousands Of Crates Of Beer, Getting Ready For The End Of Prohibition. April, 1933

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#67 A Korean Lady Prepares To Be Carried Through The Streets In Her Sedan Chair, 1890-1923

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#68 An Austro-Hungarian Patrol In The Carnic Alps, 16 July 1916

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#69 "Near The Forbidden City, A Simpleton Whose Job Is To Assist Brides In A Sedan Chair, Beijing, December 1948."

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#70 Kendo Practice, Japan First Half Of 20th C

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#71 Soldiers Of An Australian 4th Division Field Artillery Brigade Walk On A Duckboard Track Laid Across A Muddy, Shattered Battlefield In Chateau Wood, Near Hooge, Belgium, October 29, 1917

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#72 A View Of Castle Garth With Dog Leap Stairs, 1890s

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#73 Third Class Dining Saloon In Lusitania, 1906

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#74 James Leon Williams, When We Were Boys, 1895

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#75 Gordon Parks, Department Store, Mobile, Alabama 1956

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#76 Scene From Siemens Factory, 1900-1930

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#77 Factory Workers At The End Of Their Shift, Indiana 1946

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#78 Loading The Copper Bars Into The Ship, USA 1905. Stunning Quality And Resolution

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#79 Woman With Slabs Of Bacon Tied To Her Feet Standing In A Giant Skillet Holding An Enormous Wooden Spatula, Chehalis, Washington 1929

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#80 Mammoth And Giant Octopus Department Of Ethnology Interior Of Anthropology Building, 1893. From Portfolio Of Photographs Of The World's Fair By The Werner Company

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#81 Virna Haffer, Old Tacoma Hotel Fire, 1935

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#82 Richard Jenkins, Group Of Men With Romford & Evershed Ltd Pershorf 1885 Steam Engine, First Half Of 20th C

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#83 Bronx, 1970's

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#84 Lewis Hine, Junkies Breaking Up Old Looms To Be Sold For Scrap-Iron And Said To Be Sent To Japan For Munitions, 1936

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#85 Baltimore In 1815

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#86 Lobby Stairs To Waiting Room And Concourses, Chicago & North Western Railway, Chicago, 1912

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#87 Steamer J.s. Docked In New Orleans, 1919. Great Photo

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#88 A Cowboy Stands In Front Of His Cabin, Hot Springs, Arkansas 1901

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#89 American Soldiers Writing Their Names On Top Of Taj Mahal, Ww2

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#90 Anchor Men With Mauretania Chain And Anchor, 1910s. Man On The Right Is Absolute Unit Looking Like Dishonored Character

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#91 Russell Lee, People In The Bus Station. Welch, Mcdowell County, West Virginia, 1946

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#92 Star Reporter Rick Brennan Argues With Gas Station Owner Neil Shepherd Who's Refusing To Gas Russian-Made Lada Cars, Canada 1980

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#93 Pilots From Lafayette Escadrille With Two Mascots Lions Whiskey And Soda, 1916/1917

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Food is supposed to be fun, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with getting a little creative in the kitchen. Right, Pandas? But every now and then, someone comes up with a dish that makes you stop, stare, and wonder, “How exactly did we get here?”

In today’s collection, people are sharing some of the strangest, most questionable, and downright confusing dishes they've come across. From bizarre ingredient combinations to food presentations that seem to defy all logic, these creations prove that not every culinary experiment is destined for greatness. Some might be surprisingly delicious, while others look like they should come with a warning label. Keep scrolling to see the dishes that had people asking one very important question: What were they thinking?

#1 When Somebody Attempts To Cook A Fkn Hot Dog In The Air Fryer

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#2 Yo What Rat Pizza

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#3 What Happened That Lead To Either Of These Existing? Anyone Tried Either Of These?

Always thought, “you know what this apple pie is missing? Beans.”

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Let's be honest: most of us have thrown away a little food at some point. Maybe it was the last bite of a meal that had gone cold, the vegetables left behind by a picky eater, or that container of leftovers hiding at the back of the fridge until it became completely unrecognizable. Sometimes the food simply doesn't taste as good as we hoped, and sometimes we cook far more than anyone could possibly eat. No one usually intends to waste food, but those small, everyday decisions can add up to a much bigger problem when they are repeated by millions of people around the world.

#4 They Banned Me For This

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#5 This Sub Pmo Because A Majority Of The Posts Here Labelling Foods "Stupid" Are Just Ignorant Of Different Cultures, Anyway Heres An Oreo Spaghetti Ice Cream Beef Burger

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#6 "Hair" Cake. The "Hair" Are Dried Seaweed

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According to a United Nations Report, approximately 1.05 billion tonnes of food waste were generated in 2022, including inedible parts. That's roughly 132 kilograms per person and almost one-fifth of all the food available to consumers. What makes the figures especially surprising is where most of the waste happens. Around 60% of food waste takes place at the household level, while food services account for 28% and retailers for 12%. So while supermarkets and restaurants certainly play a role, a huge portion of the problem begins in our own kitchens.

#7 Burger King Thailand’s “The Real Cheeseburger”

It’s literally just a bun with 20 slices of cheese.

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#8 Just Wayyyy Too Much

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#9 Grasshoppers In Vegemite Toast

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Breaking those numbers down makes the scale even more difficult to comprehend. Households generated approximately 631 million tonnes of food waste in 2022. Food services contributed another 290 million tonnes, while retail accounted for around 131 million tonnes. On average, each person wastes approximately 79 kilograms of food every year. That is equivalent to at least 1 billion meals being wasted every single day. One forgotten lunch may not seem like a global crisis, but when similar moments happen in homes across the world day after day, the numbers quickly become staggering.

#10 Johnny Dang Got Em Right

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#11 Meal-In-A-Mould

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#12 Breakfast Of Champions

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And these figures become even more difficult to ignore when we consider the wider context. Food is being wasted at a time when approximately 700 million people around the world face hunger, while around one-third of the global population experiences some form of food insecurity. The reasons for food waste are often not dramatic or complicated. People buy more than they need, forget what they already have, plan meals poorly, or simply fail to use ingredients before they spoil. Sometimes, we see a special offer and think, "This is such a good deal!"—only to discover weeks later that the food is still sitting untouched in the back of the cupboard.

#13 This Bowl Of Oxtails Looks Straight Out Of A Horror Movie

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#14 Happy 4th Of July

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#15 Heb, I Love You, But What Is This?

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Poor storage can also cause food to spoil much faster than necessary. Other common causes include cooking portions that are too large, misunderstanding food labels, and not knowing how to use leftovers creatively. A few extra servings of rice, half a bag of vegetables, or a slightly bruised piece of fruit may seem insignificant on its own. But when these small amounts are thrown away repeatedly by households around the world, they contribute to an enormous global total.

#16 Resort Buffet Offerings

Ham and pearl onion salad topped with watermelon radish garnish *chefs kiss*

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#17 Rice Cricket Treats. Marshmellow+butter+crickets. 😋

High protein and much lower water consumption.

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#18 I Call It A Mountain Of Sorrow

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Food waste also has a major environmental impact. Before food reaches our plates, it already requires land, water, energy, packaging, transportation, labor, and countless other resources. When that food is thrown away, all of those resources are wasted too. Recent data suggests that food loss and waste are responsible for around 8–10% of annual global greenhouse gas emissions; almost five times the emissions associated with the aviation sector. Food production also uses the equivalent of nearly one-third of the world's agricultural land, meaning that wasted food contributes to biodiversity loss and puts additional pressure on ecosystems.

#19 Chocolate Eclair Hotdog Anyone?

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#20 Didn’t Want A Whole Pizza So I’m Only Having A Hole Pizza

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#21 Redioactive Chicken

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The economic cost is equally staggering. The global financial toll of food loss and waste is estimated at roughly $1 trillion. And the consequences continue even after food reaches the trash. When organic waste ends up in landfills and decomposes without enough oxygen, it can release methane, a powerful greenhouse gas. So when we throw away a meal, we are not just losing the food itself. We are also wasting the water used to grow it, the energy used to transport and prepare it, and the land and resources required to produce it in the first place.

#22 Tiramisu In Italy

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#23 My ‘Biscoff Cheesecake’ That I Got Delivered Has No Biscuit Base And Looks Like Burned Cheese

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#24 Chocolate Yam Pudding Came Out Looking Like Feces

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As Inger Andersen, Executive Director of the United Nations Environment Programme, has described it, food waste is a global tragedy. Millions of people go hungry while food is wasted around the world, creating unnecessary costs for communities, economies, the climate, and nature. The good news is that food waste is also a problem where small changes can genuinely help. Planning meals more carefully, checking what we already have before shopping, storing food properly, freezing items before they spoil, using leftovers creatively, and serving more reasonable portions can all make a difference.

#25 Someone Tell My Girlfriend To Stop Eating Dog Food

Bonus points if yall can guess what's in this concoction.

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#26 Turned My Dog Into An Eggroll

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#27 My Dad's Black Eggs? That's Pepper

Two eggs and potato salad.

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Of course, this doesn't mean anyone should feel guilty about every single bite of food they throw away. Sometimes food genuinely goes bad, a recipe fails spectacularly, or you take one bite and realize that whatever you just cooked is simply not happening. Life is not perfectly waste-free, and nobody expects it to be. The important thing is becoming a little more aware of our habits and making better choices whenever we can. Even small changes can have a meaningful impact when millions of people make them together.

And that brings us to today's collection. Some of the dishes featured here are genuinely funny, while others look like cooking experiments that took a very unexpected turn. Hopefully, at least a few of them were rescued before ending up in the trash! After all, cooking is all about experimenting, and not every recipe turns out perfectly. Sometimes dinner is delicious, sometimes it's merely edible, and sometimes you take one bite, stare at the plate in silence, and quietly order pizza instead. Keep scrolling, Pandas, and let us know—which of these dishes do you think deserved a second chance?

#28 I Messed Up My Macros, Now I Eat Mac & Cheese With Chocolate Protien

I messed up my macros this morning & tried to add some protein power to my mac. I didn’t realize it was chocolate protein & now I am left with this. It is as bad as it looks. God help me
Edit: i ate half & threw out the rest. Tasted [bad] & required water after every gulp

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#29 You Can Get A Blue Waffle Breakfast In Curaçao In Support Of Their World Cup Team

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#30 Mountain Dew Cupcakes With Doritos

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#31 Too Many People Don't Seem To Understand The Point Of This Sub... Time To Lead By Example

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#32 Breaded+ Chicken Wing

A chicken wing breaded and fried over the course of about 4 hours. How many layers we dont know.

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#33 I Made Quintuple Milk

Yo dawg, I heard you like milk, so I put milk and milk and milk and milk in your milk so you can have milk and milk and milk and milk while you drink milk

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#34 Baked Beans On Cheesecake

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#35 I Made This A Good While Back. Called It "Mayo Cheesy Bread". It Was Really Bad

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#36 This Mac And Cheese Was Fed To Me By An Evil Family

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#37 Fresh Capitalistic Horror Beyond My Comprehension

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#38 Who's Taste Buds Want This? 😭

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#39 This Is What My 6 Year Old Insisted That I Make For Her

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#40 Biscoff-Breaded Fried Chicken Breast Biscoff Ice Cream Sandwich With Biscoff Cookie, Biscoff Topping, And Smoky Maple Hot Honey On A Brioche Bun

At Toronto's Exhibition, 2025.
A bite or two was good but the sauce was too many things and it was too big and sweet. Hard to eat half of, let alone finish.
$25 CAD

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#41 A Cheeseburger My Sister Got

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#42 White Monster Sourdough Chocolate Ice Cream Sandwich

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#43 Happy 4th Of July...i Guess

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#44 Oatmeal Cream Pie Tacos

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#45 Do You Guys Like My Cheerios Latte

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#46 Twinkie Weiner Sandwich

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#47 Anchovy-Stuffed Olives And Pepper Jelly Sandwich

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#48 Get The Party Started!

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#49 Turn That Burger Into A Fruit Basket!

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#50 Leftover Macaroni Salad With Cheesey Eggs, Hot Sauce And Ranch

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#51 Malaysia, The Land Of Culinary Geniuses

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#52 Bro Made A Farting Gun In Baguette Form

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#53 "We Have Such Sights To Show You"

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#54 Costco Canned Chicken And Waffle Sandwich

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#55 Defeats The Purpose Of A Sandwich...just Incredibly Ridiculous

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#56 We Have Reached Deep Ends

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#57 I Deep Fried Some Cheezits

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#58 Is This The Correct Way To Make Fried Banana?

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#59 I Saw The Ramenwhich

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#60 More Food From My Boyfriend. He Calls It “The Broth”

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#61 What Can We Call This Sandwich?

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#62 Red, White And Ewww

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#63 If The Eggs Aren’t Gravel, I Ain’t Eating

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#64 I Made A Birthday Cake 🎂, However, It's A Little Bit (Unusual) 😬

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#65 Had The Munchies

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#66 Rate My Stupid Food, Taco Dogs

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#67 To British People. We Should Run

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#68 Tuna With Baked Beans Fried In Butter With Red Onions And Garlic, A Filling For A Sandwich

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We’ve heard about relationship pranks that go a step too far. But what happens when a partner intentionally lies, and then expects you to laugh it off as a joke?

That’s the nightmare scenario one 21-year-old woman recently found herself in. After a night out, her boyfriend’s mother sent a harrowing text saying he didn’t survive a car crash. She instantly went into panic mode.

Sharing her story online, she said she went into shock and did something extreme. But moments later, her boyfriend walked through the door completely fine.

When the truth finally came out, he offered no apologies and started blaming his girlfriend for being too emotional.

As one person in the comments noted: “You couldn’t hold a candle to this guy in the drama stakes.”

A woman received a text message from her boyfriend’s mother saying that he had passed away

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She later realized that he was trying to cover up for his bad decisions

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Emotional manipulation tactics that severely harm the victim

In this story, the author’s boyfriend made her believe that he had passed away in a severe car crash. When she reacted emotionally and eventually got angry that he had lied, he told her she was “ruining the joke” and trying to “guilt” him.

To deflect accountability, he turned the tables completely, labeling her natural trauma response as “manipulative.”

These phrases are a common manipulation tactic that mental health professionals call DARVO. Coined by psychologist Dr. Jennifer Freyd in the 1990s, DARVO is a documented approach where those confronted with wrongdoing instantly Deny the act, Attack the accuser, and Reverse the roles of Victim and Offender.

It combines elements of gaslighting and blame-shifting.

Some experts also believe these are traits of narcissism. “By denying their actions, attacking the person confronting them, and flipping the roles of victim and offender, the narcissist effectively redirects attention away from their own actions, often causing doubt in the victim’s claims,” says Bayu Prihandito, founder of Life Architekture and certified psychology expert.

He adds: “The psychology behind DARVO is rooted in a strong need for self-preservation and control. They will often employ this strategy to protect their ego and maintain their desired self-image at all costs.”

When this form of manipulation takes hold, victims often end up internalizing a twisted narrative. They start to believe they are the villain of their own story and convince themselves that they somehow caused or deserved the mistreatment.

Enduring this constant cycle of blame-shifting takes a devastating toll on mental health.

Over time, it erodes a person’s self-worth and reality, triggering deep anxiety, depression, and relentless self-doubt. Trapped in a state of helplessness, victims can lose trust in their own judgment — and eventually, lose touch with their true sense of self.

“The victim develops a pseudo personality that echoes and repeats the narcissist’s false self — their grandiose narrative of themselves,” says Avigail Lev, PsyD, founder of Bay Area CBT Center and CBTonline.

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It’s cruel, to say the least, to blame a victim for a physiological trauma response

Studies show that severe emotional shock (such as sudden, unexpected grief) activates the brain’s fight-or-flight response. It can cause temporary cognitive collapse and trigger old behaviors even after years of recovery.

“Relapse doesn’t mean failure, it signals that emotional needs are not being met… Warning signs can emerge suddenly or gradually, triggered by stress, trauma, conflict, or worsening mental health conditions like depression or anxiety,” says Viviane Silva, a clinical social worker and psychotherapist.

Expecting someone to maintain perfect emotional composure while processing traumatic grief isn’t just unrealistic — it’s medically unfounded.

Yet, rather than offering support during a mental health crisis he directly caused, the author’s partner attempted to minimize his actions by hiding behind a classic shield: framing the entire ordeal as a “harmless prank.”

Ask any expert or sane person, and they will tell you that a prank requires mutual enjoyment.

It crosses an unforgivable line the moment it targets someone’s physical body, creates actual danger, or destroys property. At its core, a genuine prank is completely harmless. A healthy joke should be lighthearted, leaving the person who was tricked feeling amused rather than terrified, humiliated, or distressed.

For anyone navigating this level of emotional distress, experts emphasize that the first step toward recovery is breaking the cycle of isolation and self-doubt.

Victims should trust their instincts and document what occurred. Re-establishing firm personal boundaries is critical. Reaching out to trauma-informed therapists or trusted support networks also provides a safe space to process the shock.

And when a partner repeatedly dismisses trauma responses, walking away is often the healthiest choice.

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People in the comments chimed in with their two cents

The woman came back with an update on her relationship status

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She said she saw too many red flags in her boyfriend and decided to break up

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Many people in the comments supported her decision

Someone in the comments shared their own similar experience

Communication is key in really any relationship, from a friend/coworker all the way up to one’s spouse. While it seems cliché, the fact is that all too many people don’t communicate with their loved ones, which gets even harder if there are significant cultural barriers in play.

We’ve gathered some of the most interesting posts from folks sharing what it’s like to have an intercultural relationship from across the internet. Get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and if you have any experience with this, be sure to share your story in the comments below.

#1

Not with a partner but just in general:
In Ireland it’s customary to say no to anything offered to be polite. Even if you really want it. Eg:
“Will you have a cup of tea?”
“No, thanks”
“Ah go on”
“No, I’m fine”
“Go on”
“Ok, if it’s not too much trouble.”

Turns out in America if you say no they just say “ok” and you never get your tea. Crazy Americans how dare they not be able to read my mind!

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#2

I had been dating a Dutch guy for almost a year. One day I wanted to buy a bottle of water but had no spare change with me so I asked him to borrow some. The bottle costed approximately 1.2 euros. Somehow the following week I had completely forgotten to give his money back. The next morning he wrote a very detailed message about how borrowing money without returning them shows a bad character, with his PayPal account at the end so could transfer the money.

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#3

I’m spanish and my girlfriend had a really hard time with the fact that we eat super late.

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#4

I’m Brazilian and my husband is Scottish. His sense of humour is amazing. So quick and dry! But there’s no PDA at all! In Brazil is very common for couples to kiss passionately in public and are even expected to do so. I felt so rejected for a long time because he would only show me affection when we were together in a room! Scottish people love to “roast” people and you should expect to be mocked constantly and not show any resentment!! Brazilians are very agreeable but very proud and sensitive, so it’s been rather difficult to adapt hahaha
I’m now living in Scotland and apparently the way people make friends here is by binge drinking, pub crawling (and getting kicked out) together. Eventually you’re just pals?
In Brazil people would make conversation, ask everything about you, then maybe ask you for a coffee or some light drinking at first. I feel it’s really difficult to make friends here if you’re not into drinking until you pass out.

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#5

Dating a Japanese guy felt like being in a long distance relationship even if you live together. The long working hours, lack of physical affection, privacy, etc. makes it hard to figure out if your partner even likes you as a person. Hell, we got married and have kids and sometimes I still question it, lol.

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#6

My boyfriend is Venezuelan and HE IS ALWAYS LATE!! My best friend is also Venezuelan (we met before I met my bf) and she used to drive me crazy with the same thing. How hard is it to just be ready when I give you a time???

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#7

My ex was US born and raised but his mom was from Thailand and still had family there.

We went on a 2 week vacation there and stayed with his aunt and uncle. We visited with lots of family members while there and they would all aggressively insist on paying for us but I guess secretly they were all annoyed that we let them pay for things.

We spent a lot of time with his cousin and wife who were close in our age and they would pay for EVERYTHING. Like we were at a mall and I was browsing in a store and went to check out and when his cousin saw me with money in my hand he straight up RAN across the mall with his wallet in his hand to stop me from paying. We just thought they were being generous and good hosts but my ex’s mom called us from the US a few days later and told us her sister was complaining that her son had no more money and couldn’t afford to take us out all the time and we needed to give them money and pay for things.

After we left I heard some other family members had similar things to say about us letting them pay for us and being rude and stuff and not leaving money for his aunt and uncle who hosted us. It actually hurt my feelings really badly because I thought they were being genuine when they offered to pay and didn’t realize there was an expectation that we were supposed to gift them with money after.

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#8

My ex is Greek, very passionate about food.
Me/ not so much. Not at all. Food to me is just that, food to keep me going and healthy. I appreciate people who are really into it and delight in preparing it.

He would always try and get me to eat more than I wanted to and it annoyed me to no end. I stop eating when I’m full or I’ll just graze eat through out my day. I actually had to get really firm and sometimes snappy with him about it because he was a over bearing. We eventually got on the same page. But goodness.

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#9

My partner is Portuguese. Absolutely lovely family but they are LOUD. Not in a bad way, just talk about things loudly and all at once - my family is pretty conservative so was a big shock!

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#10

I’m American and my husband is Chinese. The biggest culture shock is when we went to a Chinese New Years party with other Chinese nationals living in the US and the hosts handed us red bags when we came in. I didn’t know what this was but said thanks! and moved on. Later in the night I opened these red bags, expecting a card or nice note, but they were giving out HUNDREDS of dollars! My husband was unmoved because he said this is always what they do when celebrating the new year or other big events. I’ve come to learn that money and gifts are a show of respect to the Chinese way more than they are in America. I can go to my aunts house and not bring her a gift, but if we don’t bring a gift to his aunts she says we are disrespectful.

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#11

I’m from the US and married a Venezuelan and I always knew they are more family oriented then me but my god her family will just show up at our house randomly. They all live separately but will gather together and just show up. No text or calls even to my wife. Also they just walk in no knocking or anything, if the door is locked and they have to knock they think it’s rude. I don’t know why they can’t be away from each other for more the. A couple days.

#12

My partner is from Argentina and I'm from Guatemala. We both are native Spanish speakers and yet we have completely different words for the same thing.
Example: pineapple in Guatemala is called "piña" and in Argentina is "ananá". "Piña" in Argentina means punching so imagine his shock when I first asked him if he liked "piñas"?

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#13

I'm Dutch. Once, my Dutch friend got a request to pay back 30 cents. We still laugh over it.

#14

My ex is Albanian and I he had an attitude like "I am the man, I will take care of you" which I wasn't used to. I went on holiday to Greece and he sent me about 200 Euros to buy him some cigarettes and said to keep the rest, which was around 80 Euros. He was ultra masculine and had an attitude of I was to be taken care of, but almost in a controlling way. He was always sweet and soft when it was just us, but anytime we were out in public, like at a coffee shop, it felt like he was putting on an act to prove himself. I left him when I realised that although he was good to me, his mother would never let him marry a non Albanian and he'd choose his mother over me lol.

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#15

Not really culture as much as it is class for me, but my SO is from a fairly middle class family, i come from the benefit background. The biggest shock for me was literally how my entire way of life is so far from what most people consider normal.. I thought it was normal for everyone to shout at eachother but it turns out all my family are crazy mentally ill and refuse to get help because "they shouldn't have to change who they are" even though they watched me change into a better person through medication and therapy and it just baffles me how people can just chose not to better themselves and the lives around them? My SOs family are the kindest people I have ever met, they have clean homes, cars, jobs... all the things that I hope to achieve one day.

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#16

From the UK, my partner is from southern US. Took him to England last year, he liked it a lot. Didn’t really understand some manners and customs, or why there are dogs at the pub, milk in the tea or why we were going for an after dinner walk in the rain. He also raised an eyebrow at my 19 yo niece drinking and smoking. My family is super lefty liberal and his is the exact opposite, my family adores him but he has been hesitant to have me meet some of his family. We will see how it goes!

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#17

My boyfriend is from the midwest and puts Snickers in his fruit salad.

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#18

Asian here dating a North American. He doesn't understand why I'm so close to my family. It's especially hard because our family immigrated to NA, which brought us even closer together. I love spending time with my family, and he likes them, but doesn't see himself visiting family often. In the future if we're still together, I would love to be able to have a meal with them at least once a week, or even just once a month. He's content going a few weeks without contacting family at all, not even his own. Never understood it, his parents are great and have grown to be better than they were during his childhood. We're learning more about each other every day, that's for sure lol.

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#19

I'm Ukrainian and my bf is Filipino. Biggest difference is the family size. My family is tiny tiny, just me and my mum. We don't have any family in Canada, and I'm not close/have contact with the people back home. His immediate family has about literal dozens when it comes to cousins, aunts, uncles etc.

It's incredibly overwhelming to have so many people in your face when it comes to holidays. I had to break out of my shell more, but him and his family had to accept that I need to get out and walk around for a bit to cool off.

#20

My husband's family are Polish and Catholic (I'm English and Protestant) so they celebrate Christmas more on Christmas Eve than Christmas Day. Also, the Christmas dinner I went to had EIGHT courses! Apparently, that was a cut-down version and they normally have TWELVE! My parents normally feed the 5000 on Christmas but even so, they only do two courses.

Apart from that, he won't drink or eat meat on certain days which doesn't bother me because I don't drink and I've been trying to reduce my meat intake anyway.

The only thing I've found challenging is more due to regional differences than cultural. My husband grew up in Yorkshire and there are some words that are completely normal and acceptable to say there but are very offensive anywhere else in the country so I had to tell him not to say those words anymore.

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#21

My partner is Indian - if he cooks and offers me food he gets really upset and keep asking until I say yes. Apparently it’s rude to turn down offered food in India.

When I’ve visited and stayed with his parents I’ve always said yes, it’s only an issue when I’m not hungry or he’s made something really Indian that I’m not a fan off and rather waste my calories on something else.

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#22

I lived in Peru for a while and stayed in a hostel for the first few days after arriving. The owner of the hostel was super helpful and, despite also owning a guide business, didn’t try to sell me anything. We hung out and he introduced me to some local rock climbers and told me about an upcoming climbing competition. I ended up becoming part of a community of amazing climbers and guides, finding roommates, and a romantic partner.

Months later, I found out that my partner’s brother worked with the hostel owner at his guide business. It dawned on me that the guy probably had no idea I had settled in the city, partly thanks to his help. We were going to the guide business to meet the brother and I thought I might see the company owner. I’d just baked some cookies, so I brought some as a gift to say thanks for all his kindness.

It did NOT go over well. The whole workplace fell silent. The awkwardness was palpable. My partner was furious with me.

I guess in Peru you DO NOT bake for someone else’s man. Lesson learned.

#23

Don't know if this works because I'm not in it anymore. My first real adult relationship was with a Muslim man. His family was very religious, he was a practicing muslim for the most part. He grew up in Germany in a very conservative household and I grew up in California, my family is Hindu and liberal, so we had a TON of cultural differences. He was funny, brilliant and so incredibly cool and confident. I think he was really torn between wanting to be progressive and open but still afraid of disappointing his family, disobeying his religion and had trouble breaking away from his societal norms.

Dealing with someone who was stuck in between wasn't easy and I had made many sacrifices to make our relationship work. When we met he told me he loved everything about how free, opinionated and outgoing I was. A few weeks in he told me that he liked the way I dressed but that it wasn't appropriate for me to wearing certain things in public when I was with him, so I started to dress more conservatively when we were out together. A few months in he said he was always worried that something bad would happen when I'd go out and drink with my friends and that drinking was wrong, so I stopped drinking. He told me he loved how outgoing I was but didn't think it was okay to go out to a bar/club alone with my close male friends because thats when bad things happen, so I stopped doing that. I think everything finally came to a head when I called him out on all the things he did that didn't fall under being a good muslim like smoking w**d and having s*x.

He said something along the lines of he wanted to be with someone like me in theory and loved me but when he was in it, he felt like it was wrong and he was worried about my salvation, which sucked to hear. I think the socio-cultural and religious differences proved to be too much for us.

Anyways, I do think intercultural relationships can work, as long as both parties and readily compromising. Which wasn't the case in my relationship.

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#24

My partner is also Dutch, she's from the south and her family speaks Limburgish at home, though they also speak regular Dutch and most speak German due to the border proximity.

Honestly, the biggest shock was realizing how different Canadians were. We kinda get painted with the "polite American" banner, which is generally accurate, but little differences my SO would point out were very interesting. The other biggest has been trying to learn Dutch/Limburgish, having a really tough time of it, but her Oma from a small village in Limburg really appreciates it and even laughed at a butchered joke I made there. I was really worried they'd get annoyed or make fun of my broken Dutch, but they were actually just really happy I made an effort to try. Its a hard language to learn with only English I find.

The biggest thing with her is how polite and sincere a lot of random Canadians are in public. Almost everyone thanks bus drivers or Uber drivers or service staff, which her whole family found weird for their first years here as in there mind "you're thanking them for doing what they're paid for. What?". When I said Dankjewel to the Tram Driver in Amsterdam, they were surprised and I believe made a comment to my SO joking in Dutch.

There was also a big difference in "class" stuff I guess you could say. In NL, she claims they are very formal with the way they address teachers, parents, authority figures basically. In Canada, we are almost always on equal footing besides using little things like "Mr/ms" and "sir". She found the casual way I'd make jokes at my parents very jarring at first.

The biggest shock for her was probably our slang and language at first coming to Canada. She learned most of her English from TV and books, but those don't match how Canadian teenagers speak whatsoever, it's like 60% slang.

Her biggest shock from dating a Canadian probably comes from the fact that I'm a Newfoundlanders from a big Newfoundlanders family on both sides. Our culture is quite a bit different from hers, and is extremely inclusive most of the time (Come from away, for an extreme example. My town is an hour away from Gander). My mother immediately was hugging her, showing her around, making jokes about us together, and she said "love you both" as we left. We'd been dating for quite a bit here, but this was still hugely different to how her parents act. For reference, I think my mom hugged her then and her own mom hadn't in over a decade. She also said vocalizations of their love were strange, but my mum and dad were big about saying I love you before going to bed or getting off the phone.

It really has been interesting and I love NL and NL food!

EDIT: The Cheek Kissing gets me so awkward too! How are you more reserved than us but kissing everyone?! I swear I turn into a tomato whenever it happens.

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#25

I dated a Bolivian guy for a few months as a USA born person. Biggest shock was how they displayed affection. He wanted constant kissing and physical contact, and also expected me to buy gifts and celebrate each month anniversary. As someone who dislikes PDA and over the top displays of affection it was rough for me, and I felt like I never satisfied his desires in the relationship.

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#26

I'm South Asian and so is my husband, we currently have my MIL staying with us.

After I got married, she expected my mom to call her and ask permission for me to visit... which is apparently a really old cultural thing. I laughed my a*s off all the way to my mom's house after I said no way.

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#27

American marrying hardcore Chinese. Almost everything from parents to money to what we perceive as “clean”; clearly wrong and incorrect Chinese medicine, how to argue, how to resolve conflict, how you have sex, what you eat. How you have and treat friends of both sexes.

#28

My husband is Mexican and his family does everything extremely spontaneously. My family plans vacations months in advance, even dinner at each others’ houses is at least a week ahead of time. Luckily for me he is a planner too but the rest of the family is super spontaneous. Also so much more friendly

#29

I’m Asian American and my boyfriend is not. I show my love through actions and I’d get upset if my needs or wants weren’t anticipated. Asians tend to be very good hosts and are always offering food, water, etc. After meeting his family, I understand that these things need to be vocalized. My communication has improved a lot and to his credit, he’s gotten better at being proactive in our relationship.

#30

Am British. The traditional mating dance of my people is - find someone you like and mock them mercilessly and relentlessly until one of you passes. Sincerity is reserved for weddings, funerals and the birth of children, and even then you have to make fun of the baby.

I now live in the US. Turns out that this doesn’t go down well with many Americans much of the time. People are sometimes sincerely nice????? to people they want to see naked here????? Before marriage?????

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#31

Not really a partner but when I was online dating a Woman asked me to attend church with her for our first date .


I'm Christian and a church goer but that was A LOT even for me . I think I was her first online date so she didn't realize what a big ask that was, to me that's like asking me to meet your parents on a first date.

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#32

I'm a swiss woman going out with a British man. The lack of quality food at supermarkets shocked me. The British way of "eating healthy" too.

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#33

My partner is from the American South and I'm from the Midwest. My biggest shock was learning a toboggan is a wool hat and not a sled where he's from. I found out when he said something about wearing a toboggan, and I was like, what.

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#34

My boyfriend and his mom are Chinese. When we visited his mother, she got a lot of food for us. I normally don't eat too much. So after I had my dinner, she was shocked I wouldn't eat anymore.

I got another plate and stuffed myself in order to not be rude 😔. Ever since then, I've been eating more so I can prepare myself to eat at future family dinners.

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#35

My partner is French and I’m german.

We compromised on having dinner around 7PM rather than 8:30 or later for him and 6 for me. Also Germans eat cold at dinner and to him it was so odd, somwe agreed to only do it half the evenings.

I accepted to be less direct with him in feedback because he just sometimes could not handle my directness. In turn he tried to be more direct and not add fluff because I sometimes will not get what he means if he adds too much indirectness.

I introduced him to German beds: two separate 90cm mattresses in a single 1.8m bed and both get their own covers. He thought it was super unromantic at first but now he wonders how he ever lived with one sheet in a tiny 1.40m bed with his previous girlfriend. If both are well rested both are happier!!

I had to learn how to spend hours and hours on a table for a big holiday dinner. In Germany we put everything on the table for dinner then we eat then we are done. In France every course is eaten and then they start cooking the next one and it’ll probably be 30min. On occasions like Christmas this can take FOREVER. And I kinda hate it. I just want to be done eating and do something else. I’ve had to accept that habit and just get up During courses for a little walk to not get too bored or antsy

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#36

I'm a white Christian American woman and my boyfriend is an Arab Muslim Saudi man! I guess I've gotten used to eating a lot less pork (I still eat some haha) and I also like partaking in a later dinner sometimes.

I guess a belief for me that has changed was that it opened my eyes a lot to Arab people and Muslim people in general even though I already had Muslim friends.

Oh yeah, and in Arabic you don't pronounce Islam like "IZ-lam" you pronounce it like "Issss-lam" (like a snake S.)

#37

When I was living in Austria, my Slovenian ex boyfriend used to absolutely cringe at the way I wash dishes and vice versa.

I'm British and I can't speak for all Brits but we do have a tendency to fill up the sink (or a bowl within the sink) with water and washing up liquid, wash everything in there, leave it to dry and then tip the dirty water out. Rinsing is optional (I am not a rinser)

He honestly used to gag at this.

I, on the other hand, was so bemused as he basically used a year's supply of water and dish soap while washing a few plate under a constantly running steam.
(Side note: he also tipped thinks like leftover soup down the toilet - is that a thing?)

I'll be honest though - everyone I met from the continent was absolutely outraged at the 'British method'. One French girl refused to eat off my plates.

To this day, I don't know what's right or wrong but I absolutely love the controversy 😂.

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#38

Dating a guy from Ohio and I was shocked that pizza logs aren't a thing there...

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#39

We are from neighbouring European countries, me UK and him France, so there's very little difference but I can think of a few straight off. France has a weird tradition of wishing each other a happy saint's day, they literally have all the saints' names on every calendar and expect a cake or at least a phone call "bonne fête Marie/Eric/etc !".

A well known one in France is spending 3-4 hours at the dinner table, we snack lunch in the UK, we might even eat while on the go.

Yet again in France, it's the custom to greet people by kissing them on the cheek, some people do sloppy smackers (ugh I just tap my cheek on theirs) but if you kiss your darling children on the mouth everyone looks at you like you're a pedophile. And the French have a nasty habit of joking about small children being in love if a girl plays with a boy, "I'm not leaving those two alone ha ha ha" which I think is gross, how can anyone sexualise babies and toddlers? It's like the 70s or something.

#40

I had always dated men 10-20 years older than me until one day one asked me about watching the cartoon He Man growing up. I kindly replied that was before my time and realized that it really is harder to relate to people of a different generation.

A survey of 2,000 women found that one in ten couldn't correctly identify a diagram of the female reproductive system. The results were revealing: nearly one in four misidentified the vagina, almost half (46%) couldn't properly identify the cervix, and six in ten mistook the uterus for a different body part.

The good news? Fifty-seven percent of those surveyed admitted they don't know as much about women's anatomy as they should, and 42% said they wished they had a better understanding of their own bodies.

To help close that knowledge gap, one person on Threads asked women to share the most valuable thing a gynecologist had ever told them that every woman should know. The responses poured in, with hundreds of women sharing advice, misconceptions, and little-known facts that deserve to be common knowledge. Here are some of the most-liked replies.

#1

1 in 4 pregnancies end in a miscarriage.
The most common cause of a miscarriage is chromosomal abnormalities.
If you have a miscarriage, it’s likely nothing you did, it’s not your fault, and you’re not alone.

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#2

“If it was supposed to smell like flowers then it would.”

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#3

If she says, “it’s just a pinch,” or “it’s just uncomfortable,” without pain management, she’s lying. It will be pain that redefines your pain scale.

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#4

My gyno told me if you have PCOS or something that causes less periods, you absolutely need to get checked for uterine cancer/be aware of the signs. If our uterus doesn’t shed like it should, we’re more likely to get uterine cancer. I’m 33 and was just told this last year after almost 15 years of extremely sparse periods (I’m all good though thank goodness)

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#5

It takes more than 6 weeks to heal after having a baby

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#6

Our breast tissue is also located in our underarms and upper back. When you do your monthly self breast exam, check in these locations for lumps as well.

#7

Migraines caused by the pill mean that you are at increased risk of stroke or blood clots

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#8

Painful period are NOT normal

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#9

“We have many pain relief options for IUD insertion…everything from a pain block with local anesthetic to putting you under. Which pathway do you feel comfortable pursuing?” -Absolute GAME CHANGER!

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#10

Using pantyliners daily actually traps the bacteria. Is better to use breathable cotton undies

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#11

You can still get pregnant even if you aren’t ovulating

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#12

Bleeding heavy for 7 days is not normal. I went in and turns out I have a cyst and my lining was wasaayy to thick. Finally got on the right medication and I’ve never felt better during my periods

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#13

Most women will push out a baby and you won’t even be able to tell 8 weeks later. “Stretching it out” is a myth.

#14

I’m a 4th year Naturopathic Medical Student. And one of my mentors gave me a great piece advice saying, “sometimes all a woman needs is a boyfriend-ectomy” … the way it’s so true though. when women leave stressful situations and relationships, their body can finally start to re-regulate again

#15

This is for my anemic girlies but to take iron supplements with vitamin C to help with absorption!

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#16

Superficial endometriosis often does not show up in imaging but can still cause catastrophic pain and bleeding, if your GYN says you don’t have it because it doesn’t show up on ultrasound or MRI fire them and see a specialist.

#17

Tubal ligation isn't 100% foolproof. As many as 3% of patients still get pregnant. My OB had 1 woman at age 48 and one at age 54... both had tubes tied many years before and both got pregnant anyway. Just something else to be worried about

#18

No matter how long you've been married/monogamous, you should always get tested for STIs

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#19

There is a nerve directly connecting your right ovary to the appendix. So, when you ovulate on the right, you might experience symptoms similar to the ones of appendicitis. That’s why until the 80s many young girls where operated of appendicitis when they were actually ovulating...
Found out recently at 28, apparently I’m one of those who ovulates on the right and thankfully they didn’t wrongly remove my appendix

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#20

one of the causes for BV can be drying your underwear with dryer sheets, now i wash them in a separate load with just unscented laundry detergent and hang dry them or throw them in dryer without adding anything. keep it simple, no fragrances! and obviously wipe front to back

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#21

Herpes isn’t automatically tested for even if you say “I want a full panel” because 1. It’s so common and 2. You can’t get a positive swab unless you’re having an outbreak. Ask for a blood test, it will show positive if you’re positive and have had at least one outbreak or negative if you don’t have it.

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#22

That an untreated iron deficiency can lead to organ failure

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#23

If you're having waves of severe pain and vomiting significantly above your baseline, call your gyno immediately. could mean an urgent care or er visit. ovarian torsion is no joke and it can be intermittent, potentially not showing up on the first ultrasound if you're not currently in pain.

#24

Don’t pee before an ultrasound. Even if you really need to. Apparently I had to have a full bladder to do an ultrasound for endo. (I was 16, 21 now) also drink lots of water on your period. My gyno was very adamant on that lol.

#25

Perimenopause can start as early as 35years old

#26

Extremely hot baths are not good for u occasional baths and mostly showers are better for feminine hygiene.

#27

Take the pill without the 7 day break. You’ll never get a period, and it’s perfectly safe to do so.

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#28

Hormonal birth control helps prevent ovarian cancer later in life

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#29

You only need 4 periods a year to be fertile ( in relation to PCOS)

#30

Grapefruit juice can make birth control less effective

#31

Feel like it's pretty basic knowledge but that prenatals are great to take whether you're pregnant or not

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#32

I learned this working in the OB/GYN clinic!
If you’re prone to getting BV. Those medication’s are just a Band-Aid.. your body just produces more bacteria than usual that throws off your pH. Taking probiotics daily can prevent that.

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#33

Wiggling your toes helps with discomfort during an exam

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#34

Any liquid soap contains preservatives which are usually antibacterial which can increase the chance of yeast infections due to biome imbalance. Only use bar soap, like Dove, unscented, on the external only.

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#35

If you’re having sharp pains in your breasts stop drinking caffeinated drinks and start taking vitamin E it will clear that right up

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#36

Regular STD panels don’t include testing for HPV, you have to request it so you could have it but never know until you specifically request it to be included.

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#37

Check your testosterone levels after 50.

#38

Raspberry tea for period pain. Two cups a day with three tea bags for each cup

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#39

A suspicious/malignan tumor on your breasts will feel hard, “pointy edges” with no clear start and finish

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#40

"the majority of the problems women's have comes from a man"...

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#41

Not having biological children can lead to an increased risk of breast cancer.

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#42

Naproxen is the best this for pain radiating directly from the ovaries.

#43

Stop eating junk! Stop sugar and sugary things and stuff like that, don’t eat chocolate a lot and work out! Basically everything is about what you consume and how your lifestyle is, having a kitkat a day wasn’t a good idea….also, herbal tea is the best! I cannot stress this enough but herbal tea is the best, and say no to caffeine cause it’s really really bad for you…once or even four times a month is fine but that’s it

#44

Stop shaving and waxing. That hair is there for a reason.

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#45

Breastmilk actually harms babies teeth in the long run. I learned that my daughter is 10 and we’re still dealing with some of those issues from breast-feeding.

We’ve all, unfortunately, encountered entitled people in the wild: the person who thinks they can cut in line because they’re in a hurry, the family who insists you switch seats with them so they can sit together, the group-project slacker who thinks they deserve the “A.”

Those are all “other” people, though. Not the ones we’ve deliberately chosen to be a part of our lives. And that’s what makes the stories we’re going to share with you today sting: These weren’t rude strangers, whom you could perhaps simply write off and move on from. These were friends. And their audacity was so astounding that it was enough to permanently alter, if not end, their friendships.

Read on for some of the most entitled “friends” to grace the r/EntitledPeople subreddit, and let us know which ones you found most infuriating.

#1 My Friend Said I Owe Her Half My Inheritance Because Her Family “Didn’t Have That”

So my great-aunt passed away and left me a decent inheritance. Nothing wild, but enough to pay off my student loans and set aside a little savings. I told my friend , we’ll call her Rachel, over lunch.

She got quiet. Then she said, “Wow. Must be nice. I bet you’ll help out your friends who weren’t so lucky growing up.”

I laughed and said something like, “I mean, I’ll probably treat my friends to dinner more often.”

She stared at me and said very serious:

“No, like, actually help. We’ve known each other forever. I think it’d be fair if you split it.”

I thought she was joking. She was not. She then brought up all the times she “covered my coffee” in college and said, “This is just the universe evening the score.”

Needless to say, I didn’t share a dime. She blocked me on Instagram and told our mutual friends I “ghosted her after I got rich.”

Sorry, Rachel. The only thing I’m splitting is the check, with people who actually support me.

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Writing for Psychology Today, Forrest Talley, Ph.D., confirms something most of us blessed with a great circle of friends probably already know: healthy friendships make our lives better. We can have fun with them, share our worries with them, depend on them—and they do the same for us. But great friends do more than just bring joy into our lives. As Talley explains further, healthy friendships also boost our immune systems and may even help us live longer.

However, as some of us might also be painfully aware, not every friendship is healthy. And if healthy relationships improve our health and aging, some researchers have posited that the opposite may also be true for our “negative social ties.”

And, honestly, we don’t even need to analyze this research to draw the same conclusion: there are simply some people we might have once considered friends that we’d be far better off without. The ones who are constantly creating drama, the ones who drain our energy, the ones who make us feel bad about ourselves and leave us feeling anxious. And entitled friends are often guilty of all of this—and perhaps more.

#2 Friend Tried To Invite Random People To My House To Sit In The Hot Tub

This has been a little while ago, so I don't remember all the little details.

Anyway, I have a hot tub. It sits outside, so it really only gets used when the weather allows.

I also have a friend who thinks everyone should just do whatever she wants.

We were out and about one day when she said something about possibly coming over to sit in the hot tub one evening. Which I have no problem with my friends coming over, as long as I'm home and they ask ahead of time.

So I told her that's fine, just let me know.

Well it turns out she had told other people, none of whom I had ever met, that I would be okay with them coming over too.

I let her know that I definitely wasn't okay with that, and that she had no business inviting people I don't know to my house. I think she tried to say something after that, but I just told her that I wasn't going to let random people into my house.

She seemed a bit taken aback that I wasn't on board with all of that. But seriously? What was she expecting?

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#3 Friend Wanted Me To Cancel My Kid’s Party To Attend Her Kid’s Party

So me and my two friends (all 33f) have been a trio since middle school. Ironically, all three of our oldest children have the same exact birthday but different years. Me and Tonya have boys aged 8 and 10. Lauren has a 2 year old daughter.

A few months ago, Tonya and I decided to plan a bowling/laser tag birthday party for our boys. We told Lauren about the party and invited her. She said she would try to make it. Cool. The party was on a weekend, not the day of their actual birthday.

A few days before the party, Lauren FaceTimed Tonya and I to invite us to her daughter’s birthday party. It was for the same day as our boy’s party. No big deal. It’s the weekend after their birthdays so we knew the parties would eventually clash. We told her we wouldn’t be able to make it and we thought that was that.

The day after the party, Tonya and I FaceTimed Lauren to ask how her daughter’s party went. We saw pictures online and thought the decorations came out beautifully. We were all ears just waiting on the details of baby girl’s 2nd birthday. Instead, we were met with anger. Lauren starts asking why we didn’t show up. Ummm we were at our boy’s party and she knew this. She then tells us we were supposed to cancel their party and come to her daughter’s. When I asked her why she would think we would even consider doing that she said a 2nd birthday party was more important than 8 and 10 and we should have just picked a different day.

I’m not one to argue so I tell Lauren she’s tripping and hang up the video call. The next day I noticed she logged me out and changed the password to a streaming account we shared. Is it that serious? I guess to her it was. I haven’t talked to Lauren since.

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Verywell Mind defines entitlement as a personality trait where someone is convinced that they are owed special treatment or recognition despite not having earned either. Entitled people often believe that the world owes them something, but they do not put in any effort in return.

That imbalance, of taking without giving back, is what makes entitlement so corrosive in a friendship specifically. In most healthy relationships, there is an unspoken understanding that both parties will show up for each other. Sometimes you show up for me, and sometimes I show up for you. The help is reciprocal, and it’s given freely and without expectation. So there’s no need to keep score—there’s simply trust that it’ll even out eventually.

But entitled friends go against this unspoken standard. Instead of viewing friendship as a two-way street built on mutual care, they often treat it as a source of endless favors, attention, and support, and they don’t feel obligated to return the same kindness.

#4 Friend Thought I Was Funding Her Whole Party’s Drinks.

I’m a bartender, a girl I’m friends with just turned 30. She invited me out but i was working and then she’s like we might swing by lol and I say cool! I’ll give you a free birthday drink maybe a few. I’m thinking she took that as i was doing that for her and her alone maybe some of her girls, depending on the group size.

She shows up with a group of like 20 people and then expects me to hook them allll up and give them a table that needs to be reserved in advance. I was like girl what i can’t do that and she says “it’s not like I’m asking you to pay” whaaaa? Then who’s paying? My boss? You think that would go over well?

These folks were drankinnnnn too, I’m talking a tab of like $3000 ish all together. And she thought It would be free because we are friendly.

Also i made $75 in tips from the whole group.

Girl bye.

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#5 Oh, My Rich Friends. We Can't Be Friends Anymore..

So, tonight, an acquaintance I haven't spoken to in at least 5 years calls me. "Marcus", I'll call him. Marcus did make a little chit chat, then they ask me what I'm doing for work. I say I am between full time stuff right now, but looking.

They agree that the job market is hard, and how they are divesting themselves of a business that they've had for decades as 'the suckers aren't buying anything anymore.' I give a little laugh, because that's a weird way to refer to clients, but maybe Marcus is a little down.

They then mention about their home in New England, and their home in the west coast in a 'highly desirable area on the beach' that they want to split the entire summer between the two locations because it's so hot in the south in the summer. I say something along the lines of "That's a heck of a problem to have" and we laugh again. That's when they drop their entitled request on me. The want someone to care for their extremely obese, nearly bed bound elderly auntie that lives with them. 7 days a week, no days off, for 3 months.

The best part? This home is not air conditioned. They want to offer a fellow human $200.00 per week since it's 'light duty', but, they say I'd have my own room. (I own a home, so that isn't of interest to me.)

I explained that I was going to have to pass on this amazing offer, and Marcus got really insulted. He whined and said they didn't know anyone as nice as me, and since I was a flight attendant before this, I know "the first aid and serving food stuff". Again, I declined and he was confused. I said " Would you work for $200.00 a week? Because I won't." He said he would call in a week to see if I changed my mind. Blocked him as soon as the call ended.

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And this isn’t an accident or just a misunderstanding. It’s more than that. Because entitled friends think they are inherently owed something, they don’t believe this standard should apply to them at all. So they’re the type of friends who expect you to drop everything when they need you but don’t offer you the same favor when the tables turn. And when you go out of your way to help them, they also show you no gratitude.

This isn’t because they didn’t notice the effort you put into doing so. It’s because, whether they realize it or not, they didn’t believe they needed to. To them, your help wasn’t a gift—it was simply what was due to them. That’s also why they can react with frustration or even anger when they’re told “no.” Since they genuinely believe they’re owed something from you, setting a perfectly reasonable boundary can lead to them feeling like you’ve wronged them.

#6 Letting Old Friends Crash At Your House - Never Again!

A friend I've known since 1995 or so was in town and asked if he and his wife could stay with me from Sunday thru Thursday morning. I agreed because I know them, we get along, and my two children like them. From the beginning, it was very uncomfortable; the friend(Don, to make it easier) kept making s*xual innuendos in front of my kids and his wife(Clara). Example: saying he thought he'd be sleeping in my bed. Absolutely not, and I told him more than once I didn't like him speaking like that in front of my children. Yesterday, clara went out with a friend of theirs(Alex). I work remotely and don just slept all day. When he finally got up, he asked me if Alex could spend the night at my house too! I have never met this man before and was shocked he would ask that. I immediately said no. I was thinking of my kids, who are 6m and 3f. Hell no would a stranger be allowed to spend the night! I guess they expected that I would say yes, because they began pushing, saying they know Alex and he isn't a creep or one of 'those' people, how he just needs to get away from his extremely crowded home, etc. I still said no. Don tried saying I know him and he'd never bring anyone dangerous around my kids. At that point I was ready to ask them to cut their visit short, since they couldn't respect my very solid no. Shortly after this, Don said they had decided to get a hotel for the rest of their visit. I was relieved and they left last night. Lesson- even old friends can be jerks about respecting boundaries. I've decided to cut them both off after this and feel happier for it.

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#7 Family Friend Demanded To Borrow My Car For A Week Because Of A Very Important Trip

A family friend called me out of the blue, all sweet at first, asking how I was. Then she casually drops, So I need your car for about a week. I have this really important trip and I figured since you barely drive yours anyway, it would not be a big deal.

I told her very politely that I do not lend my car to anyone. She instantly flipped telling me I was being selfish and not thinking about how important this is for her.

For the record my barely driven car is how I get to work, run errands, and live my life. And this very important trip? A beach vacation with her boyfriend.

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#8 My Friend Slept With My Crush And Then Got Mad That I Still Liked Him

EDIT: We are NOT friends anymore, haven’t been for at least a year. I called her my friend because that’s what she was at the time. I did eventually grow a spine lol

We met him at the same time and she kept calling him gross and ugly. I thought he was cute but I was too shy to do anything. We all hung out a few times and literally the same night I started flirting with him she suddenly didn’t think he was gross anymore.

He asked her about me and told her that he thought I was cute. She told him to not even bother with me cause I thought he was ugly. No I didn’t???

Then they slept together a few times but she kept calling him gross and ugly for some reason?

A little while later I went to his house to watch a movie and it felt like we were just meant to be tbh.

We started a relationship and she got MAD. She had two other guys she actually seemed to like but she needed him to like her as well. After 2ish months she got into a relationship and said we could all finally be friends since she wasn’t available anymore. That I could finally feel safe in my relationship since he had to let her go.

THEN she told me he tried to cheat on me with her. I normally trust friends first, but the day he “cheated” he was with me lol

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And that’s the rub that makes the actions of an entitled friend sting in a way no rude stranger ever could. There’s a big difference between a stranger who cuts you off in line and a friend who treats a boundary as an affront and your time, energy, and loyalty as something they’re entitled to.

The stranger doesn’t know you and doesn’t owe you much more than human decency—they may have failed to notice you, but there’s no real betrayal in it. A “friend,” on the other hand, may have noticed exactly how much you give and decided that was simply the baseline.

#9 Friend Wants Me To Make Her A Wedding Dress For The Cost Of Materials

So I have a Degree in Fashion which some people think means I can be their personal seamstress, i'm used to this problem and I don't mind helping people out but I never work for free.

My pregnant friend recently reached out to me and asked me if I could make her, her wedding dress and sent me pictures of the idea she had in mind, it isn't exactly a simple dress but also not the most complex i've ever done either, I told her I could for sure do that for her and it'd cost £600, she was shocked at this and told me she thought i'd do it for free and she'd just pay for materials, I pointed out how many hours this would take me to do and all the hand embroidery needed, then I explained I was doing this for a quarter of the price i'd charge other people because she's my friend.

At this point she started to get very upset telling me I have no idea how much stress she's under with the wedding and the fact she's pregnant and how money is tight and how this should be my wedding gift to her and how great it'd look in my portfolio, I don't think i'm being unreasonable to want some money for this...but other friends are telling me it's horrible how i'm wanting to charge her for this and it's not like i'm a high end bridal shop

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#10 My Friend Is Mad Because A Random Guy Didn't 'Serve' Her

Few days ago I went to a dinner party with my friend. It's a Chinese restaurant with big round tables. We sat around a table with about 10 people, she found one guy there attractive (it's a friend's friend, so they didn't know each other), she wanted his attention.

The guy was chatting with his friend, my friend waved and stopped their conversation, asked him to get some extra tableware for her. The guy called a waitress, said 'Please get some tableware for that lady'. Then he told my friend 'I ordered the waitress to bring it for you.' After that, he continued chatting with his friend.

Then my friend started her endless complaint, he said the guy was ridiculously impolite. I asked her why?? She said the guy was too rude to not serving her, he did not go to get the tableware for her, but only sitting there and ordered the waitress. She is also angry that the guy kept chatting to his friend, as if she's not important.

My friend always think she's very beautiful... but clearly not every man finds her attractive.

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#11 Refusing To Pay More After Already Spending $200 To Clean My Friend’s Sofa

A good friend of mine invited me to her birthday party, and kids were also coming. My daughter wore a red dress, and she sat with the other kids on a white sofa to watch a movie. The next day, I received a message from my friend stating that my daughter's dress had left a reddish mark on it, and she wanted me to fix it. I hired a sofa cleaner and paid $200 for the service, but my friend was still not happy with the results, and she could still see a pinkish tone somewhere. Now she wants to contact the manufacturer and obtain a solution for the issue, and if it's not under warranty, she wants me to cover the cost. I told her that if she was inviting people and kids to her party, she should protect her furniture. She disagreed by saying that her kids never make a mess.

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Your friendship no doubt didn’t start this way. Sure, every friendship has its rough patches, but somewhere along the way, small favors slowly became expectations. A last-minute request meant you were now always available. Covering brunch once meant you would always be the one to pay. In other words, those “rough patches” turned into a pattern, where somehow you were constantly expected to give, while your so-called friend simply continued to take.

The trouble is, this happens so gradually, you often don’t notice the imbalance at first. Not until you’ve reached the point where you’re exhausted and resentful.

#12 Friend Wants To Use Me As Her Backup ATM

Next month I (F) am going away on vacation with a long time friend (F). We are going to the Caribbean for five nights. It is not all inclusive so we will be responsible for paying for food, drinks and any activities.

She asked me how much was I bringing in cash, I said $300 cash plus debit and credit cards. She told me she is going to bring $300 cash but no debit or credit cards. She said she is on a budget and $300 is her limit. I explained that comes around to only $60 per day, this is not one of the cheaper Caribbean islands so food and drink alone won’t leave her with much left over. I reminded her that she needs to factor in cabs, incidentals or any activities we may decide to do. And you never know if an emergency will come up where she will need money. She says to me “that is why I have you” and started to laugh.

That pissed me off to no end. I tell her that we are both adults who are responsible for our own selves. It would be one thing if she lost her purse and needed money, I would float her money before she even had time to ask. But to purposely use me as her back up ATM is not going to work. I told her now that I know what she is up to, I’m not going to go along with it. If she runs out of money, she will just be out and hungry. She needs to bring her cards with her for her own good.

She is now telling me I am too harsh and she will bring extra money but no cards. I told her to do what she wants but if there is an emergency she is on her own.

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#13 I Paid For Everything On Vacation And Now They’re Acting Like I’m The One Who Ruined It

I covered the Airbnb, gas, groceries, and even two dinners out — all because everyone said “we’ll pay you back when we get home.” Not a single one of them has paid me back. When I brought it up, one friend said, “You seemed cool with it at the time.” Like I was happy to spend $5.000 while everyone else lived rent-free? Now they’re acting weird, saying I’m “being dramatic” about money. But if you can’t afford the trip, don’t go. And if someone fronts the cost, the bare minimum is paying them back. I feel used.

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#14 Coworker Told Hr I Was Being Exclusive… For Not Inviting Her To My Wedding

This was honestly one of the weirdest work things I’ve ever dealt with.

There’s a woman in my office I’m friendly with, but not close to. We’ve had small talk here and there, nothing deep. No lunches together. No real outside-of-work connection.

She found out I was getting married and asked when the wedding was. Then she straight up asked if she was invited.

I kinda laughed and said, “Oh no, it’s really small. Just close friends and family.” I didn’t think anything of it.

She got quiet and a little cold after that, but I figured okay, maybe awkward moment, whatever.

Fast forward a few days later, I get a meeting invite from HR.

Turns out she filed a complaint saying I was being “exclusive” and “creating a hostile environment by leaving people out.”

Because I didn’t invite her. To my wedding. That I’m paying for. That isn’t even work-related.

So I had to sit in this HR meeting and explain that I’m not required to invite coworkers I barely know to my literal wedding. That it’s a personal event. That it has nothing to do with work or who’s in the office.

HR honestly looked just as confused as I was. They basically said, “Yep, okay, thanks,” and closed the case.

But now she acts super passive-aggressive toward me. Like side-eyes, little digs when I walk by. Still bringing it up in these weird sarcastic comments like, “Some people are so inclusive these days.”

I can’t believe she actually thought HR could… what, make me invite her?

Some people really do think they’re the main character.

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So what do experts suggest when it comes to dealing with such entitled people? Once you can recognize the signs, clinical psychologist Dr. Monica Johnson recommends meeting entitled behavior with a mix of firmness and empathy.

Firmness starts with being assertive about your needs rather than staying quiet to keep the peace. It also entails setting boundaries you’re actually willing to enforce with real consequences. Johnson also advises validating the person’s feelings without caving to their demands. Acknowledging their frustration while still holding your ground keeps the conversation from tipping into a power struggle over who’s “right.”

#15 “Friend” Gets Mad I Don’t Want To Deal With Her Broken Monitor

I had a “friend” renting a room in my house for a few months. Many things did not go well. At one point she asked me if I’d like a free computer monitor, but it was broken. I politely declined, but also asked why would I want a broken monitor? She just said she thought she would offer. What?? I just let it go after that, but she was really just trying to dump a broken monitor on to me so she didn’t have to deal with it.

When she was moving out the monitor was sitting on the floor in the middle of her room and I kept waiting for her to take it, but she just kept walking past it. She announced she was taking her last load of belongings out to her car and I just knew she was going to leave the broken monitor. I just played dumb and was like, “Oh, don’t forget your monitor!”

She said Oh it’s broken. I said, ok, but we can’t put electronics in the garbage here so you’ll have to recycle it. Then she says there’s not enough room in her car for it. There was. So I just grabbed it and said I think we can get it in your car.

Then she completely snapped at me and said, “Ya know you can just drop these off at Best Buy!” Ok, then you can do it! How is your broken monitor my responsibility??

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#16 Whole New Level Of Entitled From A Friend

Received a text saying I am not a good enough friend because I can't give them as much emotional support as they need. After eleven calls in one day alone. What blew my mind was the "I'm not talking about the times you have been there for me, I'm talking about the times you haven't " referring to when I needed space to deal with the loss of a loved one. Still showed up to decorate for an entire party they planned and brought the food the day after the loss. That wasn't enough. I have never in all my adult years encountered this level of entitled from someone I knew. Dumped a friend. I'm still in shock. Thought I could pick them better!

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#17 Friend Forgot My Birthday But Expects Me To Splurge For Hers.

My friend forgot my birthday this year, and it was the second time she's done this. For some context, we are in our early 20s, not married and no kids yet. I'm not a big birthday person and it wasn't a milestone year, so I asked a week before my birthday if she wanted to just grab lunch as it was a Sunday. She said she had a trip planned which was understandable. I ended up having dinner with another friend. The day rolled around and not even a 'happy birthday', but she did text me numerous times to send me pictures of her getting her nails done, her drink order, etc.

Fast forward to her birthday which is in January. She wants to go to a really fancy restaurant where prices are between $100-150 per person. And since it's a birthday, I will be required to buy a gift, too. Firstly, this took me by surprise because we never planned to celebrate together. Honestly, I'd never spend that much on one meal anyway as I just think it's kind of absurd. Especially, in this current economic climate where groceries are $$$. I also mentionedi to her a while ago that I'm on a tight budget as I'm saving towards a big purchase, alongside paying the usual bills. Not to mention, Christmas has just passed so it's been a period of spending on gifts and food.

Here's the thing, she just recently got a raise at work. So, she's been on kind of a spending spree as a reward. Am I justified in feeling a little ticked off that she just expects me to do the same and spend an absurd amount of money in celebrating her?

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That’s also where the empathy comes in. Johnson notes that entitlement often stems from insecurity rather than genuine ill intent, and understanding that can soften how you approach the conversation. But empathy only works alongside those boundaries, not instead of them—it should change your tone, not your limits.

Finally, Johnson points out that managing this dynamic is genuinely draining, which is why she stresses the importance of self-care and leaning on others for support along the way. That could be a friend, a family member, or a therapist.

But if you’d rather commiserate with strangers on the internet who get it, perhaps all you need is a subreddit like r/EntitledPeople.

#18 Entitled Boss Fires Me, Still Wants To "Be Friends".

It's even worse than the title tbh. I've been this family's nanny for 3+ years. Youngest child is only 6. I took 6 days off (at their insistance) because I was having a miscarriage. The day before I was due to return, I got told "We've actually managed without you so could you just work tomorrow then we don't need you any more. But we can still be friends and meet up".

I worked that day. Picked up my stuff. Dropped off their keys. By the time I'd driven home she'd blown up my phone with messages saying "I'm upset TOO, you know!" I blocked her number. Now she's harassing my husband.

Sorry honey. You don't get to fire someone during one of the most traumatic moments of their lives and expect them to stay friends with you. Nor will I come running back when you realise you now have no childcare.

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#19 Entitled Friend Thinks I Should Put Off Losing Weight Since I'm Making Her Look Bad

Hi So I (F20) am on a weight loss journey and have lost about 18 kg so far and for the first time in a long time, I actually like how I look in photos. I had not seen my friends for some time due to school and work past few months to lose weight but recently my friends and i decided to have a girls day out nothing crazy. Anyway...day off I kind of get stick in traffic and make it to the restaurant a few minutes later than everyone. Everyone was so happy and excited to see me happy and healthier except Gia(22F). Gia and I have been friends since primary school. She’s always been a bit self-centered, but I didn’t realize just how deep it went until that day.She spent the entire day being so passive aggressive saying i was trying too hard and making her feel like the fat friend now... girl, what?? Later in the night.. she pulled me aside and asked if I could slow down on the weight loss until after her birthday trip in July because I’m apparently making her look bad and that she doesn’t want to be the ugly one in the group photos. I laughed because I genuinely thought she was joking. She wasn’t. She then said that I was changing the vibe between us and that now people were paying more attention to me than her, and it made her feel some type of way She also said I used to be the relatable one and now I’m just trying too hard to be hot. I told her very calmly that I’m doing this to better myself, not to compete with her or anyone else. She got upset and yelled at me saying I was being selfish and putting looks over loyalty....I don't even know what that means. Anyway I haven’t responded to her texts since. Isn't this out of line or am I being sensitive?

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#20 Friend Of A Friend Wanted To Exclude Me From My Friend’s Birthday Trip Over My Hair Color

I saw an ask reddit and it reminded me of a funny story from a little while ago.

I have a friend group that consists of me and three other girls, all of them have dark hair. We were planning a little trip for my friend who we’ll call Gina’s birthday, so it was us and then three of her other friends. Two of her friends also had dark hair except for who I’ll call Sheila.

So I’m a natural blonde, and Sheila dyes her hair blonde. Sheila told Gina she didn’t want me coming on Gina’s birthday trip because “being blonde is my thing” I’m not even kidding, this girl legit actually disliked me for being blonde.

And here’s the best part, the trip was to go see a Sabrina carpenter concert lol.

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#21 'Friend' Tells Me I'm A Horrible Person, Then Asks If They Can Swim In My Pool

Long story short, the person who was once my best friend and I had a huge falling out. Mostly over her boyfriend, who is not well liked amongst our former friend group. He is 'laid off' more often than he actually has a job, but refuses to look for a new one. He chain smokes, and is drunk before noon when left home alone. He also embarrasses her in public by talking about their s*x life.

She knows none of us can stand him, and has even made comments to the extent that his friends and family have written him off as a lost cause.

However I am the only one she told was a horrible friend/person when she was considering breaking up with him, and ALL of use told her she should. To be fair, I may have been a bit more blunt than the rest.

Now I have a pool, and normally we would all meet up to swim fairly regularly, but hadn't that year due to the fall out.

So, after 4 months of 0 contact, she texts me 'Let me know if you go swimming today.'

The nerve of some people.

Edit: Yes, I already realized she might be trying to reach out, but I think we can all agree that after 4 months a text that only says 'Let me know if go swimming today' and nothing else is a pretty lame attempt.

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#22 Entitled "Friends" Asking Us To Sell My Husband's Car

So this story happened around 7 years ago, my husband (DH - 35M) and I (31F) were dating for a year. He was invited to a wedding of his two friends from uni (for the story they will be EG-34M and EB- 33F). EG was actually my husband's roommate for a year and from what he told me they were very close and friends with his parents too. So DH asked me to be plus 1 to wedding.

We went and it was a wedding where no money was saved. It was in the garden of an expensive hotel (like Hilton) and with full course meal, lots of drinks etc.

We were seated to a table far away from the bride& groom,not close to family and friends tables also. DH also didn't know anyone on the table. I was a bit irked but DH is a bit naive, so we gave our gifts and danced, had over all good time.

After wedding we learned that couple went to Maldives for a month for honeymoon.

2 weeks after the honeymoon, EG calls my husband and asks for a loan. He tells that his father's company is not going well and due to some tax reasons his father named EG as the owner so he is a lot of debt. His wife also doesn't have any savings, they just bought her a car.

DH tells him that he doesn't have much also, he can only spare 1000 euro but not more. EG tells him to sell his car and give them the money 😅🙃

DH comes and asks my opinion, he says they are in bad place etc. I'm like "audacity they have 😳" and ofc explained him they shouldn't have so expensive wedding, if they have money problems. And why don't they sell their own car??

At the end, he didn't give any money and we never heard from them again. Still puzzles me though, how can you be so entitled to ask someone to sell your car to pay your debt??

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#23 Friend Excitedly Invited Myself And 8 Other Friends Over For Dinner Only To Ask For Us To Pay Her Back The Next Day…

I have a new friend from my grad school who has been constantly mentioning how she wants us over for dinner so she can “cook for us” so she finally set a date. Her menu of food was pretty lackluster and most of us contributed to her hosting by bringing nice wine and tequila while leaving her one bottle as a hostess gift. The next day she sends us all a message asking if we can pitch in $10 each to cover some of the food cost and to cover the cost of her roommate’s tequila which we didn’t even know was opened.

I reluctantly sent her the $10 as did some of my other friends even though I had a few friends think if was absolutely ridiculous to do so they completely avoided sending her anything.

Since then I have sent her a message requesting her to let us know if she expects compensation especially if she is PURPOSEFULLY inviting us and to also let us know if we are using her roommates items which we are expected to pay for.

I got a lukewarm response from her and now I can’t help but think she is tacky and has bad etiquette.

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#24 Friend Invites Herself To My Romantic Getaways

I was dating a flight attendant, Steve, who was based near a very touristic city. We had been meeting halfway and traveled to other places together for long weekends. He visited me on his time off as well. One time I visited him at his hometown and had a great time. I met his friends and liked them a lot and they seemed to like me as well. Like myself he lived very frugally with a goal to retire in a few years. He had a 2 bedroom condo and rented the guest room on Airbnb for extra income.

When I got back my friend Savannah calls to see how my trip went. I fill her in on how much I enjoyed his town and friends and that we became much closer during my visit. I only knew Savannah in group situations and never hung out with her long enough to get a sense of her personality. My initial thought was that she was being a supportive friend.

The next night she calls again and tells me she wants to come along with me the next time I see Steve. I tell her no, that we like our privacy. She asks about when the guest room is vacant. I tell her the only time it’s not rented out is when his kids visit.

This is when I learn she doesn’t like taking no for an answer. She calls me a third night and asks if I can ask him to ask his friends if she can stay with them. I tell I feel like that would be a major imposition and that I won’t ask him. I did a reality check with a few coworkers to see if I was off base. They suggested she was out of bounds and not to further the friendship.

She calls me a day or so after asking if she can stay at his friend’s places with a new angle. She starts by asking if Steve plans to visit me soon. I tell her yes and she says I should have a party so our friends can get to know him. I tell her that I might do that but don’t have definitive plans for the visit. She doubles down and tells me I should think more seriously about a party. I tell her I’ll think about it. Then she tells me that she wants the opportunity to ask him if she can visit him with me and ask him if he can ask his friends if she can stay with them. I felt she was suggesting that if I don’t ask him privately she will ask him publicly when it would be awkward for him to say no to her. I didn’t talk to her for a year after that. If she hadn’t been in my friend group I would have ended the ‘friendship’.

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#25 Entitled Friend Drops Me Because I Didn’t Give Her My Disney Plus Login

So this happened a few years ago and I never clocked it as entitled behaviour rip. To start out, yes I know I was naive but please go easy on a lonely girl doing online university.

I had a friend in university (during COVID) and we would chat all the time and totally would not do our online tests together or anything (😉🫣). For the most part the friendship was equal with give and take until it came to when she mentioned a show she wanted to watch on Amazon prime video, I had an account and she didn’t have an account but I did, so I have her my login to use for that show. After a bit we didn’t talk as much as before since she graduated earlier than I did and we didn’t have classes together anymore. But after a few months of not talking much at all she asked if I still had my Disney plus account and said yes and she proceeded to ask for my login, which I said no, I already gave you my amazon prime video login for free. She said that didn’t have the show she wanted to watch and really wanted me Disney plus login, to which I said I wasn’t comfortable giving that out for free and even offered to split the cost of the account with her because mine was going to expire and I didn’t know if I wanted to renew it. Well anyways, she ghosted me completely after I didn’t giver my login rip.

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#26 Friend Expected Me To Pay For His New GF Holiday

A friend and I had booked a holiday, he found a GF just before and insisted she came as well. Then after I had asked about re-spliting the accommodation costs, he informed me that he expected that I would still split the entire holiday costs 50/50 as I originally agreed - which now included his GFs costs - because he wasn't going to let her pay for anything. He expected me to fork out half of his new GFs activities, food, accommodation etc and I'd never met her.

I ended up pulling out, told him I was cancelling the accommodation (it was booked in my name only) and he got angry and told me since I was 'changing the rules' I had to still pay for half the accommodation as it was already paid for.

The fall out was ...... interesting. I cancelled, told him that the accommodation woukd be held for him for 72 hours. He tried to get cheaper accommodation, and failed - but didn't ensure the hotel knew he was still interested. He lost the hold, I returned his money, but he had booked non-refundable flights and failed to get travel insurance (I have told him to), do was out $3200 - which he has demanded I pay him for "ruining his and his GFs holiday".

#27 Friend Wants Me To Illustrate For Free

A friend I took and art class with for a year or two had this colourful Idea one day to write a book and for me to be the illustrator, at the time I was not really all that busy but still gave him a strong maybe. Eventually he is at a writers block and just gives up. I assume that he wasn't all that serious about it and forgot all about it.

Sixish months had passed since school ended when I get a text from him asking if I would like to illustrate for his book for free. Since then I had gotten into an online college course and a job, I am pretty swamped. Naturally I say "I don't know man, I am hella swamped and just do not have time for this." I really do not like saying no, so I was trying to let them off easy whilst not seeming completely uninterested in his project. He gives me a run down and I am just terribly uninterested I tell him It is a cool idea but again I am really busy.

The next day there is a new message, it describes the character to me, like commisioning an OC to be drawn, and the most hysterical part is he expects this character to be designed, finalised, sketched, and done in two motherloving days. Which is ofc impossible. I confirm this with him, but atlas now he just wants the heads to be drawn, still very impossible and definitely not worth the price of being completely free. I explain the situation one last time yet he holds out hope.

TLDR: Friend wants me to draw for his book for free with the idealistic budget of paying me nothing and with the deadline of two days, despite being told my life is pretty busy.

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#28 My Friend Won’t Get License And Won’t Ever Give Me Gas Money

I’ve had my license for a little over a year now, i got it right after i turned 16. My friend has all her drive times finished, all the practice hours and meets every requirement but WILL NOT take the test for some reason… so for the past year i’ve driven us everywhere and she never helps with gas or anything and obviously we can’t take turns driving to even it out. Whenever i mention her getting her license she gets mad, whenever i mention her helping paying for gas she gets mad. She’s my best friend so i don’t wanna stop driving us places but idk what to do because it’s expensive and annoying. Recommendations please!

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#29 My Friend Got Mad At Me For Telling Her A Tool She Hasn’t Tried Yet Is Actually Terrible

I (26F) work in a small office and often get stuck testing new tools my boss wants to implement in our workplace. Last week, he told me tets this AI-ish demo tool to see if it could work for our setup. I spent hours using it and it was… bad. Slow, glitchy, barely any customization, and the analytics were basically useless. I honestly can’t imagine anyone thinking it’s amazing.

My friend, also a (26F), is a freelance designer who’s recently been obsessed with productivity tools and reels about “life-changing AI.” She came across this same tool and immediately decided it could be used to transform her workflow without trying it herself. She told me she planned to use it everywhere: her portfolio, client demos, even her CV link. I suggested she test it once before fully committing, based on my experience.

And then she lost it. She accused me of being negative, of “crushing her motivation,” and said I always “bring down her ideas.” She acted like I personally attacked her career because I gave an honest opinion about a tool she hadn’t even used. She started giving me the silent treatment.

So I called her to talk and sort things out. Instead of listening, she said something really mean about a recent client project I had handled. I told her she was being unfair, but she continued to escalate, bringing more people into the argument over messages and trying to shame me in front of them. At that point, I cut the call, blocked her everywhere, and shut her off.

Now I have over 50 missed blocked calls from her.

I still want to fix this because I don’t want to lose a friendship over something like this, but it’s exhausting to deal with something like this.

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#30 Friend Asked Me To Watch Her Cat For A Week, She’s Across Town No Compensation And Then Laughs When I Ask To Use Her Washer

I think I just want to vent cus I feel a little Upset but anyways y’all tell me

So my friend, Mika and I have been friends, though not close friends, for about tow years. We met at the gym and really get along, however She often disappears when she’s in a new relationship and hence why we aren’t super close.

Well recently she came back into my Life and hung out. During this time she asked me to come watch her cat who is 19 years old while she is out of town and to move her car. Mind you, she lives across town and I am just a recent graduate and pretty broke as I am looking for a job. Mika, has a job and is currently living on her own in a nice apartment, though I think struggling with money to pay a high rent.

I say sure because her cat is sweet and old and I don’t want her to be alone. First she just asks about her cat and then all Of a sudden as it gets closer she then mentions she also needs to move her car during street cleaning. I get it, don’t want a ticket. Mind you, no compensation or pay, not even an offer for some gas $ to do all this and I’m like okay maybe it’s cuz she’s broke.

She tells me to make myself at home but clean up after myself- which I am very clean. But she does say do not eat any of her food I’m like okay? Lol. I only go over for a few hours each day because I’m pretty busy myself with job searching, friends and my own cat. I also have like on call jobs. She

I go over and see she has a washing machine and I’m like Oo it’s expensive to wash and my unit doesn’t have one so I have to take ir somewhere. So we FaceTime so she can see her cat and I say hey! Can I bring my laundry here? And she straight up laughs and says “girl I pay the water bill so no. That’s funny”. Tbh I didn’t think it was too much to ask,

Needless to say I probably won’t ever offer to do anything like this for her ever again. If it was me, I’d offer someone gas, or food or my laundry machine if i could, guess we’re just different.

#31 She Borrowed My Laptop To Get A Job , Now She Acts Like It’s Hers

A couple months ago, my roommate’s laptop broke right before she started a remote job. She was freaking out, so she asked to borrow mine for just a few weeks until she could afford her own. I wasn’t using it much at the time, so I said sure. Just trying to help. it’s been over two months she’s been using my laptop every day to work, make money, hold meetings, everything. I finally told her I needed it back for my own stuff. And she hits me with, You’re not even using it for work, so why can’t I keep using it? Like what the hell? She’s literally been making money off something she borrowed, and now she’s acting like I’m wrong for wanting my own shit back. No signs of buying hers. No thank you. Just attitude. Now she’s being cold and passive aggressive like I did something to her.

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#32 My Fling From 5 Years Ago Is Mad At Me

I, 28F have been with my current boyfriend John (name changed) for the past three years. He has been my rock, and I hope to marry him.

5 years ago, I had a fling with a former college mate. Funnily, he shares the same name as my current boyfriend. We went out on two dates, but he never called me after that so I assumed it fizzled. Tbh I'm very glad now that he made no attempt to contact me after the two dates.

John the fling and I have little to no contact, however we have a few mutual friends. I recently ran into him at a wedding, and was catching up with him. He asked me if I was seeing someone, and I told him I was dating a guy with the same name as his.

For some godforsaken reason, John the fling was highly offended by this. He said 'if you wanted to end up with a John, I was right there'. (Like people with the same name are interchangeable). I politely reminded him that he never called me back. He said that he was waiting for me to call him, and I never did, so he gave up. I could have called him, but honestly I wasn't feeling it.

He made a few unwarranted taunts over text after that, and to protect my peace I simply blocked him. No more of that in 2026.

My boyfriend simply found it amusing and while he has made a joke about it, we've both taken it in a positive spirit.

PS: not that it matters, but I should clarify that the name is an extremely common name here in India.

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#33 I’m Banned From My Friends House For Asking To Sit Next To Their Roomate On The Couch

I live in (drum roll for stereotypes pls) Portland Oregon

I’d come to find out that mutuals had blocked me and because nothing happened between me and these individuals I decided to ask their roomate what occurred and here’s the story

*ahem*

they blocked me because on one occasion, months ago, i had been in the same room as these individuals and a couple others. we were all in the living room. I had walked into the living room and noticed there was only a spot on a couch, next to an acquaintance i’d talked to a couple of times. I didn’t immediately sit down and instead asked “Hey can i sit there?”
i was told “No” and i was pretty shocked but i just said okay and sat on the floor instead. No pushback, i didn’t make a fuss of any sort. Just sat on the floor and talked to all these people. Conversation was sweet and nothing out of the ordinary.

Come to find out two people in that room are extremely angry that i “Didn’t respect the acquaintances boundaries” (??) and have now declared im never allowed over and i’m blocked on everything. Not being allowed over is insane because im best friends with their roomate which is why i was there in the first place. I was never ever told about this persons boundaries nor did they ever tell me about them themselves. When told “no” i sat away from this person on the hard ground while they had an entire couch to themselves. A similar incident has never happened after the fact nor was this “incident” ever brought up to me.

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#34 Friend Forgot My Bday Two Years In A Row But Expects Me To Remember & Acknowledge Hers

She is in her late 20’s, single & child free. I am in my early 30’s, married & have 1 toddler. We rarely hang out in person but we do text each other almost every single day and I would consider her a close friend, but after yet another forgotten birthday I’m starting to rethink my friendship with her.

To be clear I don’t expect anything big for my birthday from any of my friends. A text message is all I’d ask, and I don’t even ask for that. I have had several friends send belated birthday texts and apologies for forgetting because they were so busy and honestly I get that and I appreciate the honesty.

The reason why this bothers me with this friend in particular is because she expects everyone in her life to go all out for her birthday with a week long planned vacation trip, wish lists for gifts with links that she sends people, and obnoxious social media posts, and yet she can’t be bothered to send me a simply happy birthday text??

She is the type of person to throw a housewarming party every time she moves into a new apartment, which is twice per year. She also didn’t attend my baby shower because she wanted to attend her brothers football game instead, and when I bought a house she didn’t say anything to me. Be so for real right now…. I’m so over it.

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#35 My Entitled Friends

My wife and I have friends (also neighbors) that have recently started to act so very entitled.

The most recent example happened yesterday. We live in a Midwest state but our little village has an amazing fresh fish shop. It’s very well known in our larger city and constantly recognized with awards. The shop is always closed on Mondays.

Well, last Monday we planned on fish for dinner. Completely forget the day of the week (I’m retired, it happens) and so I pull into the small parking lot for the fish shop. Big sign - CLOSED. Then I realize it’s a Monday. Ok, no big deal, we’ll do fish on Tuesday.

At that moment our friends walk out of the store with their package of fish. I’m confused and ask “how?” The neighbor wife tells me, “we knew they were closed on Mondays but we pulled in, walked up and saw the owner inside so we knocked and walked in.”

These people knew the business was closed, pulled into the parking lot anyway, walked up to the front door and saw the owner inside. They walked in to empty refrigerated display cases and assumed they’d be taken care of.

When I wondered aloud if the owner would do the same for me (we shop there frequently), the neighbor wife tells me, “they’re closed.”

Apparently not for the entitled people.

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#36 My “Friend” Won’t Pay Me Back For Drinks Because She Has Bills To Pay

So I was recently with a good friend of mine and one of her friends from college for the weekend. We went out to bars the first night and each took turns buying rounds for everybody, but the next morning we spent forever trying to figure out who owed what to who so I announced that we should handle our own drinks for the following night, which everyone agreed with. That went mostly to plan except one place towards the end of the night where we all ordered our drinks and then they (drunkenly) went to the bathroom right after ordering. When the bartender came up to me with the drinks and asked for payment, that was when I noticed they were gone, so I just put my card down for all of the drinks not thinking it would be a big deal. Well I spent the next few days reminding them over and over again that they each owed me $15 for these drinks, to which I was met with “yeah ok” but no actual money was sent. For context, these girls are freshly graduated from college paid for by their parents and have been paying rent for the first time in their lives for only a couple of months, while I have handled my own rent/bills for 5 years but currently am living nomadically in my van. So after about a week of hounding them for this money they finally tell me that they won’t be paying me back because they are “broke” and have to save up to pay bills at the end of the month. I try to remind them that all adults have bills to pay and that is not an excuse to not pay me back to which they remind me that I don’t have to pay rent unlike them. Right, because I live in a van they need that $30 wayyy more than me I guess

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#37 My Entitled Friend Calls Me Creepy For Helping My Sister When She Broke Her Arm

I(21f) live alone with my sister(15f) and she broke her arm and needs help doing certain things

The other day when I was helping my sister bathe my friend who lives right next to me shows up to return a movie she borrowed from me. I answered the door and she started asking what I was up to. When I told her that I had been helping my sister bathe since she broke her arm she flipped out. She started calling me a creep and said that I shouldn’t be allowed anywhere near my sister.

She stormed off and my sister asks if she was doing anything wrong since she heard the conversation. I assured her that she wasn’t. When I arrive at work the next day everyone was giving me dirty looks while talking to my friend(she also works there).

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#38 Friend Told Me I Shouldn't Get Married Where I Wanted To If Not Everyone Could Attend

I was planning my wedding years ago and talking to a friend about how we wanted to do it on a boat. Due to it being potentially on a boat, we were limited to the number of guests. She immediately said we were being selfish and should do it in a place that could accommodate everyone; however, it was my dream to have it on a boat and since my fiancé and I were paying for the entire thing we were fixed in our budget.

Granted, nothing was set in stone because we were only in the beginning planning stages and we were still looking at options, but it rubbed me the wrong way because it was supposed to be about what we wanted and not her, so I ended up ghosting her as a friend.

We ended up having the wedding on a boat, had a great time with the party going on until the sun came up the next day. So was ITAH, or was she entitled? Still annoys me 20+ years later.

UPDATE: I do not think of this all the time or harp on it. This was actually the first time I thought of it in years. I think scrolling through posts from Entitled People made me think of it.

#39 I Was Sick At Home, And My Friend Still Expected Me To Help Her Move

I came down with a fever and chest congestion — the full viral cocktail. I let my friend know a few days ahead that I wouldn’t be able to help her move anymore. She didn’t respond. The morning of her move, I woke up to five missed calls and a text that said, “If you cared about me at all, you’d be here.” Mind you, I couldn’t even walk to the kitchen without coughing my lungs out. When I called to explain again, she said I was “making excuses” and accused me of always flaking. I’ve helped her with everything in the past — birthdays, breakups, errands, drama. The one time I can’t show up, suddenly I’m a bad friend? That told me everything I needed to know.

#40 My Entitled Friend Volunteered Me To Dog Sit For Him On New Years Eve And Day

Hello, I just need to vent and need some feedback about this situation.

My friend messaged me yesterday asking if I could dog sit for Saturday night and Sunday night (New Years Eve), until Monday as he goes out of town to celebrate. I told him I couldn’t because I had just watched his dog for 2.5 weeks earlier in December and didn’t want my landlord to have a problem with it but I could make just one night work. He said no worries and that he definitely needs someone to watch his dog for 2 nights. I later messaged him and said “I’m sorry I couldn’t help out. I hope you found someone to watch him. Have fun this weekend!” He replied back saying “Thanks!”

This morning, I got a text from his friend that I barely know asking what time he could drop off the dog to me. Apparently my friend had planned with him that he would watch the dog on Saturday night and I would watch Sunday night.

Anyways, I felt stressed out after calling him and not hearing from him for 4 hours and then snapped and sent a text letting my friend know that he is selfish for assuming I could just watch his dog, misleading his friend and that he’s screwing around with plans that both his friend and I had made and leaving his responsibilities with us. I decided to end the friendship because this isn’t the first time this has happened where my friend just assumes and volunteers me to help out with things without checking with me. He replied back with letting me know he found someone else to watch the dog for tonight and totally gaslit me about how I felt.

Was I wrong to snap and end the friendship? I don’t think I am because I don’t want someone like him in my life. He makes me feel like I’m being used and like I’m his assistant (not his friend). He asks me to help clean his house and a bunch of other odd jobs. I think he takes advantage of my helpful and kind personality. I snapped at him because my anger was building up for a while. We have had multiple conversations before about how I feel used.

What are your thoughts? Needless to say, he kind of ruined today for me as I spent the day in conflict with him. It just ruined my mood completely.

#41 Friend Got Angry When I Didn't Answer Her Message While I Was At Work

I was working today from 9am to 2pm. My friend, who knew I was at work, messaged me. When I didnt respond she started getting funny. Sending messages blaming parents, me and then being petty enough to say "you know what, Im not going near that food truck ever, take a hint. I've got my own stuff to deal with on top of this." (the take a hint was without context). Why should I stop working and risk getting fired to message her back because she's going through something. So when I was eventually off work I messaged back "no, how about YOU take a hint. I'm at work, I can't message back when. I'm. Working".

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#42 Friend Tried To Trick Me Into Babysitting

This happened long ago, but even after 25 years I can't wrap my head around it. My husband and I were graduate students and we, like most of our friends, lived on a low budget. One of our classmates was engaged to a guy with a lot of money--think hot-shot stockbroker in the late 1990s. He was clearly training her in The Ways of the Entitled. They had a little boy together.

We didn't see them much because we couldn't afford most of the restaurants or events they suggested. My friend, however, acted like we were just avoiding her no matter how much we reminded her the costs were out of reach for us.

One Saturday evening, she called and started out with: "We haven't hung out in so long. How about you two come over and we'll get a pizza or something." I said we'd love to come. Then she said, "Great. And after you put [3 yr old] to bed, you can just watch a movie or something."

I was confused and asked why we would put her son to bed. Weren't we going to hang out? She replied, "Oh, fiancé and I are going to a party in the neighborhood. We'd invite you to come along but the hosts don't even know you and that would be awkward. But we should have time to chat before we leave."

I said I didn't want to be her free babysitter. She got annoyed and said it wasn't free because they'd get us a pizza. I said 'no thanks' and she was so shocked--"WHAT?! Now you're not coming? What are we supposed to do now?" Keep in mind it had been only about 40 seconds since I figured out she expected us to babysit.

I imagine she spent the party complaining about the friends who were supposed to watch her kid but bailed on the the last minute.

#43 Entitled Friend Feels She Deserves To Be Invited To My Birthday As Our Other Friends Are Going

For my birthday I planned to go to a driving range with some friends.

The driving range in question allows 6 people to play in a bay but 8 people can attend.

As a result, I invited 4 of my closest friends and my girlfriend. While out with 2 of these friends I invited our other friend to tag along and explained the couldn’t play. He was fine with this as he isn’t the sporty type but I didn’t plan on inviting an 8 person as I’d feel bad explaining that they could come but wouldn’t be able to play.

However, when one of my friends I hardly speak to found out about the driving range she got one of my friends invited to message me saying she doesn’t mind not playing.

I don’t talk to this friend often. The last time we spoke was her asking me for car help then getting annoyed when I wouldn’t get ready at 10pm to come try to sort an issue with her car when I’m not a mechanic and was working the next day.

Anytime we are out she feels entitled to an invite and will message us privately asking why she wasn’t invited. She has even messaged me when I’ve been out with family asking who I was with and told me she was going to argue with me if I had said some of our friends.

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#44 Friend Acting Weird Because I Don’t Want To Drive For A 4 Hour Round Trip

So I have friend A and friend B. Friend B lives in a city 2 hours away and she is having a leaving party as she’s moving abroad and she invited me and A.

Me and A usually hang out and would be going to visit our friend together. Now I drive but A does not. The thing is I want to enjoy myself that day so decided not to drive to the city. I’ve been the designated driver for me and A and she never offers gas which I didn’t mind In the beginning but for long trips I have to ask her directly. She never offers.

As I want to drink, have fun and genuinely not dread focusing on the road for 2 hours there and 2 hours back she keeps questioning why I don’t want to drive. I’ve reiterated above and now she’s being weird as if she doesn’t want to go.

We literally could and I was hoping to take the train there. It’s not that serious. I feel like she doesn’t want to pay for a ticket and was banking on me driving there for free.

Also another thing A is unemployed. She has been for a few months and has made it her whole personality. She’s on government assistance till she finds a job. I know it’s not enough but it’s not like she’s starving. Plus she likes to brag to me that her friend likes to buy her random things off her Amazon wish list and gushes about it to me which just disgusts me in a way because the friend seems like lovely girl who clearly feels sorry for my friend.

What shall I do if she says she’s not going anymore? Shall I let B know? The thing is A introduced me to B so I don’t want it to be awkward

#45 Entitled Friend Claims Me Getting Physically Fit Makes Her Depression Worst

Hi guys, I've been a lurker in reddit for so long and I finally have the courage to post something.

I (17,F) am unfit. Though I'm not fat (49 kg), my body is not toned and firm. I admit, I do lack the exercise and so that is why I decided that I'd work out.

I decided to work out on late January and I could see the little progress that I made. My friend (let's call her A) noticed it too when I posted some pictures of me working out on facebook.

A is a little on the heavier side. She's a good friend and I've known her since 6th grade. She always tried to exercise and have a healthier diet but usually, she gives up in a week or two.

A messaged me and here it goes: (I translated the conversation we have in english .)

A: Hey, I see you're working out. Why would you do that?

Me: I just wanna get toned lol.

A: Stop it.

Me: Stop what?

A: Stop working out!! You're making my depression worst.

Me: I'm sorry? How is me working out make you depress?

A: Don't act like you don't know. Stop flaunting your body and stop exercing you bitch!! If you're really my friend, you'd quit. Stop contributing to my anxiety and depression!!

Before I could respond, she already blocked me. Well, okay then.

Edit: So A decided to tell our mutual friends about this and now some of them had been calling me to just give her what she wants and to stop being so insensitive. I don't know what to do anymore.

Edit 2: So I finally was able to talk to her and she told me that she no longer wants to be friends with someone like me. I apologised that I offended her and even invited her to work out with me but she said her words are final. I'm devastated to think that 5 years of friendship was gone. Thank you so much for your kind words everyone.

#46 Stopped Being Friends With Someone And They Won’t Leave My House

I found out one of my friends is fake and talks about me behind my back. I asked her for space and told her she made me uncomfortable, she agreed to this. Less than 24 hours later she showed up at my house and has been hanging out with my younger sister day and night non stop for a week now. I have anxiety leaving my room to use the bathroom or go to the kitchen because I end up running into her.

I feel uncomfortable in my own home and I don’t know what to do. I asked my parents to ask her to leave but they said they didn’t want to make my sister angry and “you have no right to feel comfortable since you don’t pay rent”. I’ve asked her to leave multiple times but it doesn’t work. I don’t know what sane person would feel comfortable being in someone’s house when they know they aren’t wanted and just ended a friendship with them. I really don’t know where to go from here. I’m having trouble sleeping and doing my homework. Also she has a home and other friends she can be at, she chooses to pretty much live here.

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Dans la série "la religion c'est que des problèmes", voici un épisode que je n'avais pas vu venir. Click to Pray, l'application de prière officielle du Pape, a servi gratos les noms, les adresses mail et les dates de naissance de ses 719 517 inscrits à qui voulait bien les demander.

C'est le chercheur BobDaHacker qui a signalé le trou début janvier et si vous savez compter, oui oui, il a bien fallu 6 mois pour que quelqu'un daigne le boucher. Que voulez-vous, les voies du Seigneur sont impénétrables et visiblement sa boîte mail aussi.

L'appli avait été lancée par le pape François en 2019 depuis le balcon de la place Saint-Pierre, tablette brandie devant la foule. Elle appartient au Réseau Mondial de Prière du Pape, une fondation du Vatican, et tourne sur iOS, Android et en version web en 7 langues.

La faille se situait au niveau de l'adresse api.clicktopray.org/user/users/{id} qui renvoyait la fiche complète de n'importe quel compte, prénom, nom, pays, adresse mail, date de naissance et rôle. Aucune authentification demandée, il suffisait de taper l'adresse dans un navigateur.

Source : BobDaHacker

Les identifiants étant séquentiels et le débit n'étant pas limité, une simple boucle sur les 719 517 numéros suffisait à aspirer le fichier entier. Une requête par fidèle, comme pour l' ANTS ^^. Vous le savez maintenant, ça s'appelle un IDOR, pour Insecure Direct Object Reference et c'est quand le serveur vérifie que vous êtes bien connecté, mais jamais que les données réclamées vous appartiennent. Eh bien ici, il ne vérifiait même pas la première moitié.

BobDaHacker explique pourquoi la boulette revient sans arrêt : "la plupart des frameworks gèrent l'authentification pour vous, mais pas l'autorisation. Ils vérifient "est-ce que cette personne est connectée ?", mais pas "est-ce qu'elle a le droit de voir cette ressource précise ?"". Pourtant c'est la base, mais bon, bref...

Ce type de contrôle d'accès défaillant trône en tête de l'OWASP Top 10 depuis 2021, et l'IDOR en est probablement la variante la plus répandue. Pour apprendre à les repérer, je vous avais même montré WebGoat .

Ce qui est marrant, c'est que dans la base, le champ date de naissance s'appelle borned_date, ce qui n'est de l'anglais dans aucune langue. Et le rôle attribué au fidèle lambda, c'est "PRAYER". Votre fonction de péon sur l'application de prière du Pape, c'est donc prière. Ahaha !

Le vrai risque maintenant n'est pas vraiment la fuite en elle-même, mais plutôt ce qu'un escroc va pouvoir faire avec 700 000 adresses de ces gens inscrits pour prier, avec une institution de confiance à usurper. Un mail annonçant que le Saint-Père sollicite votre attention urgente, avec un lien qui imite celui du Saint-Siège, ça fonctionnera très bien je pense...

Dark Reading, qui a confirmé la faille de son côté, a noté que les identifiants les plus bas sont ceux des employés. Les premiers exposés étaient donc ceux qui auraient dû corriger. Mais le bouquet les amis, c'est l'authentification des mails. Ceux de l'appli ratent les contrôles de domaine, SPF, DKIM ou DMARC étant mal réglés, au point que la boîte du chercheur les a marqués comme suspects.

L'application officielle du Vatican envoyant donc déjà des mails qui ressemblent à du hameçonnage, un escroc qui n'aurait pas peur d'aller en enfer, n'a même pas besoin de soigner son imitation.

Arrive la partie qui pique de cette remontée de vuln... Le 3 janvier, BobDaHacker écrit à 9 personnes, l'adresse info générale, 6 membres du staff de clicktopray.org + 2 contacts du Réseau Mondial de Prière.

Puis il attend mais aucune réponse ne vient.

Alors rien ne bouge durant 6 mois. Puis en juillet il passe le dossier à Nate Nelson, de Dark Reading, qui contacte le service de presse. Silence là aussi. Alors l'article sort le 24 juillet, et Ô miracle (ça arrive parfois, oui oui) la faille est bouchée dans la foulée, sans un mot. Le chercheur l'a appris dans les commentaires Reddit qui parlaient de sa découverte.

Mais je vous garde le meilleur pour la fin, attendez... Ce que vous ne savez pas c'est que le Vatican s'est doté de son propre règlement de protection des données personnelles en avril 2024. Ça s'appelle le décret n° DCLVII et il réclame des "mesures de sécurité appropriées" et désigne nommément ceux qui doivent les appliquer. Ce décret a bien été promulgué, puis visiblement rangé dans un tiroir.

Ah et visiblement, l'URL qui leake continue toujours de répondre sans authentification mais ne renvoie plus que l'identifiant, le prénom et le nom. L'adresse mail a disparu, comme la date de naissance et le pays. Donc c'est un genre de demi-correctif puisque les noms restent énumérables un par un sans le moindre compte. Le chercheur juge ça acceptable sur une plateforme où l'on prie "ensemble". Moué, pourquoi pas.

Voilà, donc si vous avez un compte là-bas, partez du principe que votre adresse mail a circulé et que vous risquez d'avoir des appels du Pape, voire de Dieu lui-même qui vous demandera sûrement un virement en urgence. Je vais prier pour vous afin que ça n'arrive pas, mais sachez que ce scénario de la lose, je vous en parlais déjà à propos de la divulgation coordonnée de vulnérabilités , et il ne change jamais. Le chercheur alerte, l'éditeur ignore, et c'est la presse qui finit par débloquer....

Et BobDaHacker, lui, attend toujours son merci. Snif...

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Anthropic, la société qui édite l'assistant Claude et qui reste l'un des principaux rivaux d'OpenAI et de Google, a annoncé hier Claude Opus 5, un nouveau modèle qui vient se caler juste sous son vaisseau-amiral Fable 5 tout en coûtant environ deux fois moins cher à l'usage.

Le tarif ne bouge pas. Comptez 5 dollars par million de tokens en entrée et 25 dollars en sortie, exactement comme pour le précédent Opus 4.8, sachant qu'un token est le petit morceau de texte que le modèle lit ou écrit, en gros une syllabe, et que c'est l'unité de facturation de toutes ces IA.

La fenêtre de contexte, c'est-à-dire la quantité de texte que le modèle garde en mémoire d'un coup, monte à un million de tokens, l'équivalent d'un très gros livre, et la réponse peut s'étirer jusqu'à 128 000 tokens. La réflexion est activée par défaut, le modèle prend donc le temps de raisonner avant de répondre, et les pressés peuvent basculer sur un mode environ 2,5 fois plus rapide, facturé le double.

Les progrès annoncés portent surtout sur le code, sur les tâches d'agent, où l'IA enchaîne seule des actions pour accomplir un travail, et sur le computer use, où elle pilote carrément un ordinateur en cliquant, en naviguant et en remplissant des formulaires comme le ferait un humain.

Sur les benchmarks, ces tests standardisés qui servent à comparer les modèles, Opus 5 passe de 19 à 43 % sur FrontierBench, de 1,5 à 30 % sur ARC-AGI-3, qui mesure la résolution de problèmes jamais vus, et grimpe à 71 % sur OSWorld, le test de pilotage d'ordinateur, contre 56 % pour son prédécesseur.

Sur SWE-bench Verified, qui fait corriger de vrais bugs de code, il atteint 96 %. Sauf que voilà, sur la version plus dure de ce test, Fable 5 garde une très courte avance, 80 % contre 79, et l'égalité avec le haut de gamme maison mérite donc un astérisque.

Autre réserve, tous ces chiffres viennent d'Anthropic elle-même, et l'expérience montre qu'entre les scores d'une annonce et l'usage quotidien, il y a parfois de la marge.

Côté abonnements, Opus 5 devient le modèle par défaut de l'offre Claude Max et le plus costaud accessible avec un abonnement Claude Pro. Du coup, la vraie question n'est plus de savoir si ce modèle est bon, mais de savoir qui a encore une raison de payer Fable 5 deux fois plus cher.

Pour moi, Opus 5 devient le choix par défaut, et Fable 5 se retrouve cantonné aux rares usages où le dernier point de pourcentage se paie sans discuter.

Source : The Verge

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L'IA agentique n'est pas un simple chatbot qui répond à une question. C'est un système capable d'enchaîner des tâches, de mobiliser plusieurs agents spécialisés, de se connecter à votre messagerie, votre agenda ou vos outils de paiement, et d'agir en votre nom, parfois sans validation humaine à chaque étape. Cette autonomie change la donne pour la protection des données personnelles. C'est le constat que dresse le Conseil de l'IA et du Numérique (CIANum), rattaché à la CNIL, dans une note publiée en juillet 2026 consacrée à l'articulation entre IA agentique et RGPD.

Une architecture qui multiplie les flux de données

Un système d'IA agentique repose généralement sur trois briques.

1. Un agent « orchestrateur », qui sert d'interface principale avec l'utilisateur en langage naturel.
2. Des agents « spécialisés », coordonnés par l'orchestrateur, qui prennent en charge des tâches précises comme la génération de code, le traitement de texte ou les paiements en ligne.
3. Et enfin des services externes (applications, bases de données, outils de recherche web) que ces agents peuvent solliciter pour mener à bien une requête.

Ces échanges reposent sur des protocoles standardisés, comme MCP développé par Anthropic ou ACP développé par OpenAI, qui permettent aux agents d'accéder aux ressources dont ils ont besoin. Le problème, souligne la note, c'est que cette architecture multiplie les échanges de données, à la fois entre les agents eux-mêmes et avec l'extérieur. Résultat : l'utilisateur perd facilement de vue l'ampleur réelle des données traitées et la finalité précise de chaque interaction, surtout quand les échecs répétés d'un agent entraînent une cascade d'échanges supplémentaires.

Pour fonctionner, ces systèmes s'appuient sur deux mécanismes distincts. Le processus correspond au traitement d'une requête donnée, avec un contexte qui conserve l'historique de l'échange et qui est supprimé une fois la tâche terminée. Le stockage mémoire, lui, est persistant et indépendant des processus : il conserve des informations réutilisables d'une conversation à l'autre, notamment des données sur l'utilisateur, qu'elles soient renseignées volontairement ou déduites automatiquement des interactions.

Des principes du RGPD mis sous tension

La note détaille comment plusieurs piliers du RGPD deviennent difficiles à faire respecter concrètement dans ce contexte.

• Le principe de finalité impose que les données soient collectées pour des objectifs déterminés et explicites. Or un agent conçu pour accomplir une multitude de tâches dans des domaines variés rend le périmètre exact de ses traitements difficile à cerner.
• Le principe de minimisation exige de ne traiter que les données nécessaires à l'objectif poursuivi. Mais les IA agentiques mobilisent souvent de grandes quantités d'informations, e-mails, historique de navigation, fichiers, les partagent entre agents et les conservent en mémoire pour anticiper les besoins futurs de l'utilisateur, sans toujours démontrer que tout cela était réellement nécessaire.
• Le principe d'exactitude prévoit que les données doivent rester fiables et à jour. La nature probabiliste des modèles génératifs implique un risque d'erreur, et ces hallucinations peuvent se propager dans le système sans qu'aucun mécanisme n'alerte l'utilisateur.
• Le principe de transparence, qui exige une information claire sur les traitements effectués, se heurte à la difficulté d'expliquer les sorties produites par des modèles dont le fonctionnement reste largement probabiliste et peu lisible même pour leurs concepteurs.
• Enfin, le principe de limitation de la conservation impose que les données ne soient gardées que le temps nécessaire. Cette exigence entre en tension avec la conservation de jeux de données destinés à entraîner ou améliorer les modèles, et la multiplication des espaces mémoire dans les architectures agentiques rend le contrôle des durées de conservation d'autant plus complexe.

Ces difficultés rejaillissent sur l'exercice des droits des personnes concernées (accès, rectification, effacement). Il est alors compliqué de savoir quel agent a collecté une information, où elle a été stockée, si elle a circulé vers un autre composant du système, et auprès de qui faire valoir ses droits.

Une connaissance de l'utilisateur toujours plus fine

Les mécanismes de mémoire permettent aux agents d'adapter leurs réponses et d'améliorer l'exécution des tâches. Mais dans les architectures à plusieurs agents, la multiplication des espaces de mémoire disperse les données entre différents environnements de stockage, ce qui complexifie la traçabilité des opérations effectuées sur ces données (ajout, modification, suppression) et leur durée de conservation.

La note prend un exemple parlant : si un utilisateur supprime un fichier sensible de son ordinateur dans un dossier partagé avec son IA agentique, rien ne garantit que les données personnelles correspondantes ont bien été effacées de l'ensemble de la mémoire du système. Si elles y sont restées, elles peuvent continuer à être exploitées lors d'interactions futures.

À cela s'ajoute l'enrichissement du profil via des sources externes. Lorsqu'un utilisateur donne accès à son environnement de travail (messagerie, agenda, espaces documentaires), l'agent peut consulter l'ensemble des informations disponibles pour répondre à une requête, y compris des données qui n'étaient pas strictement nécessaires à la tâche demandée. Cette collecte cumulative permet au système de déduire toujours plus d'informations sur la vie privée de l'utilisateur, des informations qui seront ensuite mobilisées, parfois implicitement, pour traiter de futures requêtes.

Quand l'assistance devient délégation

Cette autonomie croissante déplace peu à peu le pouvoir de décision de l'utilisateur vers le système. La note cite la présidente de Signal, Meredith Whittaker, qui résume ce glissement par cette formule : mettre son cerveau dans un bocal et laisser l'IA gérer sa vie.

Un agent ne se limite plus à assister une décision, il peut exécuter seul l'ensemble des étapes nécessaires à la réalisation d'une tâche. Mais la difficulté à interrompre un processus en cours peut aussi conduire à des erreurs d'interprétation ou à des hallucinations qui se propagent dans le système. La note évoque le cas rapporté par une employée d'une grande entreprise du numérique, dont l'IA agentique a supprimé un grand nombre d'e-mails professionnels, sans qu'elle parvienne facilement à interrompre le processus à distance.

Cette autonomie peut aussi faire basculer certaines actions dans le régime des décisions individuelles automatisées prévu par l'article 22 du RGPD, qui protège toute personne contre une décision fondée exclusivement sur un traitement automatisé et produisant des effets juridiques à son égard. La CJUE a d'ailleurs précisé, dans son arrêt sur le score SCHUFA, qu'une simple validation humaine formelle ne suffit pas à écarter cette qualification : l'intervention humaine doit être réelle et exercer une influence effective sur la décision finale.

Qui est responsable en cas de problème ?

La multiplication des agents et des services tiers impliqués dans une même tâche rend également difficile l'identification du responsable en cas de dysfonctionnement. Achat erroné, e-mail envoyé au mauvais destinataire, divulgation de données confidentielles à un système tiers : dans chacun de ces cas, retracer l'origine du problème suppose de reconstituer l'ensemble du processus décisionnel et le rôle de chaque acteur impliqué.

Un système d'IA n'a pas de personnalité juridique et ne peut donc pas être tenu responsable en tant que tel, mais son niveau d'autonomie empêche aussi de le considérer comme un simple outil passif. Ces divergences d'interprétation ont notamment contribué à l'abandon, en 2025, du projet de directive européenne sur la responsabilité en matière d'intelligence artificielle. En l'absence de régime spécifique, ce sont les règles de droit commun françaises qui continuent de s'appliquer : responsabilité délictuelle, responsabilité du fait des choses, responsabilité contractuelle, ou encore le nouveau régime européen sur les produits défectueux.

Sur le plan de la sécurité, l'architecture distribuée des IA agentiques élargit aussi la surface d'attaque : une vulnérabilité dans un seul composant peut affecter l'ensemble du système, et la circulation continue des données entre agents et services externes multiplie les points de faiblesse exploitables.

Les pistes envisagées pour reprendre la main

Face à ces constats, la note liste plusieurs mesures techniques et juridiques susceptibles de rééquilibrer la relation entre utilisateurs et systèmes agentiques.

Sur le plan technique, elle recommande de cloisonner la mémoire des agents, chacun disposant idéalement d'un espace dédié et isolé, sans accès automatique aux données des autres agents. Cette mémoire pourrait aussi être volontairement limitée en taille, avec des informations qui expirent automatiquement après un certain délai. Le déploiement de ces systèmes dans des environnements cloisonnés (sandboxing) est également recommandé, afin de réduire au strict nécessaire les accès aux services et aux données de l'utilisateur.

Autre piste : classer les actions possibles sur chaque service par niveau de risque, afin de déterminer lesquelles nécessitent une validation humaine avant exécution. La note suggère aussi l'intégration d'un bouton d'arrêt d'urgence, permettant d'interrompre à tout moment un processus agentique en cas de comportement inattendu.

Sur le plan juridique, la note appelle à renforcer la transparence des systèmes agentiques, en permettant à l'utilisateur d'identifier, pour chaque tâche exécutée, les données mobilisées, les agents intervenus et les services tiers sollicités. Elle plaide également pour un contrôle renforcé de l'utilisateur sur les données auxquelles les agents peuvent accéder, en particulier lorsqu'elles sont sensibles.

Des lignes directrices communes entre le Comité européen de la protection des données (CEPD) et la Commission européenne, portant sur l'articulation entre RGPD et Règlement sur l'IA, sont d'ailleurs attendues d'ici la fin de l'année 2026. Le Règlement sur l'IA, dont l'application complète est prévue en 2027, ne prévoit à ce stade aucune règle spécifique aux agents IA, même si ses obligations générales leur sont applicables.

L’article "IA agentique : pourquoi vos données personnelles vous échappent un peu plus chaque jour" a été publié sur le site Abondance.

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Le PlayStation Network, le réseau en ligne qui gère les comptes, la boutique PS Store et le multijoueur des consoles Sony, a subi une panne mondiale hier vers 13h, heure française.

Les connexions aux comptes, la boutique et les parties en ligne étaient inaccessibles, ce qui arrive régulièrement. Mais le problème est allé plus loin. Des jeux dématérialisés refusaient de se lancer, y compris des jeux solo censés fonctionner hors ligne, parce que la console n'arrivait plus à vérifier la licence auprès du serveur, autrement dit à obtenir la confirmation que vous avez bien le droit de lancer le jeu que vous avez acheté.

La coupure est tombée en pleine bêta ouverte de Marvel Tokon : Fighting Souls. Elle serait liée à une panne d'AWS, l'infrastructure cloud d'Amazon qui héberge une grande partie du web, survenue le même jour. Sony n'a pas confirmé ce lien.

Ce genre d'incident devient fréquent. On compte une demi-douzaine de coupures du PSN depuis mars, soit environ une toutes les trois semaines. Celle de février 2025 avait duré une journée entière, et l'attaque de 2011 avait laissé le réseau hors service pendant presque un mois.

Le contexte explique pourquoi le débat entre jeux physiques et jeux dématérialisés repart aussi fort cette fois. Sony a confirmé qu'il arrêterait de produire de nouveaux disques physiques PS5 à partir de janvier 2028. Du coup, chaque panne donne un aperçu de ce qui se passera quand le dématérialisé sera la seule option.

L'argument de fond est connu. Un jeu sur disque fonctionne sans serveur. Une licence dématérialisée n'est qu'une autorisation accordée à distance, et une panne, un problème d'infrastructure ou une simple décision d'entreprise suffit à la rendre inutilisable, temporairement ou pour de bon.

Le disque n'est d'ailleurs plus une garantie complète, puisque Rockstar a déjà prévenu que la version physique de GTA VI contiendrait quand même un code de téléchargement.

Une nuance tout de même. Les joueurs qui avaient activé le partage de console et le jeu hors ligne sur leur console principale ont souvent pu continuer à jouer normalement. Ceux qui jouaient sur une autre console que la leur ont été bloqués comme tout le monde.

Sony vend des jeux qui dépendent d'un serveur pour se lancer, tout en supprimant l'alternative physique. Vu la fiabilité actuelle du PSN, c'est difficile à défendre.

Source : Comic Book

La hiérarchie des sapeurs-pompiers ne se résume pas à une liste de galons cousus sur un épaulement. Elle détermine, seconde après seconde sur intervention, qui prend la décision tactique et à quel moment le commandement bascule vers un échelon supérieur. Comprendre les grades de pompiers et la chaîne de commandement, c’est comprendre le mécanisme opérationnel qui structure chaque SDIS.

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L’article Grades de pompiers et chaîne de commandement : qui décide quoi en intervention ? est apparu en premier sur Ma Gazette.

Gérer un serveur à la main, c'est nginx à configurer, les certificats à renouveler, les sauvegardes à planifier et les conteneurs à surveiller... C'est beaucoup de travail. Mais vous allez avoir de l'aide grâce à DockPanel, d'Ovidiu Drobotă, qui met tout ça derrière une jolie interface web tenant dans 19 Mo de RAM.

L'installation se colle en une ligne sur un VPS frais et vous récupérez un panneau d'admin sur le port 8443. Ubuntu, Debian, Rocky, Fedora ou Amazon Linux, en x86_64 comme en ARM64.

À partir de là vous créez des sites en PHP, Node ou Python, avec nginx configuré tout seul et les certificats Let's Encrypt qui se renouvellent sans y penser. Les bases MySQL et PostgreSQL vont avec, navigateur SQL intégré et restauration à un instant T via les journaux binaires.

Ensuite, c'est surtout le catalogue Docker qui fait le gros du travail. Environ 150 modèles en un clic répartis sur 14 catégories, WordPress, Postgres, Grafana, n8n ou Immich, et le reverse proxy, le SSL et le réseau se câblent automatiquement derrière. Les conteneurs inactifs peuvent même se mettre en veille tout seuls pour libérer la machine.

Je vous parlais l'an dernier de Coolify pour le déploiement en self-hosted , et avant ça de aaPanel, le clone gratuit de cPanel mais aucun des deux ne couvre autant de terrain.

Côté déploiement, vous poussez votre code et ça part en production, avec bascule atomique par lien symbolique et retour arrière en un clic quand le déploiement du vendredi tourne mal. Nixpacks reconnaît plus de 30 langages, donc pas de Dockerfile à écrire, et chaque branche peut avoir son environnement de préversion.

Il y a aussi un serveur mail complet, Postfix, Dovecot et DKIM, avec Roundcube en webmail et Rspamd contre le spam. La partie DNS pilote Cloudflare et PowerDNS, avec vérification de propagation, DNSSEC et les tunnels Cloudflare. Un module CDN gère BunnyCDN et Cloudflare, purge du cache comprise.

Pour la surveillance, des sondes HTTP, TCP et ping, une gestion d'incidents avec chronologie et post-mortem, une page de statut publique à laquelle vos utilisateurs peuvent s'abonner, et des alertes qui partent sur Slack, Discord ou PagerDuty. Un point de collecte Prometheus est dispo, avec un tableau Grafana prêt à importer.

La sécurité est activée par défaut avec pare-feu applicatif ModSecurity par site, Fail2Ban, durcissement SSH en un clic, connexion par passkey ou 2FA, et chaque image Docker déployée peut être scannée à la recherche de CVE avec grype, avec refus de déploiement au-dessus du seuil que vous fixez. Les sauvegardes passent par Restic, chiffrées et dédupliquées, vers S3, SFTP, B2 ou GCS, avec vérification de restauration.

Le reste ensuite, c'est que du confort. Terminal web avec enregistrement de session, gestionnaire de fichiers, palette de commandes en Ctrl+K, 6 thèmes, boîte à secrets chiffrée, passerelle à webhooks et une ligne de commande. La configuration complète s'exporte en YAML pour être rejouée ailleurs. Si vous gérez plusieurs machines, un seul panneau les pilote toutes, avec des comptes revendeur en marque blanche pour ceux que ça intéresse.

Deux choses à savoir avant de lancer l'installation quand même... En mars, une injection de commande dans le formulaire de création de site a permis à un visiteur de passer root sur la machine de l'auteur. C'est corrigé depuis, mais l'agent tourne en root par conception puisque c'est lui qui touche à Docker, à nginx et aux certificats.

L'autre point, c'est la licence. DockPanel est en Business Source License 1.1, ce qui n'est pas de l'open source même si la page d'accueil le présente comme ça. L'usage est libre et gratuit sur vos propres serveurs, mais la revente en service hébergé est interdite. Une bascule en MIT est quand même programmée pour mars 2030.

Voilà, je me suis dit que ça pourrait vous intéresser.

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La carte graphique minimum dont on a besoin pour émuler une PS3 est sortie... après la PS3. C'est AniLeo et kd-11, de l'équipe RPCS3 , qui viennent de descendre le minimum officiel de l'émulateur à la Radeon HD 2900 XT, sortie en mai 2007. La PS3, elle, arrivait en France en mars de la même année.

Certes, c'est moins de deux mois d'écart mais pour émuler une console, en général, on a besoin de matériel largement postérieur.

RPCS3 accepte donc maintenant les Radeon HD 2000, 3000 et 4000, la première génération TeraScale d'ATi. Le plancher précédent, c'était la HD 5550. Deux conditions quand même : ça ne marche que sous Linux, avec le pilote libre Mesa r600. Windows reste dehors, le vieux pilote d'AMD étant trop bancal pour l'émulateur.

Maintenant, ce qui bloquait vraiment n'était pas la puissance. L'émulateur tenait pour acquis que toutes les cartes qu'il supporte savent faire un certain type d'écriture en mémoire. Ces vieilles Radeon ne savent pas, et personne n'avait prévu le cas, alors l'affichage plantait dès le démarrage, sur un pointeur nul... snif. Le correctif consiste donc à vérifier si la carte sait le faire, et à s'en passer quand ce n'est pas le cas. Et voilà, une pull request plus tard et c'était du tout bon pour la Radeon HD 2900 XT !

Reste que la plus musclée de ces vieilles puces, la HD 4890 de 2009 avec son gigaoctet de mémoire, donne des résultats à géométrie très variable. Sur les captures de l'équipe, OutRun Online Arcade tourne entre 52 et 59 fps, et Metal Gear Solid HD Collection oscille entre 45 et 60 selon la densité de la scène. Jusque-là, ça va.

Par contre, la démo de FIFA 08 tombe à 15 fps, et le jeu Rain à 15 aussi, et là c'est la cata. Cette HD 4890 est pourtant plusieurs fois plus puissante que le RSX, la puce graphique de la PS3, mais ça ne suffit pas, parce que l'émulateur lui refile du boulot que la console ne lui demandait pas, comme décoder les textures à la place du processeur. Et surtout, parce que la mémoire n'est pas rangée pareil.

Sur PS3, la mémoire vidéo et la mémoire système sont bien deux réservoirs séparés, sauf que les jeux ont le droit de piocher directement dans les deux. Tout est à portée de main. Sur PC, les deux sont vraiment cloisonnés, du coup l'émulateur passe son temps à recopier les données de l'un vers l'autre.

En descendant dans la gamme, la sanction est immédiate. La HD 3870 doit tomber à 273p, l'équivalent d'une PSP, pour afficher les jeux les plus simples. La HD 2600 XT, elle, plafonne à 12,9 fps sur Portal à cette même définition. Bref, ça ne sert plus à rien de descendre plus bas, celle-là est carrément plus faible que la puce de la console qu'elle est censée émuler.

Côté manipulation, il faut mentir au pilote. Ces cartes annoncent une version d'OpenGL trop ancienne, et l'émulateur refuse de démarrer tant qu'il la voit. Deux variables d'environnement au lancement suffisent à lui faire croire le contraire :

MESA_GL_VERSION_OVERRIDE=4.3 MESA_GLSL_VERSION_OVERRIDE=440 ./rpcs3.AppImage

Et si ça plante encore, l'équipe conseille de basculer le réglage Shader Mode sur "Legacy Recompiler".

Je vous parlais de RPCS3 en 2021 quand il servait surtout à rendre les vieux jeux plus beaux avec le FSR d'AMD et voilà maintenant qu'il sait les faire tourner sur du matériel de leur époque.

Le billet de l'équipe , que je vous invite à lire, détaille les réglages et les résultats carte par carte. Si vous avez une TeraScale au fond d'un placard, vous savez quoi en faire.

Quels morceaux fonctionnent réellement dans l’acoustique d’une salle de crématorium, et lesquels tombent à plat ? La musique pour des funérailles au crématorium ne se choisit pas comme celle d’une église ou d’un cimetière. Le système sonore, la durée de la cérémonie et la liberté totale du cadre laïc changent la donne sur le plan technique autant qu’émotionnel.

Contraintes techniques

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Le 23 juillet à 23h16 précisément, GitHub reçoit une notice du ministère de l'Intérieur indien avec un compte à rebours de seulement 3 heures. Ce qu'exige cette notice c'est de faire disparaître 3 dépôts de code, et pas n'importe lesquels. Ceux de bitchat , la messagerie Bluetooth de Jack Dorsey qui fonctionne sans le moindre réseau.

Trois jours plus tôt, le 20 juillet, des étudiants du Cockroach Janata Party manifestent à Jantar Mantar, en plein centre de Delhi, et réclament la démission du ministre de l'Éducation.

La police disperse leur marche à la matraque et au gaz lacrymogène, ferme des stations de métro et coupe l'internet mobile autour du site. Alors au bout de 2 jours de coupure, les manifestants basculent sur des applis qui n'en ont pas besoin.

Bitchat, sorti l'été dernier, fait exactement ça. Chaque téléphone discute en Bluetooth Low Energy avec ceux qui sont à sa portée, soit une trentaine de mètres, et relaie les messages de proche en proche. Dans une foule dense, la chaîne de relais pousse alors la portée à 300 mètres et plus.

Aucun compte à créer et aucun numéro de téléphone à fournir. Il n'y a pas non plus de serveur central, et les messages privés passent par du chiffrement Noise Protocol. Puis quand le réseau revient, l'application bascule sur le protocole Nostr pour la portée mondiale.

Le code iOS de Bitchat est dans le domaine public, tout comme la version Android en GPL-3.0. Dorsey avait d'ailleurs ressorti la même boîte à outils il y a quelques jours avec Buzz, son chat d'équipe .

L'application, dit la notice de l'Indian Cybercrime Coordination Centre, "permet la communication même pendant des restrictions réseau" et crée "un risque substantiel d'utilisation abusive par des éléments antinationaux, des organisations terroristes, des groupes criminels organisés". Plus loin, on lui reproche une architecture qui entrave "l'interception légale, l'attribution et l'enquête". En clair, le reproche c'est de continuer à marcher quand l'État a coupé le net.

Côté droit, l'ordre s'appuie sur la Section 79(3)(b) de l'IT Act et la Rule 3(1)(d) des IT Rules, c'est-à-dire les articles en Inde qui protègent les hébergeurs de la responsabilité des contenus publiés par leurs utilisateurs.

Les infractions listées, elles, vont de l'accès non autorisé à un système informatique à la complicité, plus trois articles du nouveau code pénal indien sur le complot criminel et l'atteinte à l'unité nationale. Oui, oui, pour un dépôt de code... Bien sûr, l'Internet Freedom Foundation qualifie la manœuvre d'"inconstitutionnelle et autoritaire" et lui reproche de court-circuiter la procédure de blocage officielle. Certes, la Section 79 conditionne une immunité, mais elle n'ouvre absolument pas un droit de censure, puis surtout, cette notice ne désigne aucun message ni aucun fichier illicite précis mais vise le projet entier. Bref, c'est trop vague !

Et même si les rêves les plus humides du gouvernement indien se réalisaient, retirer un dépôt ne retire pas grand-chose. Si vous avez déjà l'app sur votre téléphone, elle y reste, et un maillage qui ne dépend d'aucun serveur continue de faire circuler les messages quoi qu'il arrive à la page GitHub.

MediaNama écrit que GitHub a obtempéré et retiré les liens de sa plateforme. Comme j'y ai encore accès, je pense que ça ne concerne que l'Inde et que Github a fait ça en mode géoblocage. Mais bon, peu importe, ça + l'effet Streisand, dans les heures qui ont suivi la notice, le code était de toute façon recopié sur d'autres sites. Il est sous licence libre, donc il peut être forké dans tous les sens.

En tout cas, ce n'est pas la première fois que cette messagerie sert de plan B à la population puisqu'au Népal, en septembre 2025, elle a été téléchargée près de 49 000 fois en une seule journée durant les manifestations Gen Z, soit près de 40 % de son adoption mondiale sur ce seul pays. Couper le réseau pour calmer une foule, l'Égypte avait déjà essayé en janvier 2011 , la Syrie quelques mois plus tard et on le sait, ça ne fonctionne pas.

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Neuralink a mis en ligne cette semaine une vidéo où des participants paralysés font rouler un fauteuil électrique par la pensée. Vous allez voir, c'est assez bluffant.

L'implant décode l'intention de bouger et déplace un curseur sur un écran qui affiche la vue de la caméra devant le fauteuil. Curseur vers le haut, le fauteuil avance, vers le bas il recule, à gauche et à droite pour tourner. Le cerveau dirige un curseur, et ce sont ces mouvements qui dirigent le fauteuil.

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Le matos utilisé ici, c'est l'implant N1. Un boîtier du diamètre d'une pièce de 1 euro, avec 1024 électrodes réparties sur 64 fils souples plus fins qu'un cheveu. Le boîtier vient se loger dans le crâne, et seuls les fils descendent dans le cortex moteur, la zone qui planifie vos mouvements.

Pour les poser, il est nécessaire d'utiliser un robot chirurgical. On retire un disque d'os du crâne ainsi que la dure-mère , le robot enfonce les fils un par un, puis la peau se referme par-dessus l'implant.

Aujourd'hui, 26 personnes dans le monde portent ce N1. Sept d'entre elles sont britanniques, opérées entre octobre et décembre 2025 à Londres dans le cadre de l' étude GB-PRIME . Et pour le moment, il n'y a eu aucune autorisation de mise sur le marché, mais uniquement des essais cliniques autorisés.

En 2019, je vous parlais déjà de Neuralink et de sa puce N1, avec son robot qui coud des fils dans le crâne et ses premiers essais humains annoncés pour l'année suivante. Le premier patient jouait à Civilization VI par la pensée. C'était impressionnant, mais ça se faisait à la vitesse d'un escargot sous Xanax.

Bon, et puis surtout, désolé hein, mais y'a Elon dans l'équation et pour moi c'est difficile de s'extasier devant cette démo quand on connaît ce personnage, le cirque permanent sur son réseau, les promesses balancées à la truelle et son appétence pour le fascisme .

Puis y'a un petit truc que personne ne soulève, c'est qu'on peut faire rouler un fauteuil par la pensée sans ouvrir le moindre crâne depuis novembre 2022. En effet, une équipe menée par José del R. Millán, prof à l'université du Texas à Austin, a sorti ça dans la revue iScience . On y apprend que 3 personnes tétraplégiques pilotent un fauteuil à l'aide d'un bonnet d'électrodes EEG posé sur le crâne. Celui-ci lit l'activité électrique du cerveau depuis l'extérieur et comme ça, y'a pas besoin d'opération, ni de robot qui perce l'os. Un peu de gel sur les électrodes, quelqu'un pour installer le bonnet, et ça peut s'enlever sans problème.

Le non-invasif n'est pas magique non plus puisque les trois participants se sont entraînés trois fois par semaine pendant deux à cinq mois. Ils ont démarré autour de 45 % de précision de décodage, et tout le monde n'a pas forcément atteint le même niveau de "pilotage".

Mais peu importe, on a d'un côté une entreprise qui vous ouvre la boîte crânienne et qui fait la une avec des vidéos bien calibrées pour le buzz et de l'autre des labos publics qui font rouler le même fauteuil 4 ans plus tôt sans opération, en publiant tout dans une revue en accès libre.

Et ça personne n'en parle.

Breeef... La recherche passe par différents chemins, et la plupart des équipes scientifiques n'ont pas de service com'. Des cellules souches qui réparent une moelle épinière , des chercheurs qui décodent la parole intérieure , tout ça sort en général sans teaser vidéo, ne l'oubliez pas...

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Hier, le 23 juillet 2026, la CISA, la NSA et le FBI ont sorti une alerte conjointe avec une douzaine d'agences alliées, et pour une fois leur message est assez court : Si vous auto-hébergez un serveur de messagerie Zimbra pas à jour, considérez que des espions russes lisent peut-être déjà vos mails !!

Voilà, le groupe s'appelle Laundry Bear (aussi connu sous le nom Void Blizzard chez Microsoft, ou TA488 chez Proofpoint), il est lié à l'État russe, et il exploite une faille connue de Zimbra depuis juillet 2025.

La faille, c'est la CVE-2025-66376. Il s'agit d'une XSS stockée dans la vieille interface Classic de Zimbra Collaboration, déclenchée par des directives CSS @import planquées dans un email HTML piégé. Le truc vicieux c'est qu'il n'y a pas besoin de cliquer pour se faire infecter. Vous ouvrez le mail, le JavaScript s'exécute tout seul, et voilà !! NVD note cette vuln 6.1 (interaction requise) quand le MITRE la monte à 7.2 (aucune interaction).

Et ce qu'ils récupèrent nos amis russes, là, c'est du lourd ! Une fois dedans, Laundry Bear siphonne vos 90 derniers jours d'emails, les adresses et mots de passe des comptes, l'annuaire complet de l'organisation (la Global Address List), et surtout vos jetons 2FA et codes de récupération. Autrement dit, même votre double authentification saute. Ils ont carrément développé un outil maison pour ça, baptisé "Ulej" (Улей, "ruche" en russe), qui exfiltre tranquillement les archives par requêtes DNS et HTTPS.

Zimbra a bien sûr corrigé la faille le 6 novembre 2025, dans les versions 10.0.18 et 10.1.13. Le patch existe donc depuis 8 mois ! Sauf que la campagne, elle, tournait déjà comme 0-day depuis juillet 2025, soit 4 mois avant le correctif. Résultat, entre les serveurs jamais mis à jour et ceux compromis avant le fix, on ne s'en sort plus. La CISA a même inscrit cette CVE à son catalogue KEV des failles activement exploitées. L'advisory conjoint des américains ne donne pas de décompte des victimes, mais le casting des cibles fait froid dans le dos puisque vous vous en doutez, l'Ukraine est en première ligne, ainsi qu'une tripotée de gouvernements sans parler des secteurs de la défense et l'énergie côté OTAN.

Si vous êtes concerné, et là je parle aux admins qui font tourner leur propre Zimbra, pas aux gens sur Gmail ou Outlook ^^, la marche à suivre est simple. Vous mettez à jour vers 10.0.18 ou 10.1.13 minimum, tout de suite. Et comme un serveur laissé sans patch durant des mois a de bonnes chances d'avoir déjà reçu de la visite, partez du principe que vous êtes compromis. Donc vous devez remettre à zéro tous les mots de passe, invalider les sessions actives, régénérer des codes 2FA, et jeter un coup d'œil dans les logs à la recherche de la commande CreateAppSpecificPasswordRequest ou de la chaîne "ZimbraWeb". Ce sont les traces que laisse le groupe Laundry Bear.

Ce genre d'attaque qui passe par un client mail, c'est devenu une spécialité des APT russes. Je vous en parlais quand APT28 transformait Outlook en backdoor avec NotDoor , et plus récemment quand des espions russes se faisaient piéger sur Signal . En général, la messagerie, c'est le coffre-fort d'une organisation, et ça ils le savent très bien.

Bref, si un Zimbra traîne quelque part sur votre infra, arrêtez de lire mon site et allez le patcher immédiatement !

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Voilà une nouvelle qui risque de faire plaisir aux amateurs d’art. En plus de la Galerie Médicis, la célèbre Joconde sera désormais présente sur OnlyFans sous le pseudonyme de @Moan_Lisa. L’occasion de dévoiler des images « 100% exclusives » et surtout « mucho mucho caliente », a déclaré ce matin le Président-Directeur du musée du Louvre, Christophe Leribault. Pour seulement 9,90 € par mois, chaque abonné pourra ainsi retrouver la célèbre Joconde dans son plus simple appareil et profiter de contenus inédits comme des photos de son sourire, des photos de ses yeux, et même des scans exclusifs d’un tableau jamais dévoilé au public représentant ses pieds. 

Avec déjà 40 000 abonnés, c’est un pari réussi pour le musée du Louvre qui enregistrait ce mercredi près de 350 000 euros de gains en moins de 24 heures. « Mona Lisa est véritablement la première bimbo de l’histoire. Ce n’était qu’une question de temps avant qu’elle ne fasse de l’ombre aux autres créatrices de contenu », commente Fabien Jacquet, historien de l’art, en téléchargeant la vidéo « 12 heures de Eye Contact rien que pour toi ». Même son de cloche du côté de Ludovic J., 28 ans. « Je me suis pris le pack « Audioguide rose » et je peux vous dire qu’entendre Mona Lisa me parler de sfumato, de composition pyramidale ou de non finito, ça donne clairement envie d’aller la voir en vrai », raconte-t-il, l’œil lubrique.

Un succès surprenant qui entraîne avec lui son lot de critiques, notamment des visiteurs japonais désormais obligés d’utiliser un VPN pour pouvoir admirer la célèbre Florentine. « Nous avons été obligés de restreindre le compte OnlyFans de Mona à l’Europe car le nombre de visiteurs japonais journaliers faisait crasher le site », explique Ludivine Sandoz, cheffe du pôle communication du musée du Louvre. « Cela dit, nous avons tout de même décidé de faire un geste pour nos amis asiatiques en leur permettant de venir prochainement se rincer l’œil sur une autre de nos pièces maîtresses », poursuit-elle, en nous dévoilant en exclusivité le futur compte MYM de la Vénus de Milo.

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Voilà une nouvelle qui risque de faire plaisir aux amateurs d’art. En plus de la Galerie Médicis, la célèbre Joconde sera désormais présente sur OnlyFans sous le pseudonyme de @Moan_Lisa. L’occasion de dévoiler des images « 100% exclusives » et surtout « mucho mucho caliente », a déclaré ce matin le Président-Directeur du musée du Louvre, Christophe Leribault. Pour seulement 9,90 € par mois, chaque abonné pourra ainsi retrouver la célèbre Joconde dans son plus simple appareil et profiter de contenus inédits comme des photos de son sourire, des photos de ses yeux, et même des scans exclusifs d’un tableau jamais dévoilé au public représentant ses pieds. 

Avec déjà 40 000 abonnés, c’est un pari réussi pour le musée du Louvre qui enregistrait ce mercredi près de 350 000 euros de gains en moins de 24 heures. « Mona Lisa est véritablement la première bimbo de l’histoire. Ce n’était qu’une question de temps avant qu’elle ne fasse de l’ombre aux autres créatrices de contenu », commente Fabien Jacquet, historien de l’art, en téléchargeant la vidéo « 12 heures de Eye Contact rien que pour toi ». Même son de cloche du côté de Ludovic J., 28 ans. « Je me suis pris le pack « Audioguide rose » et je peux vous dire qu’entendre Mona Lisa me parler de sfumato, de composition pyramidale ou de non finito, ça donne clairement envie d’aller la voir en vrai », raconte-t-il, l’œil lubrique.

Un succès surprenant qui entraîne avec lui son lot de critiques, notamment des visiteurs japonais désormais obligés d’utiliser un VPN pour pouvoir admirer la célèbre Florentine. « Nous avons été obligés de restreindre le compte OnlyFans de Mona à l’Europe car le nombre de visiteurs japonais journaliers faisait crasher le site », explique Ludivine Sandoz, cheffe du pôle communication du musée du Louvre. « Cela dit, nous avons tout de même décidé de faire un geste pour nos amis asiatiques en leur permettant de venir prochainement se rincer l’œil sur une autre de nos pièces maîtresses », poursuit-elle, en nous dévoilant en exclusivité le futur compte MYM de la Vénus de Milo.

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Avant d'acheter une ampoule connectée ou une serrure intelligente, vous aimeriez sans doute bien savoir si le truc vous oblige à créer un compte cloud et à prier pour que le serveur du fabricant reste allumé dans cinq ans, non ?

Hé bien l'Open Home Foundation, la fondation qui chapeaute Home Assistant, vient d'ouvrir en preview publique une Device Database qui répond pile à cette question. L'idée c'est de proposer un "Wikipedia de l'IoT".

Sauf que cette base n'est pas remplie à la main par une équipe marketing mais carbure à 100% grâce à de la télémétrie anonymisée remontée par des utilisateurs Home Assistant qui ont coché la case opt-in. Donc les données viennent du vrai monde, là où il y a des millions d'installations de Home Assistant et au moment où j'écris ces lignes, ça donne 19 237 appareils référencés et ça n'a de cesse d'augmenter.

La recherche fait remonter les appareils par marque, ici 209 résultats pour Aqara.

J'ai tapé " aqara " (lien affilié) dans la recherche pour tester, et j'ai obtenu 209 résultats. Je suis alors tombé sur la serrure Smart Lock U200 (lien affilié) et ce qu'on apprend, c'est que cette serrure propose une connexion locale, une intégration possible via Matter, et un badge vert "Fonctionne sans cloud". La base précise même combien d'installations ont remonté l'info et depuis quand l'appareil est repéré.

Comme ça, vous voyez immédiatement si l'objet dépend d'un serveur distant ou s'il tourne peinard sur votre réseau local, avant de sortir la carte bleue.

La fiche de la serrure Aqara U200 : connexion locale, intégration Matter et données réelles d'usage.

Voilà, c'est juste ce que les données remontées disent et côté vie privée, la fondation insiste sur le fait que la télémétrie reste anonyme, sans compte ni traçage derrière. C'est donc parfaitement cohérent avec l'ADN de Home Assistant. Si vous bricolez déjà vos capteurs ESP32 sans dépendre du cloud , vous voyez très bien le tableau, et vous savez pourquoi virer un objet trop bavard vaut parfois de jailbreaker un Echo Show .

La collecte a démarré en février 2026, et l'Open Home Foundation prévient que le lancement complet arrivera plus tard dans l'année, avec la possibilité de contribuer directement aux fiches. Ils calment aussi les impatients en nous expliquant que c'est un marathon et pas un sprint, et préfèrent rendre ça public rapidement même si ce n'est pas encore parfait.

Donc je vous invite à être indulgents avec ce nouveau service et la prochaine fois qu'un objet connecté vous fait de l'œil, un tour par la Device Database vous évitera peut-être d'acheter un machin scotché uniquement au cloud du fabricant.

Sources : LWN et l' annonce officielle de l'Open Home Foundation .

Si vous ne connaissez pas Linux, il faut savoir que sur ce système d'exploitation, le clic milieu colle la sélection. Moi, c'est un truc que j'aime bien, mais c'est surtout un héritage de X11 qui se marche complètement dessus avec l'autoscroll . Du coup Firefox désactive le sien par défaut sur Linux, et Chromium ne l'active nativement que sous Windows. Mais c'était sans compter sur Grant Hendricks qui a décidé de faire autrement avec midscroll .

Midscroll ne s'accroche à aucun toolkit, et se branche sur l'entrée du noyau. Ensuite, il capte chaque souris en evdev , la re-émet dans un clone uinput , et glisse ses événements de molette au passage. Rien au-dessus n'a donc besoin de coopérer, donc Wayland et X11 s'en fichent, et vos applis Qt, GTK ou Electron ne voient qu'une molette ordinaire.

Les gens sous Windows qui utilisent l'autoscroll savent que la vitesse dépend de l'écart. Un centimètre sous le point d'appui et la page descend au ralenti, la moitié de l'écran ou plus bas et elle défile à toute berzingue. Et tant que la molette reste enfoncée, ça scroll sans s'arrêter. C'est super pratique quand on est face à des pages web ultra longues.

Alors pour Midscroll, la courbe d'accélération qu'a mise au point Grant, n'a pas été bricolée au feeling. En fait, c'est la même courbe que celle de Chromium, reprise telle quelle : 0,000008 × distance^2,2 en pixels par milliseconde, avec une zone morte de 15 px histoire de ne pas déclencher sur un clic simple...

Et comme le middle-drag, ça sert déjà dans un logiciel de CAO ou dans Minecraft, il y a une liste d'exclusion pour FreeCAD, OrcaSlicer et Minecraft dedans. Comme ça, tant que ces fenêtres sont au premier plan, midscroll se retire en silence.

Et si tenir le bouton vous gonfle parce que vous êtes trop faible, le mode toggle inverse la logique : le pointeur circule librement une fois le défilement lancé d'un clic, et le premier clic venu remet tout à l'arrêt. C'est le fonctionnement de l'explorateur Windows ET de Firefox, et c'est une fonctionnalité qui a été beaucoup réclamée, même si on perd la faculté de coller du texte qui a été surligné.

Bien sûr, toutes les valeurs sont paramétrables. On peut régler la vitesse à laquelle ça part, la cadence des événements et dans quel sens ça défile.

Côté installation, des paquets pour Arch, Debian/Ubuntu et Fedora sont dispo, plus un install.sh pour le reste. Le flatpak, lui, est hors jeu car son bac à sable ferme totalement l'accès à uinput.

Le projet est hyper jeune, donc traitez-le comme tel et n'hésitez pas à contribuer pour soutenir le dev. Dans le registre confort Windows sous Linux, j'avais parlé de Wubuntu qui va beaucoup plus loin dans le mimétisme, et côté Wayland je vous avais montré niri et son défilement infini de fenêtres.

À tester et si ça vous gonfle, un sudo systemctl stop midscroll et on n'en parle plus.

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Odysseus, c'est le workspace IA que PewDiePie a balancé sur GitHub fin mai. Chat, agents, recherche web, email, calendrier, notes et documents, tout est réuni dans un superbe cockpit auto-hébergé dans lequel les modèles et l'historique peuvent rester sur VOTRE machine. Vous avez aussi un éditeur Markdown avec historique de versions, une génération d'images intégrée, et un mode Compare pour opposer deux modèles côte à côte en aveugle (exclusion faite des services tiers liés à la recherche web, l'email et le calendrier, évidemment...).

J'ai voulu l'installer sur mon Mac, mais j'ai quand même rencontré un petit piège qui a failli transformer l'expérience en échec... Voici donc comment le faire tourner correctement sous Mac + quelques idées de ce que vous allez pouvoir faire avec ce truc.

Avant de commencer

Odysseus évolue vite. La branche main est stable et testée, mais la branche dev peut casser n'importe quand. Privilégiez la branche stable en la clonant explicitement :

git clone https://github.com/odysseus-dev/odysseus.git
cd odysseus
git checkout main

Étape 1 : Oubliez Docker sur Mac

Sur Apple Silicon, Docker ne peut pas accéder au GPU Metal. Les modèles tournent sur le CPU, et ça rame comme pas permis. Du coup, sur Mac, on est obligé d'installer ça en natif.

Étape 2 : Installer Odysseus en 2 commandes

Ouvrez un terminal et lancez ça :

git clone https://github.com/odysseus-dev/odysseus.git
cd odysseus
./start-macos.sh

Le script installe alors les dépendances et démarre le serveur. Sur mon Mac, AirPlay squattait le port 7000, donc l'interface s'est ouverte automatiquement sur http://127.0.0.1:7860. Ensuite, au premier lancement, il faut renseigner un nouveau mot de passe pour le compte admin.

Si vous accédez à Odysseus depuis une autre machine (VPS ou serveur distant), ouvrez un tunnel SSH plutôt que d'exposer le port directement sur Internet :

ssh -L 7860:127.0.0.1:7860 user@votre-serveur.com

Ensuite, accédez simplement à http://127.0.0.1:7860 en local. C'est plus sécurisé que d'ouvrir le port sur le public.

Étape 3 : Un modèle rapide, genre Qwen

Pour du rapidos sans que ça devienne stupidos, j'ai choisi pour mes tests Qwen3-30B-A3B. Ce modèle n'active qu'une partie de ses paramètres à chaque réponse, ce qui colle bien à la RAM unifiée d'un gros Mac.

La première fonctionnalité assez cool dans cet outil, c'est le Cookbook qui permet de télécharger des modèles adaptés à notre config. Ce dernier a correctement reconnu mon M4 Max et ses 128 Go mais s'est ensuite planté comme une merde sur llama.cpp avec cette option --flash-attn auto invalide. Après avoir retiré le paramètre, le serveur restait aux abonnés absents tandis que l'interface l'affichait toujours comme actif. Bref, j'ai laissé tombé llama.cpp.

Le Cookbook reconnaît bien le M4 Max et propose des modèles adaptés. Le lancement, lui, a planté.

L'autre option qui s'est offerte à moi, ça a été Ollama ( je vous ai montré comment l'installer par ici ). Vous récupérez le modèle qui vous intéresse avec et vous lancez le serveur ouvert sur le réseau local :

ollama pull qwen3:30b-a3b
OLLAMA_HOST=0.0.0.0:11434 ollama serve

Dans les réglages d'Odysseus, ajoutez ensuite http://localhost:11434/v1. Et hop, ça fonctionne !! La version 1.0.2 propose aussi maintenant MLX dans le Cookbook, mais Ollama reste le chemin qui a vraiment tenu bon durant mes tests. Vous aurez peut-être plus de chances que moi.

L'ajout manuel de l'endpoint Ollama a été le chemin le plus fiable.

Bonus : Si vous n'avez pas de GPU ou que vous préférez la fiabilité, vous pouvez aussi connecter une API externe comme OpenAI ou OpenRouter. Dans les réglages, ajoutez simplement votre clé API et Odysseus basculera sur ces modèles cloud. C'est moins gratuit que du local, mais ça marche sans galère.

3 cas d'usages

Alors, cet outil fait plein de choses et on peut l'utiliser vraiment pour ce qu'on veut, mais pour ma part, je vous ai isolé trois cas d'usage compatibles avec mon activité.

Premier scénario, la tournée de veille du matin. Je lui donne les liens reçus durant la nuit, il les classe par sujet, repère les doublons et propose trois angles courts. Je garde les sources dans un document local, avec les objections et les points à vérifier. Et comme vous l'avez vu sur mes captures d'écran, le chat sait déjà faire du brainstorming puisqu'il m'a sorti trois angles exploitables en quelques secondes...

Trois angles d'articles en 29 secondes, avec un brouillon versionné ouvert à droite.

Deuxième scénario, un dossier par article. J'y range le brief, les liens primaires, les citations, les captures et les versions du texte. L'éditeur Markdown récupère le titre depuis le premier H1 et conserve l'historique. Avec deux modèles configurés, le mode Compare permet d'opposer deux intros ou deux plans côte à côte sans envoyer le brouillon chez un fournisseur.

Troisième scénario, le secrétaire de rédaction local. Il surveillerait une boîte dédiée aux alertes de sécurité, préparerait la liste des sujets urgents et poserait des rappels dans le calendrier. Sur le papier, c'est exactement le type de corvées chiantes qu'un agent devrait pouvoir absorber mais en pratique, jamais de la vie, je ne lui laisse faire des actions automatiques comme envoyer des mails, ou gérer mon calendrier. Pour moi, c'est pas encore assez safe.

J'ai demandé à l'agent de retrouver un document et de le résumer. Il a dépensé près de 1 800 jetons à deviner comment appeler manage_documents, sans jamais lancer l'outil de recherche. De son côté, le calendrier a terminé sur un Could not extract JSON puis la recherche web a trouvé le bon dépôt GitHub, mais le modèle en a choisi un faux.

Le pompon, c'est la fonctionnalité Deep Research. Après 4 minutes de boulot, ça m'a généré 13 pages issues de 6 sources retenues. L'outil a donné la bonne conclusion au document, mais ensuite, a totalement inventé une vidéo, un numéro de marque et plusieurs statistiques. Donc pour l'utiliser dans un cadre journalistique, sans contre-vérification intégrale, ça ne sera pas possible.

Le rapport affirme que le site est vide alors qu'il contient un guide complet. Jolie hallucination, présentée comme une preuve.

Bon, je suis content de l'avoir testé mais Odysseus ressemble encore à un super cockpit dont plusieurs boutons ne sont pas encore reliés au moteur. Le chat via Ollama et les documents sont utilisables, mais le Cookbook, les agents, le calendrier et la recherche factuelle restent trop fragiles. Mais attention, n'allez pas croire que je critique le travail de PewDiePie, car le projet est encore très jeune, donc tous ces petits défauts sont normaux. Le potentiel d'Odysseus est énorme, mais pour le moment, je ne suis pas prêt de lui confier la gestion de mes sources, ou la rédaction d'un brouillon d'article sans perdre des heures à tout vérifier.

Voilà, le code est sur GitHub sous licence AGPL . Je vous laisse découvrir ça !

Merci à Remouk pour le partage et pour finir, je vous laisse avec cette vidéo de Renaud Dékode qui a aussi testé Odysseus :

Charger la vidéo depuis YouTube Ce clic autorise une connexion à Google : adresse IP transmise et traceurs possibles. En savoir plus

La fameuse arrivée sur les Champs-Élysées de la Grande Boucle promet d’être particulièrement croustillante. Les organisateurs ont en effet décidé d’ouvrir à la circulation le fameux rond-point de l’Étoile sur la place Charles-de-Gaulle, au centre de laquelle se trouve l’Arc de triomphe et où débouchent pas moins de douze grandes avenues parisiennes. Les cyclistes devront non seulement éviter tous les véhicules qui leur fonceront dessus sans scrupules mais ils seront tenus de respecter les priorités que les automobilistes ne respecteront pas. A noter également que plusieurs cars de touristes ainsi que de nombreux scooters seront mobilisés pour l’occasion afin de rendre l’épreuve encore plus périlleuse. 

D’autres changements au programme

D’autres petits changements sont à prévoir pour l’arrivée du Tour dans la capitale. Les coureurs devront ainsi circuler sur un bout de périphérique aux heures de pointe entre la porte de Gentilly et la porte d’Auteuil. Ils devront également réussir à sortir du quartier du Marais sans emprunter les voies à sens unique à contresens et sans utiliser les voies fermées pour travaux. Aucun changement en revanche lors de l’arrivée à Paris proprement dite puisque les coureurs devront comme d’habitude prendre le métro 9 avec leur vélo sous le bras de Porte de Saint-Cloud à Michel-Ange-Molitor pour ne pas perturber les habitants du XVIe arrondissement. 

Les organisateurs ont reconnu s’être inspirés du Giro (Tour d’Italie). L’année dernière, en effet, une épreuve avait été ajoutée lors de la traversée de Naples puisque les coureurs devaient s’arrêter à chaque fois que des piétons traversaient en dehors des passages cloutés. Le Giro s’était terminé avec deux jours de retard.

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La fameuse arrivée sur les Champs-Élysées de la Grande Boucle promet d’être particulièrement croustillante. Les organisateurs ont en effet décidé d’ouvrir à la circulation le fameux rond-point de l’Étoile sur la place Charles-de-Gaulle, au centre de laquelle se trouve l’Arc de triomphe et où débouchent pas moins de douze grandes avenues parisiennes. Les cyclistes devront non seulement éviter tous les véhicules qui leur fonceront dessus sans scrupules mais ils seront tenus de respecter les priorités que les automobilistes ne respecteront pas. A noter également que plusieurs cars de touristes ainsi que de nombreux scooters seront mobilisés pour l’occasion afin de rendre l’épreuve encore plus périlleuse. 

D’autres changements au programme

D’autres petits changements sont à prévoir pour l’arrivée du Tour dans la capitale. Les coureurs devront ainsi circuler sur un bout de périphérique aux heures de pointe entre la porte de Gentilly et la porte d’Auteuil. Ils devront également réussir à sortir du quartier du Marais sans emprunter les voies à sens unique à contresens et sans utiliser les voies fermées pour travaux. Aucun changement en revanche lors de l’arrivée à Paris proprement dite puisque les coureurs devront comme d’habitude prendre le métro 9 avec leur vélo sous le bras de Porte de Saint-Cloud à Michel-Ange-Molitor pour ne pas perturber les habitants du XVIe arrondissement. 

Les organisateurs ont reconnu s’être inspirés du Giro (Tour d’Italie). L’année dernière, en effet, une épreuve avait été ajoutée lors de la traversée de Naples puisque les coureurs devaient s’arrêter à chaque fois que des piétons traversaient en dehors des passages cloutés. Le Giro s’était terminé avec deux jours de retard.

L’article Tour de France – Pour pimenter l’arrivée, les voitures autorisées à circuler sur le rond-point de l’Étoile est apparu en premier sur Le Gorafi.fr Gorafi News Network.

Ne dites plus TDP, mais « puissance CPU par défaut ».

Avec ses puces EPYC de 6^e génération (« Venice »), AMD a fait la bascule. Il communique ce nouvel indicateur qui reflète la consommation cumulée calcul + I/O pour une cible de performance donnée.

Jusqu’à 256 cœurs avec EPYC Venice

Les CPU Venice utilisent des cœurs Zen 6 et 6c. Ils se répartissent en quatre familles.

Dans le haut du panier, les EPYC 9006 SP7 (9 références) vont de 64 à 256 cœurs physiques, pour 300 à 600 W de puissance par défaut. Ils sont attendus au T4 2026.

Prévus pour S1 2027, les EPYC 9006 SP8 (22 SKU) se destinent à des environnements plus restreints, avec 8 à 128 cœurs physiques et 130 à 400 W de puissance par défaut.

La série 9006X SP7 cible le HPC, avec davantage de cache L2 que les 9006 SP7 et une fréquence maximale portée à 5,15 GHz. Quant aux 9006 LP (basse consommation ; ex-Verano), ils visent les nœuds de tête au sein des architectures agentiques.

Un GPU Instinct à l’intersection de l’IA et du HPC

Lancée en parallèle des EPYC Venice, la gamme de GPU Instinct MI400 comprend pour le moment deux modèles.

D’un côté, le MI455X, doté de 432 Go de HBM4 (23,3 To/s de bande passante théorique) et annoncé à 20 Pflops en FP8 (sparse). Comme souvent avec ces puces, AMD n’a pas officialisé de TDP (à titre indicatif Vera Rubin avoisine les 2000 W).

De l’autre, le MI430X, pourvu de la même quantité de DRAM, mais positionné sur la convergence IA/HPC, avec une performance théorique de 288 Tflops en FP64. Disponibilité prévue pour 2027, avec en ligne de mire les AI (giga)factories. Le supercalculateur Alice Recoque en embarquera.

Helios AI ou la promesse de racks exaflopiques pour l’inférence FP8

Les EPYC Venice et les Instinct MI455X sont – avec les DPU/NIC Pensando – la matière première des racks Helios AI. Au menu, jusqu’à 72 GPU, 18 CPU et 31 To de mémoire HBM4 (1,7 Po/s). Puissance maximale théorique : 1,4 Eflops en FP8 (format numérique souvent utilisé en production pour l’inférence).

Les racks Helios AI utilisent le nouveau standard ORW (Open Rack Wide) de l’Open Compute Project. Les livraisons doivent démarrer ce trimestre. Bull, HPE, Lenovo et Supermicro, entre autres, fourniront des systèmes.

Ryzen AI Embedded : des P100 aux X100, un TDP doublé

Pour la robotique et plus globalement l’IA « physique », AMD dégaine les cartes Kria AI. Elles reposent sur la dernière génération des processeurs Ryzen AI Embedded (X100).

Ces derniers associent CPU (8 à 16 cœurs Zen 5), iGPU (32 ou 40 unités de calcul) et NPU (50 TOPS), pour un TDP de 55 W (contre 28 W pour la quasi-totalité des P100). Capacité maximale de la mémoire unifiée : 128 Go (273 Go/s en LPDDR5X-8533 sur bus 256 bits).

La production de masse des cartes Kria AI est attendue au T4 2026. Avec, comme partenaires, Arbor, Congatec, iBase, IEI, Sapphire et Seavo.

AMD prévoit une solution commune avec Cerebras pour cette année

À la même échéance, OpenAI entend mettre en service des racks Helios AI. Ce sera la première phase du déploiement de 6 GW annoncé en octobre 2025.

Aux dernières nouvelles, Meta a commencé à tester ces mêmes racks et à valider les EPYC Venice.

AMD travaille aussi avec Cerebras. Il s’engage à unifier ses puces avec les racks Helios AI en un « système d’inférence désagrégé ». Une solution commune devrait sortir d’ici à fin 2026, initialement au sein de l’offre Cerebras Cloud.

À consulter en complément :

Le datacenter IA, trame idéale pour le premier CPU d’Arm
Après la DRAM, le spectre d’une pénurie de CPU
Meta va-t-il devenir un néocloud ?
IaaS, inférence, bureautique… Microsoft rend son cloud un peu plus « local »
D’AWS à GCP, comment l’IA de Slack est devenue multicloud

Illustrations © AMD

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Cette semaine, OpenAI a révélé que ses propres modèles d’IA, dans le cadre d’une évaluation interne de leurs capacités, s’étaient échappés de leur environnement isolé (sandbox) et avaient mené une intrusion non autorisée sur Hugging Face.

La réaction a été immédiate et prévisible : une IA « devenue incontrôlable », une machine qui « s’est libérée », une cyberattaque autonome sans précédent. Avant d’accepter cette interprétation, il convient de se demander ce que l’agent a réellement fait.

Cet agent a exploité une vulnérabilité zero-day dans un proxy de registre de packages pour sortir de son environnement isolé. Il a élevé ses privilèges et s’est déplacé latéralement jusqu’à atteindre un nœud disposant d’un accès à Internet. Il a ensuite utilisé un jeu de données malveillant pour déclencher une exécution de code à distance via des chargeurs non sécurisés et une injection de modèles. Et enfin, l’agent a volé des identifiants puis s’est déplacé de nouveau.

Chacune de ces techniques porte un nom, possède un historique et dispose de mécanismes de défense bien documentés. Aucune ne constitue une avancée majeure dans les techniques offensives.

Cela correspond à ce que révèle le rapport Cybersecurity Assessment 2026 de Bitdefender, fondé sur les réponses de 1 200 professionnels de l’IT et de la cybersécurité, quant à la perception des praticiens. Interrogés sur la nature des menaces liées à l’IA, la réponse la plus fréquente (29,8 %) décrit l’IA comme « un multiplicateur de force pour l’ensemble de la chaîne d’attaque actuelle », tandis que seuls 25,7 % la considèrent comme une menace technique révolutionnaire produisant de véritables attaques nativement conçues par l’IA.

Ceux qui sont sur le terrain ne s’y trompent pas. L’IA a relevé le niveau minimal des attaquants, pas leur plafond.

Je l’ai déjà affirmé à propos des malwares générés par l’IA, et cet incident confirme cette analyse plutôt que de la remettre en cause. La menace est bien réelle. Elle n’a simplement rien de magique.

Ce que démontre l’incident Hugging Face, ce n’est pas une sophistication supérieure, mais une orchestration infatigable : un opérateur capable d’enchaîner une douzaine d’étapes ordinaires, à la vitesse de la machine, sans fatigue et sans intervention humaine.

Cette distinction est essentielle pour organiser sa défense. Si vous pensez faire face à une arme révolutionnaire, vous attendez une contre-mesure révolutionnaire. Si vous comprenez que vous faites face aux mêmes techniques exécutées sans relâche, vous savez déjà quoi faire et nos données montrent que la plupart des organisations ne le font pas.

Notre équipe Bitdefender Labs a analysé plus de 700 000 incidents et constaté que 84 % des attaques majeures reposent sur des techniques de Living off the Land : l’utilisation d’outils légitimes comme PowerShell, WMI ou RDP qui ne déclenchent jamais une détection par signature. Pourtant, seuls 20,5 % des professionnels de la cybersécurité considèrent ce sujet comme l’une de leurs trois principales préoccupations. Cet écart de 63,5 points constitue le plus important décalage mis en évidence dans notre rapport, et l’intrusion chez Hugging Face s’y inscrit pleinement. Une fois à l’intérieur, l’agent a utilisé les ressources légitimes du système comme n’importe quel attaquant humain.

Il existe toutefois une nuance que je ne chercherai pas à dissimuler, car elle fait partie de la réalité. Notre rapport soulignait que l’apocalypse des cyberattaques pilotées par l’IA, tant redoutée, ne s’était pas matérialisée.

Cet incident constitue le premier élément sérieux venant nuancer cette conclusion. Le plafond de sophistication n’a pas changé, mais celui de l’autonomie et du passage à l’échelle, lui, vient de progresser. Une intrusion menée de bout en bout sans opérateur humain représente bel et bien une nouvelle dimension, et 34 % de nos répondants identifient déjà l’orchestration des attaques par l’IA et les déplacements latéraux adaptatifs comme une menace en progression.

Nous devons prendre cette évolution au sérieux, sans pour autant la présenter comme ce qu’elle n’est pas.

La bonne réponse n’est ni la panique ni le déni mais réside dans l’architecture. Une détection fondée sur les signatures ne peut pas identifier un attaquant qui utilise vos propres outils d’administration, qu’il s’agisse d’une personne ou d’un processus.

Une conformité réduite à une logique d’audit, ce que 56 % de nos répondants reconnaissent être principalement un exercice de conformité, ne peut pas arrêter une attaque qu’elle n’a jamais été conçue pour modéliser. Ce qui fonctionne, c’est une approche de sécurité privilégiant la prévention afin de réduire dès le départ la surface de manœuvre de l’attaquant, associée à une défense fondée sur les comportements, capable d’identifier les schémas malveillants quel que soit l’outil utilisé pour les produire.

Le mot le plus marquant de l’incident de cette semaine est « autonome ». Le plus important est pourtant que tout ce que cette autonomie a accompli relevait de techniques ordinaires. Défendez-vous sans relâche contre l’ordinaire et l’autonomie n’aura plus nulle part où aller.

* Martin Zugec est Technical Solutions Director chez Bitdefender

Photo : © DR

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Ces sanctions interviennent après une enquête ouverte le 25 mars 2024, faisant suite à la désignation de Google comme "gatekeeper" pour son moteur de recherche en septembre 2023. La Commission a notifié ses conclusions préliminaires à Google le 19 mars 2025, avant que l'entreprise ne réponde par écrit aux griefs retenus contre elle.

Dans son communiqué, la Commission reconnaît toutefois certains efforts engagés par Google. L'entreprise a proposé et commencé à tester des changements dans la présentation de ses services gratuits (shopping, hôtels, vols) ainsi que de ses annonces shopping et contenus liés au sport, comme les résultats sportifs.

AI Overviews, AI Mode et Google Play

Des discussions se poursuivent également sur l'application de ces principes aux fonctionnalités AI Overviews et AI Mode. Sur le volet Google Play, des modifications des conditions d'orientation des utilisateurs ont déjà été déployées et seront évaluées à l'aune de la décision rendue aujourd'hui.

Teresa Ribera, vice-présidente exécutive pour une Transition propre, juste et compétitive, a souligné que les meilleurs produits devaient s'imposer par leur qualité, et non par leur appartenance au groupe qui exploite le moteur de recherche. Henna Virkkunen, vice-présidente exécutive pour la Souveraineté technologique, la Sécurité et la Démocratie, a de son côté rappelé que ces décisions confirment la détermination de la Commission à faire appliquer le DMA pour protéger les entreprises et l'innovation dans l'économie numérique.

L’article "Bruxelles sanctionne Google à hauteur de 890 millions d’euros pour non-respect du DMA" a été publié sur le site Abondance.

Issy-les-Moulineaux – Bastien Riquet, chômeur de 39 ans, a perdu goût à la vie depuis plusieurs mois. Après plusieurs tentatives de suicide abandonnées au dernier moment, Bastien a trouvé un moyen simple et efficace de mettre fin à ses jours, et sans effort : dire qu’il détient des informations brûlantes sur l’affaire Epstein. « J’ai vu que toutes les personnalités liées à l’affaire mourraient mystérieusement, alors pourquoi pas moi ? Parce que se suicider demande en réalité pas mal de préparation : acheter des médicaments, trouver une musique triste pas trop cliché, écrire une lettre d’adieu… Flemme. Donc là, je sais qu’en disant partout que j’ai des infos compromettantes sur Jeffrey  Epstein, on va me retrouver mort dans quelques semaines. Pratique non ? »

Une stratégie audacieuse mais qui semble porter ses fruits. Depuis que Bastien a pris cette décision, une berline stationne en permanence devant chez lui, abritant quatre hommes habillés en noir. Interrogés, ces hommes déclarent juste que « l’emplacement est sympa, c’est rare une belle place de parking comme ça. Issy-les-Moulineaux est une super belle ville ». Bastien Riquet, quant à lui, se dit confiant et a pensé à faciliter les choses pour ceux qui le suicideront : « J’ai laissé les clés de chez moi sous le paillasson. J’ai hâte qu’ils me fassent la surprise… En attendant j’ai encore posté sur X que je vais « tout balancer et que les complices d’Epstein vont tomber un par un ». Maintenant, une deuxième voiture me suit partout où je vais. Ils prennent leur temps, mais c’est gage de qualité. » Nous reprendrons des nouvelles de Bastien chaque mois pour connaître l’avancée de son projet.

L’article Trop fainéant pour se suicider lui-même, il dit qu’il sait des choses sur l’affaire Epstein est apparu en premier sur Le Gorafi.fr Gorafi News Network.

Issy-les-Moulineaux – Bastien Riquet, chômeur de 39 ans, a perdu goût à la vie depuis plusieurs mois. Après plusieurs tentatives de suicide abandonnées au dernier moment, Bastien a trouvé un moyen simple et efficace de mettre fin à ses jours, et sans effort : dire qu’il détient des informations brûlantes sur l’affaire Epstein. « J’ai vu que toutes les personnalités liées à l’affaire mourraient mystérieusement, alors pourquoi pas moi ? Parce que se suicider demande en réalité pas mal de préparation : acheter des médicaments, trouver une musique triste pas trop cliché, écrire une lettre d’adieu… Flemme. Donc là, je sais qu’en disant partout que j’ai des infos compromettantes sur Jeffrey  Epstein, on va me retrouver mort dans quelques semaines. Pratique non ? »

Une stratégie audacieuse mais qui semble porter ses fruits. Depuis que Bastien a pris cette décision, une berline stationne en permanence devant chez lui, abritant quatre hommes habillés en noir. Interrogés, ces hommes déclarent juste que « l’emplacement est sympa, c’est rare une belle place de parking comme ça. Issy-les-Moulineaux est une super belle ville ». Bastien Riquet, quant à lui, se dit confiant et a pensé à faciliter les choses pour ceux qui le suicideront : « J’ai laissé les clés de chez moi sous le paillasson. J’ai hâte qu’ils me fassent la surprise… En attendant j’ai encore posté sur X que je vais « tout balancer et que les complices d’Epstein vont tomber un par un ». Maintenant, une deuxième voiture me suit partout où je vais. Ils prennent leur temps, mais c’est gage de qualité. » Nous reprendrons des nouvelles de Bastien chaque mois pour connaître l’avancée de son projet.

L’article Trop fainéant pour se suicider lui-même, il dit qu’il sait des choses sur l’affaire Epstein est apparu en premier sur Le Gorafi.fr Gorafi News Network.

Rendez-vous en août pour la sortie de ROCm.ai.

AMD a fixé le rendez-vous à l’occasion de sa conférence Advancing AI. La promesse : de la programmation GPU assistée par IA. Avec, comme principaux leviers, des skills et un système appelé Hyperloom.

AMD met à contribution son serveur Lemonade

Six skills sont pour le moment disponibles. On les retrouve dans les catalogues de plug-in de Claude et de Codex, ainsi que sur la marketplace Cursor.

Deux de ces skills ciblent l’exécution côté client, sur les puces Ryzen AI : Local AI Use et Local AI App Integration.

Local AI Use fait passer la génération d’images ainsi que la synthèse et la reconnaissance vocales par un serveur Lemonade local. Les agents sont invités à l’exploiter, entre autres, lorsque l’utilisateur déclare vouloir économiser des tokens ; ou s’il mentionne des éléments comme OmniRouter, SD-Turbo ou l’inférence NPU.

Local AI App Integration ajoute un mode local aux applications qui utilisent des API cloud, grâce à une version embarquée du serveur Lemonade. Les agents sont censés l’exploiter lorsque l’utilisateur évoque l’IA locale, hors ligne, privée, etc.

Les quatre autres skills ciblent l’exécution côté serveur. Deux d’entre elles créent un endpoint vLLM, respectivement sur les GPU Instinct et sur les CPU EPYC. AMD précise aux agents que la skill Instinct… ne doit pas être utilisée avec les GPU NVIDIA.

Les deux skills restantes sont connectées à Magpie (framework d’évaluation de noyaux GPU) et TraceLens (bibliothèque Python pour l’analyse de workflows d’inférence et d’entraînement).

5 autres skills dans les cartons

Quatre skills cross-stack sont en roadmap :

• ROCm Doctor
  Diagnostic des échecs ROCm, PyTorch et llama.cpp sur les GPU AMD à partir d’une liste de mauvaises configurations
• Hyperloom Kernel Optimizer
  Optimisation automatique de l’inférence sur les GPU AMD
• vLLM Semantic Router
  Paramétrage d’un routeur de requêtes
• HRR Replay Analysis
  Enregistrement, rejeu et analyse des workloads GPU entre accélérateurs Instinct, Radeon et Ryzen

AMD en prépare aussi une sur la partie client : APU Memory Tuner, avec laquelle les agents IA pourront régler la répartition entre mémoire dédiée et mémoire partagée.

Claude Code intégré au cœur du réacteur Hyperloom

On l’aura constaté : plusieurs de ces skills permettent d’exploiter le fameux Hyperloom. Ce système agentique a, sur le papier, un rôle : optimiser les workloads IA pour les GPU AMD (en l’état, MI300X, MI325X et MI355X). Il gère actuellement deux serveurs (SGLang, vLLM) et trois langages (HIP, Triton, FlyDSL).

Au bas de l’édifice se trouve TraceLens. La bibliothèque – agrémentée pour le coup d’une couche agentique – consomme les traces collectées par Magpie, qui s’appuie lui-même sur Intellikit (suite d’outils de profilage à bas niveau).

Cette analyse nourrit la boucle d’optimisation. La brique GEAK (Generating Efficient AI-Centric Kernels) en est le point central, chargée de générer les implémentations. À l’origine, elle optimisait noyau par noyau (« couche kernel ») La dernière version conserve cette option, mais peut aussi optimiser un workload dans son ensemble (« couche système »). Plusieurs modifications architecturales le permettent. En particulier, le remplacement de mini-swe-agent par Claude Code et ses workflows dynamiques. Mais aussi la réutilisation récursive de la couche kernel par la couche système (AMD parle de « conception fractale »). Et l’introduction d’Arbor. Cette méthode favorise l’exploration de l’espace d’optimisation en apportant un système de recherche arborescente qui fait office de mémoire de travail partagée.

Au-delà d’utiliser Claude Code dans le cadre d’Hyperloom, AMD l’exploite pour accélérer le développement de ROCm. Il travaille aussi avec OpenAI autour de Codex, qui « aide déjà à écrire du code Triton » et « progresse » avec Gluon.

À consulter en complément :

LLMD, un serveur d’inférence made in France qui se frotte à vLLM
PC IA : le NPU, emblème d’un marché qui se cherche encore
Jalapeño plutôt que Stargate : OpenAI a revu ses priorités
Meta mise des dizaines de milliards sur les GPU d’AMD
VM cloud : AMD reste dans le match du rapport coût-performance

Illustration principale générée par IA

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